Pray for Our Priests

We pray for our families, our friends, our loved ones, the sick, the suffering and those who are going through difficult times. We pray for our Church, our Pope, our bishops and our priests. But I wonder how often we genuinely stop to pray for our priests, not simply as part of our usual prayers, but with the awareness that they too might be struggling, hurting or silently fighting battles that we know nothing about.

The recent news of a Catholic priest who took his own life following a severe mental health breakdown has been particularly heartbreaking. The Archdiocese of Cebu confirmed in November 2025 that Rev. Fr. Decoroso Olmilla had died by suicide following a collapse in his mental health. It was a tragic reminder that even those who dedicate their lives to serving God and His people are not immune to suffering.

It makes me wonder how many people stopped to think about what he might have been going through before reaching that point. How much pain must someone be carrying to feel that they have nowhere left to turn? How many silent cries for help might have gone unnoticed?

I am not writing this to pass judgement, speculate about his circumstances or question his faith. Quite the opposite. I am writing because I believe this tragedy should make us pause and reflect on how we treat, support and care for our priests.

I personally know of priests who have struggled with depression. Yes, priests. Men who celebrate Mass, administer the sacraments, listen to our problems, offer spiritual guidance and remind us to trust in God. Men who spend their days ministering to others while sometimes having to deal with their own emotional and mental struggles.

And perhaps this is something we do not talk about enough.

Somehow, we have developed this perception that because priests have answered God's calling, they should always be strong, patient, forgiving, understanding and spiritually grounded. We expect them to have the answers, to be available whenever we need them and to offer comfort regardless of what might be happening in their own lives.

We forget that they are human beings too.

They get tired. They get discouraged. They experience disappointment, loneliness, sadness and anxiety. They can feel overwhelmed, unappreciated and even question whether they are doing enough. They can have days when they simply do not feel okay.

And just because someone wears a Roman collar does not mean they are somehow protected from depression, emotional exhaustion or mental health struggles.

Think about it for a moment. A priest spends much of his life listening to other people's problems. He hears about broken marriages, family conflicts, financial difficulties, illness, grief, personal struggles and the many burdens people carry. He is often the person others turn to when they need someone to listen.

But who does he turn to when he needs someone to listen?

Who checks in on him after a particularly difficult day? Who notices when he seems quieter than usual? Who asks him how he is doing and genuinely wants to hear the answer?

We sometimes forget that priests can be among the loneliest people in our communities. They may be surrounded by parishioners every weekend, greeting people after Mass, attending meetings and participating in parish activities, yet still experience loneliness. Being surrounded by people is not necessarily the same as having someone you can confide in.

There is also the pressure that comes with their vocation. They are expected to be examples of faith, to lead their communities, to make difficult decisions and to handle criticism, sometimes from the very people they are trying to serve.

And let us be honest. We parishioners are not always the easiest people to deal with!

We can be quick to criticize a priest because we do not agree with his homily, his decisions, the way he conducts Mass or how he manages parish matters. We sometimes forget that he is doing his best with the responsibilities entrusted to him. We expect compassion and understanding from our priests, but are we always willing to extend the same compassion and understanding to them?

I am not saying priests should never be held accountable. They should. They are entrusted with an important responsibility within our Church. But accountability and compassion are not mutually exclusive. We can disagree with someone without being unkind. We can raise concerns without tearing someone down. And we can recognize that priests are imperfect human beings without diminishing the importance of their vocation.

I also think we need to change the way we look at mental health within the Church. Depression is not a sign of weak faith. Struggling emotionally does not mean someone has stopped trusting God. And seeking professional help does not make someone less spiritual.

Prayer is important, but prayer should never be used as a substitute for appropriate medical or psychological support. Sometimes, the very help God provides comes through a doctor, a counsellor, a psychologist or a trusted friend who is willing to sit down and listen.

