Valentine’s Day is Over-Rated

I feel that Valentine's Day is just another Hallmark-created holiday to fuel the economy. I don’t need a holiday to tell my husband how much I love him. I love him every day. Shouldn't it be the same for the rest of you?

Here’s my take on it.

No, you don’t need a holiday to tell your loved ones how much you love them. You in fact need to tell it to them every single day or any moment you get a chance. However, maybe the deeper meaning of Valentine's day is to take time out to celebrate your love and that's just what my hubby and I will do as always. No need fancy gifts or dinner...just some quiet time alone as we don't get much of those since having kids.

To some Valentine's Day is just a cultural justification to do some PDA (public displays of affection). So why not use the excuse to make out in public, indulge in a great meal and remember to have sex (for those of you who need a reminder?).

But I still feel that it’s become too commercialized.

The perfect card. The perfect gift. The perfect date….

Isn't there enough pressure in relationships without having to live up to some romantic ideal on Valentine's Day?

Am I celebrating? No, not really because we tell each other we love each other every day. And what do we get each other when we've got everything!?

So as I had mentioned earlier, since we spend every second we are not working with our kids...we decided to use this day to have a quiet dinner together. (Thanks mum for offering to watch the kids) And yes, we did send each other a greeting via Facebook so we are up to par with the Valentine’s Day cultural justification of PDS (public displays of affection). Ha.

I can’t stress enough how in recent decades Valentine's Day has become increasingly commercialized. TV and magazine ads depict models with perfect bodies and perfect teeth giving each other chocolates, jewellery and back rubs. The message is: "Your love is measured by what you buy."

Modern relationships are difficult enough without having to stage a major performance on a designated day. We agonize over the greeting card racks, hoping to choose a perfect card and not to mention the gift. This is not what love is all about. Love is much more complex than flowers and chocolates.

Long-term satisfaction in relationships does not depend on material wealth or success. Nor does it depend on physical attractiveness. That is how I feel anyway.

So if you wish, buy that card or those flowers and gift, but keep in mind that this is not a maker or breaker of a relationship. Better yet, why not show your partner love and consideration on the other 364 days in the year. It will make a greater impact than doing so according to the calendar.

Agree?

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In the evening, my hubby and I had a quick dinner at Hot Tomato at Bedok Mall. We had Prime Rib steaks and Tiramisu. It was almost like chew and screw as we left for home straight after dinner. How unromantic right? Haha.

Well, we didn't have much of a choice as I had to rush home to bake and prepare for my daughter’s birthday party tomorrow.

And yes, I baked and decorated and prepared till 2am.

Another early and long day tomorrow…..