I recently came across the testimony of a Spanish priest who spoke openly about his own battle with depression and suicidal thoughts. He shared how professional psychological help had made a difference in his life. His testimony was a reminder that priests need safe spaces where they can acknowledge their struggles without feeling that doing so makes them any less worthy of their calling.

Perhaps we need to create more of those spaces within our Church. Places where priests can speak honestly, seek help and be supported without fear of judgement or expectations that they must always have everything together.

But beyond the structures and support systems, I believe there is something every one of us can do.

Pray for our priests.

Not just when we hear that a priest is unwell, when a tragedy happens or when our parish is going through a difficult period. Make it a regular part of our prayers. Remember them during our daily prayers, offer a decade of the Rosary for them, include them in our intentions during Mass and ask God to give them the strength, wisdom and grace they need to carry out their vocation.

And perhaps, every now and then, do something as simple as asking our parish priest how he is doing. Not because we need something from him, not because we want to discuss a parish matter, but simply because we care.

A kind word, a genuine conversation, a little encouragement or even a simple thank you can mean more than we realize.

When was the last time we thanked our priest for celebrating Mass? For hearing our confessions? For visiting the sick? For praying with families who have lost loved ones? For being there during some of the most difficult and significant moments in people's lives?

We often take these things for granted because we have become accustomed to seeing our priests fulfil these responsibilities. But perhaps we should remind ourselves that what they do is not always easy, and that they too need encouragement.

I am not suggesting that we put priests on pedestals or treat them as extraordinary people who cannot make mistakes. In fact, I believe we should do the opposite. We should allow ourselves to see their humanity. To recognize that behind the vestments, the collar and the responsibilities of the priesthood is a person who needs friendship, understanding, rest and love.

Jesus Himself took time away from the crowds to pray and rest. Even He recognized the importance of withdrawing from the demands around Him. Perhaps we should remember that our priests need that space too.

As Catholics, we often talk about being a community, about looking after one another and carrying each other's burdens. Well, our priests are part of that community too. They should never feel that they have to carry everything alone.

I cannot help thinking that if our priests spend so much of their lives praying for us, interceding for us and asking God to guide us through our struggles, why can't we make it a point to pray for them too?

Let us pray for their physical health, their emotional well-being and their spiritual strength. Let us pray for those who are happy and thriving, but especially for those who are quietly struggling. Let us pray for those who feel overwhelmed, those who are discouraged, those who are lonely and those who may be questioning whether they can continue.

And let us remember those who may be suffering in silence, because sometimes the people who appear to be holding everyone else together are the ones who desperately need someone to hold them together too.

Our priests do not need us to pretend they are perfect. They need us to remember they are human.

So the next time we attend Mass, let us not only pray for ourselves and our intentions. Let us remember the man standing at the altar.

Pray for our priests. Be kind to our priests. Encourage our priests. Look out for our priests.

And if you know a priest who might be going through a difficult time, do not simply assume that he is okay because he continues to celebrate Mass and fulfil his duties.

Reach out. Ask. Listen. Be there.

Because sometimes, the person who spends his life reminding everyone else that God is always there for them needs someone to remind him that he is not alone either.

Dear Lord, bless our priests. Strengthen them when they are weary, comfort them when they are hurting, give them hope when they feel discouraged and surround them with people who will love, support and encourage them. When they find it difficult to pray, may they know that others are praying for them. When they feel alone, remind them that they are never forgotten by You. Amen.

Sunday Reflection: Walk in Wisdom

Sunday Reflection: Walk in Wisdom

32nd Sunday in Ordinary Time | 8 November 2026

There is something about today's readings that speaks to where I am in my faith journey. Perhaps because I am still learning, still discovering, and still trying to understand what it truly means to walk with God. But one thing I am beginning to realize is that faith is not something we acquire once and then simply have. It is something we need to nurture, practice and grow in every single day.

Today's readings remind me that wisdom is not simply about being knowledgeable or knowing what is right and wrong. It is about allowing God to guide our thoughts, our decisions, our words and, most importantly, our actions.

Wisdom 6:12-16 – Wisdom is found by those who seek her

One line that particularly stood out to me was, "Be on the alert for her and anxiety will quickly leave you." (Wisdom 6:15)

I love this because it reminds me that wisdom is not something distant or reserved for a select few. It is available to those who genuinely seek it.

I have always believed that we never stop learning. Whether it is in our personal lives, our work, our relationships or our faith, there is always something new to discover. But lately, I have been learning that there is a difference between gaining knowledge and gaining wisdom.

Knowledge tells us what we know. Wisdom helps us understand what to do with that knowledge.

Sometimes, we are so caught up with trying to find answers, making decisions, worrying about what tomorrow holds or figuring out why certain things happen in our lives. I know I can be guilty of overthinking too! But perhaps what God is reminding me today is to slow down, pray, listen and allow Him to lead.

I am also reminded of how much my own faith journey has changed over the past few months. There was a time when I didn't even own a Bible, let alone know how to open it and look up a particular Scripture. Today, I find myself reading the Word, reflecting on it and wanting to understand Catholic teachings more deeply.

I still have so much to learn, but I am no longer standing still. And that, in itself, is something I am grateful for.

1 Thessalonians 4:13-18 – Do not grieve without hope

This second reading touches on something much deeper. Loss, death and the hope of eternal life.

St Paul reminds us that we should not grieve like those who have no hope because we believe that Jesus died and rose again.

The words that stood out to me were, "So we shall stay with the Lord for ever." (1 Thessalonians 4:17)

I think we sometimes become so consumed by our lives here on earth that we forget there is something much greater beyond what we can see.

Losing someone we love is never easy. Grief doesn't simply disappear, and missing someone doesn't mean we have little faith. We are human, after all. We love, we become attached, we make memories and we feel the emptiness when someone is no longer physically with us.

But our faith gives us something to hold on to. It reminds us that death is not the end of the story.

I find comfort in knowing that our hope is rooted in the resurrection of Jesus. We may not understand everything about what lies ahead, but we can trust in His promise.

Perhaps this is also a reminder to appreciate the people God has placed in our lives while we have the opportunity to love them, spend time with them and make memories together.

And when we lose someone, may we remember them with love, pray for them and hold on to the hope that we will one day be reunited in Christ.

Matthew 25:1-13 – The Wise and Foolish Bridesmaids

This Gospel is perhaps the one that gives me the most to think about today.

Jesus tells the parable of the ten bridesmaids. Five were sensible and brought extra oil for their lamps, while the other five were foolish and did not prepare.

When the bridegroom was delayed, all ten became tired and fell asleep. But when the announcement came that he had arrived, only those who had prepared themselves had enough oil to keep their lamps burning.

Jesus ends with this important reminder, "So stay awake, because you do not know either the day or the hour." (Matthew 25:13)

What does this mean to me?

It reminds me that faith cannot be something we only turn to when we need help, when life becomes difficult or when we are desperately asking God for something.

We cannot expect to build a relationship with God overnight, especially when we have spent so much of our lives putting other things first.

Faith requires preparation. It requires commitment. It requires us to make time for God, even when life gets busy.

And goodness knows how busy life can get!

Between work, deadlines, family responsibilities, personal projects and all the things I want to accomplish, finding quiet time for prayer and Scripture is not always easy. There are days when I am tired, distracted or simply have too much on my mind.

But today's Gospel makes me think about the importance of keeping my lamp burning.

The oil in our lamps represents something that cannot simply be borrowed from someone else. Other people can encourage us, pray with us, share their experiences and inspire us, but nobody can build our personal relationship with God on our behalf.

I cannot rely on someone else's faith to sustain mine. I have to nurture my own.

I also think there is an important lesson here about not taking God's presence for granted. We often say we will pray more tomorrow, read the Bible when we have more time, attend Mass when things are less hectic or work on becoming better versions of ourselves when life settles down.

But what if tomorrow doesn't come as we expect?

Perhaps the message is not to live in fear of the unknown, but to live with intention. To be ready, not because we know when the Lord will come, but because we are choosing to walk with Him today.

And keeping our lamps burning doesn't necessarily mean doing extraordinary things. Sometimes it is in the little things. Being more patient with someone, choosing forgiveness instead of resentment, offering help without expecting anything in return, saying a prayer for someone who is struggling or simply making time to sit quietly with God.

These little things matter too.

My Personal Takeaway

Keep Your Lamp Burning

If there is one message I am taking away from today's Mass, it is this, Don't wait until you need God to start building a relationship with Him.

Seek wisdom. Make time for prayer. Read His Word. Learn to listen. Put your faith into action.

I am not a perfect Catholic, and I certainly don't have all the answers. I am still learning about the Church, its history, its teachings and the sacraments. There are things I am only beginning to understand, and there are probably many more things I will question and discover along the way.

But I think that is part of the journey.

I don't want my faith to be something that exists only on Sundays when I attend Mass. I want it to be part of how I live, how I treat people, how I make decisions and how I face life's challenges.

I want to be someone who doesn't just talk about faith but actually lives it.

And perhaps that is what walking in wisdom is all about. Recognizing that God is always inviting us closer to Him, but we have to be willing to respond.

We cannot keep putting off our relationship with God and assume there will always be another opportunity.

So, today, I am reminding myself to keep my lamp burning. Even on days when I feel tired. Even when life gets overwhelming. Even when I don't understand what God is doing or where He is leading me.

Because I may not know what tomorrow holds, but I know who holds my tomorrow.

Reflection: How can I keep my faith alive and share God's love today?

I can keep my faith alive by making God part of my everyday life, not just on Sundays or when I need Him. By spending time in prayer, reading His Word, learning more about my faith and trusting Him even when I don't understand everything. I can share His love through the little things too: being kinder, more patient, forgiving, lending a listening ear and helping someone who needs it. I am still learning and growing in my faith, but I want my actions to reflect what I believe. After all, faith isn't just about what we say; it's about how we live. 

 

Movie Recommendation: Crazy Rich Asians (2018)

 

Some movies are enjoyable because they make us laugh, some because they take us on an emotional journey, and then there are those that make us appreciate a little more of who we are and where we come from. Crazy Rich Asians is one of those movies for me.

I believe this is probably the third time I have watched this movie, but I have to say that this time felt a little different. It was not simply about watching a romantic comedy, enjoying the beautiful locations, the glamour, the humour or the complicated family relationships. This time, it carried a little more meaning because I watched it together with someone who is so dear to my heart. Being able to share a little piece of where I come from, our culture and part of my heritage with them made the experience much more special.

For those who have not watched it, Crazy Rich Asians is a 2018 romantic comedy directed by Jon M. Chu and based on the bestselling novel by Kevin Kwan. The story follows Rachel Chu, an American born Chinese woman who travels to Singapore with her boyfriend, Nick Young, for his best friend's wedding. What Rachel does not know is that Nick comes from one of Singapore's wealthiest and most influential families. Suddenly, what should have been a lovely trip to meet his family turns into an eye opening experience involving wealth, family expectations, traditions, social status and, of course, a fair amount of drama.

And trust me, there is plenty of drama!

One of the things I enjoy most about this movie is how Singapore is presented to the world. From the stunning Marina Bay skyline to the familiar streets, beautiful architecture, local food and the unmistakable atmosphere of our little island, there is something quite wonderful about seeing Singapore featured so prominently in an international Hollywood production.

As a Singaporean, I cannot help but feel a little proud watching it. We may be a small country, but we certainly have a lot to offer. Our multicultural society, our food, our traditions and the different communities that make up our identity are all part of what makes Singapore special.

Of course, the movie takes a rather glamorous approach to Singapore. It showcases the extravagant lifestyles of the ultra wealthy, magnificent mansions, designer fashion, private jets and lavish celebrations. Most Singaporeans are certainly not living that kind of life, myself included! But beyond all the glitz and glamour, I think the movie does a lovely job of introducing audiences to some aspects of Asian culture and the importance of family, heritage and tradition.

And that is something I could relate to.

There is a particular beauty in seeing familiar cultural references brought to life on the big screen. The food, the conversations, the family dynamics, the expectations placed on children and the importance of making a good impression when meeting relatives. Some of these things might seem amusing to people who did not grow up in an Asian household, but to many of us, they are not entirely unfamiliar.

Family is a big part of Asian culture. Respect for our elders, maintaining family traditions, protecting the family name and sometimes putting family expectations before our own happiness are things that many of us have grown up understanding. We may not always agree with these expectations, and certainly not everything should be accepted simply because it is tradition, but they are part of the cultural environment that shapes many of us.

This is particularly evident in the relationship between Nick and his mother, Eleanor Young, played brilliantly by Michelle Yeoh. Eleanor is a strong, traditional woman who believes deeply in family responsibility and protecting everything her family has built. She is not necessarily an easy character to like throughout the movie, but I think there is more to her than simply being an overbearing mother who disapproves of her son's girlfriend.

Her character represents a generation that believes sacrifice, duty and family reputation are important. She has her own understanding of what it means to love and protect her family, even when her methods may be difficult to accept. It also raises an interesting question about how much of ourselves we should be willing to sacrifice to meet the expectations of others.

Rachel, on the other hand, represents a different perspective. She is independent, intelligent and comfortable with who she is. She does not come from the same privileged background as Nick, but she has her own achievements, values and sense of self worth. What I particularly appreciate about her character is that she does not allow the wealth and status surrounding Nick's family to define her.

There is a lovely message here. Your worth is not determined by how much money you have, the family you come from, the designer labels you wear or the circles you move in. What matters is who you are as a person.

Another character I absolutely enjoyed was Peik Lin, played by Awkwafina. She brings so much humour and personality to the movie. Her reactions, expressions and hilarious observations provide some much needed comic relief, especially when Rachel finds herself navigating a world she never knew existed. Every good movie needs a character who makes you laugh, and Peik Lin certainly delivers!

Then there is the wedding scene. Honestly, it is one of the most beautiful wedding sequences I have seen in a romantic comedy. The setting, the music, the flowers and the overall atmosphere are simply breathtaking. It is extravagant without losing the emotional warmth of the occasion. It also reminds us that weddings in many Asian cultures are not just about two people getting married. They are often celebrations involving two families, generations of traditions and a whole community of people coming together.

But beyond the romance and comedy, what stayed with me this time was the opportunity to share something personal with people I care about.

Sometimes we forget that the people closest to us may not necessarily know everything about our background, our upbringing or the little things that have shaped our lives. Sharing a movie like this may seem like such a simple thing, but for me, it was a lovely way of opening a little window into my world. It gave me the opportunity to share some of the culture, humour, traditions and familiar experiences that are part of my heritage.

Having lived overseas for ten years before returning to Singapore, I have come to appreciate our little island in ways that perhaps I did not always fully recognize when I was younger. Sometimes it takes stepping away from somewhere to realize just how much it means to you. Singapore is home, and there are so many things about our culture that I am proud of.

Watching this movie with people who are dear to my heart made me appreciate that sharing our backgrounds is also a way of sharing ourselves. It is not just about showing someone where we come from geographically. It is about allowing them to understand a little more about our experiences, our values and the things that have helped shape who we are today.

And perhaps that is why this third viewing felt more meaningful than the previous two.

I also love that the movie explores the idea of belonging. Rachel finds herself in a world where people are quick to judge her because she does not fit their expectations. Yet, throughout the story, she learns that she does not need to become someone else to be accepted. She can appreciate Nick's family and their traditions without losing her own identity.

I think that is an important reminder for all of us. We can embrace where we come from while still being our own person. We can respect traditions without allowing them to dictate every decision we make. And we can love someone without needing to prove that we are worthy of their world.

At the end of the day, Crazy Rich Asians is a romantic comedy, so naturally, there is a happy ending, a little drama, plenty of beautiful people and enough luxury to make most of us wonder whether we have been living on the wrong side of Singapore!

But beneath all that extravagance is a story about love, family, identity, acceptance and knowing your own worth.

Would I recommend it? Absolutely!

Even if you have watched it before, I think it is worth revisiting. Sometimes we watch the same movie at different stages of our lives and walk away with something completely different. Our circumstances change, our relationships evolve and the people we share those moments with can make an ordinary experience feel extraordinary.

For me, this viewing was not just about enjoying a good movie. It was about sharing a little piece of Singapore, celebrating part of my heritage and creating another lovely memory with people who mean so much to me.

And if there is one thing I took away from watching it again, it is this: Never be embarrassed by where you come from, never underestimate the beauty of your own heritage and never feel that you have to be someone else to belong.

We all have a story, and our roots are very much part of that story.

My verdict: A definite recommendation! Beautifully filmed, entertaining, funny, romantic and sprinkled with just the right amount of family drama. But this time, it was the personal meaning behind the movie that made it even more special.

Sometimes, it is not just the movie we remember. It is who we watched it with and what we got to share along the way.

Let Them Feel the Void When You Walk Away

There comes a point in your professional journey when you realize that not everyone will appreciate your value while you are around. Some people become so accustomed to your presence, your contributions, your reliability, and your ability to get things done that they begin to see these qualities as ordinary. They forget that what you bring to the table is not something everyone can offer. They assume you will always be there, always willing to help, always ready to go the extra mile, and always available to make things work.

Until one day, you decide you have had enough.

You walk away from the business project, the partnership, or the company, and suddenly, the space you once occupied is no longer filled. The person who used to take responsibility, solve problems, offer ideas, anticipate needs, and keep things moving is no longer there. That is when the reality of your contribution may finally become clear.

Sometimes, people do not recognize what they have until they experience what it is like without it.

I have always believed that professionalism is more than simply showing up and completing a list of tasks. It is about the attitude you bring to your work, the standards you uphold, the commitment you make, and the pride you take in doing things properly. When I commit myself to a project, I do not approach it with the intention of doing the bare minimum. I want to contribute meaningfully, deliver quality work, and know that I have given my best.

That is simply how I am wired.

I take my responsibilities seriously because I understand that my work represents me. My name, my reputation, and my integrity are attached to what I deliver. I do not believe in making promises I cannot keep, and I certainly do not believe in treating other people's trust as something insignificant. When someone gives me an opportunity, I want to make that decision worthwhile.

However, there is a difference between being committed to your work and allowing people to take your commitment for granted.

Unfortunately, some people only see the finished product. They see the completed project, the organized processes, the resolved problems, the timely responses, and the results. What they do not always see is the thought, effort, experience, and attention to detail that went into making everything happen. When things run smoothly, they assume that everything is easy. They may not realize that someone has been working behind the scenes to ensure that the wheels keep turning.

It is rather interesting how invisible certain contributions can become when they are consistently delivered.

When you are dependable, people expect you to be dependable. When you are efficient, people expect efficiency. When you are the person who finds solutions instead of creating more problems, others may begin to assume that you will always find a way to fix whatever goes wrong.

Over time, appreciation can quietly turn into expectation.

And when expectation is no longer accompanied by respect, communication, or mutual understanding, even the most dedicated professional can reach a breaking point.

I have learned that being good at what you do does not mean you must remain in every situation you enter. Experience teaches you that not every business relationship is the right one, not every partnership deserves to continue, and not every opportunity is worth the personal cost of holding on to it.

There is nothing wrong with recognizing that a situation is no longer working for you.

There is also nothing wrong with deciding that your time, skills, and energy would be better invested elsewhere.

Walking away is not necessarily a sign of failure. Sometimes, it is evidence that you have finally learned to recognize your own worth.

Of course, making that decision is not always easy. You may have invested considerable time in a project. You may have believed in its potential, supported the people involved, and genuinely wanted to see it succeed. Perhaps you were excited about what you could accomplish together. You may even have imagined how much the business could grow if everyone worked towards the same vision.

When things do not turn out as expected, disappointment is natural.

However, I have come to understand that the time you have already invested should not be the only reason you continue investing in something that no longer makes sense. Just because you have spent months or years building something does not mean you must spend another month or year trying to make it work.

Your past investment cannot guarantee a worthwhile future.

Sometimes, the most sensible decision is to acknowledge what is happening, learn what you can from the experience, and move forward without allowing guilt to dictate your next step.

And this brings me to something I find particularly interesting.

When you decide to leave a business project or a company, do not make your departure about revenge. Do not waste your energy trying to prove that you were indispensable. Do not spend your days announcing how much better things were when you were involved. You do not need to convince everyone of your value, and you certainly do not need to turn your departure into a performance.

Simply leave professionally.

Complete your responsibilities where appropriate, communicate clearly, respect your commitments, and make your exit with dignity. There is no need to burn bridges just because you have decided that you no longer wish to cross them.

Then allow reality to speak for itself.

If your contribution was genuinely valuable, its absence may become apparent without you having to say a single word. Perhaps certain processes will take longer. Perhaps the quality of work will become inconsistent. Perhaps the person who replaces you will discover that the responsibilities involved require more experience, judgment, and attention than initially understood. Perhaps the business will realize that what appeared to be a straightforward role actually involved considerable knowledge and effort.

Or perhaps things will continue perfectly well without you.

And that is fine too.

The objective is not to make people struggle after you leave. The objective is to understand that you are not obligated to remain somewhere simply to prove that you matter. Your worth does not depend on whether someone else can function without you.

Nevertheless, when your departure exposes a gap that people previously overlooked, let that gap be a natural consequence of your absence rather than something you deliberately create.

There is a significant difference between wanting people to regret losing you and knowing that you contributed something meaningful.

One is driven by ego. The other comes from confidence.

Personally, I would rather be remembered as someone who delivered quality work, maintained professional standards, and treated people with respect than someone who created unnecessary drama on the way out. I want people to remember the value I brought, not the noise I made when I left.

That is the kind of reputation I believe is worth building.

Of course, professionalism must work both ways. A successful business relationship requires more than one person carrying the responsibility. It requires clear communication, realistic expectations, mutual respect, and an understanding that everyone involved has something valuable to contribute.

You cannot build a healthy working relationship when one party is expected to keep giving while the other takes that effort for granted. You cannot expect exceptional results while dismissing the expertise required to achieve them. And you cannot expect someone to remain enthusiastic about a project when their concerns are repeatedly ignored.

People may tolerate such circumstances for a while because they believe in the opportunity, care about the outcome, or genuinely want to make things work. However, patience should never be mistaken for an unlimited willingness to accept anything.

Even the most committed person has boundaries.

When those boundaries are consistently overlooked, a decision that once seemed unthinkable can eventually become the most logical next step.

I also believe there is a lesson here for business owners and leaders. If you have someone on your team who consistently delivers, do not wait until that person resigns before recognizing their contribution. Do not assume that because someone is experienced, capable, and independent, they do not need communication or appreciation. Competent people still want to feel respected. Reliable people still have choices. And the people who make your business easier to run are often the very people you should make an effort to retain.

You do not have to praise someone every day or constantly remind them how important they are. Sometimes, a little consideration, a willingness to listen, and the ability to recognize a job well done can make all the difference.

More importantly, never assume that because someone has stayed for a long time, they will stay forever.

People leave for different reasons. Sometimes the compensation is no longer appropriate. Sometimes the working relationship has changed. Sometimes the vision is no longer shared. And sometimes, after giving a situation every reasonable opportunity to succeed, a person simply realizes that it is time to move on.

By the time that decision is communicated, it may have been a long time coming.

That is why I believe we should never underestimate the quiet decisions people make before they finally walk away. Not everyone will argue, complain, or issue an ultimatum. Some will communicate their concerns and try to resolve them. Others may gradually reach the conclusion that their energy is better spent elsewhere.

When they eventually leave, their decision may appear sudden to everyone else. In reality, it may be the result of many small disappointments that accumulated over time.

And once someone has reached genuine clarity about leaving, persuading them to stay may not be enough. Sometimes, what is needed is a willingness to understand why they wanted to leave in the first place.

At the end of the day, I believe that the strongest professional position you can occupy is one in which you know what you bring to the table without needing constant validation from others.

Know your skills. Know your standards. Know the difference between a challenge that encourages growth and a situation that continuously drains you. Be willing to learn, adapt, and improve, but never believe that you must compromise your integrity to keep an opportunity.

There will always be another project, another partnership, another client, or another chapter waiting to be explored. Not every door that opens is meant to remain open forever. Sometimes, a closed door simply redirects you towards a better use of your time and abilities.

So, if you ever find yourself considering whether to leave a business project or a company, ask yourself an honest question. Are you staying because the opportunity still aligns with your goals, values, and professional standards, or are you staying because you want someone else to recognize your worth?

Those are two very different reasons.

You should never have to sacrifice your peace of mind just to prove that you are valuable. Nor should you remain in a situation simply because you are afraid that walking away will make your contributions easier to forget.

Your work has value. Your experience has value. Your time has value.

And your ability to walk away when necessary has value too.

Let them feel the void, not because you deliberately left a mess behind, but because you consistently brought something meaningful to the table while you were there.

Let them recognize the difference between having someone who simply occupies a position and having someone who genuinely makes a difference.

Let your absence speak through the quality of the work you delivered, the standards you maintained, and the professionalism you demonstrated.

Most importantly, do not spend your next chapter looking backwards, waiting for someone to acknowledge what they lost.

Move forward.

Continue learning. Continue building. Continue becoming better at what you do. Invest your time in people who respect your contribution and opportunities that allow you to grow. Keep your standards high, your intentions honest, and your reputation intact.

Because the ultimate victory is not watching someone struggle after you leave.

It is knowing that you had the courage to leave when necessary, the confidence to recognize your own worth, and the freedom to choose what comes next.

Sometimes, people only understand the value of your presence when they experience your absence.

But by the time they finally feel the void, you should already be too busy building something better to worry about whether they have noticed.

All Saints Day: Learning to Live with a Heart That Reflects God's Love

Today, 1 November, we celebrate the Solemnity of All Saints, a special day in the Catholic Church when we honour all the saints, both those we know by name and the countless others whose names may never be known to us. As I attended Mass today, I found myself reflecting on the readings and the Gospel, and what they mean to me personally as I continue my journey of faith.

There is something beautiful about All Saints Day. It reminds me that holiness is not just about the extraordinary things people do or the miracles associated with their names. It is also about the ordinary ways we live our lives, the kindness we show others, the sacrifices we make, the forgiveness we offer, and the love we give even when it is not always easy.

As someone who is still growing in my relationship with God, I know I have much to learn. My faith journey has been a process of rediscovery, learning to open my Bible, understanding Scripture, and becoming more aware of God's presence in my everyday life. The more I learn, the more I realise that faith is not simply about attending Mass or saying prayers. It is about allowing God to change our hearts and guide the way we live.

The first reading from the Book of Revelation describes a vast crowd of people from every nation, race, tribe, and language standing before the throne of God. They are dressed in white robes, holding palm branches, and praising Him. What struck me about this reading is the image of a crowd so enormous that nobody could count it. These people came from different backgrounds and places, yet they stood together in the presence of God.

To me, this is a beautiful reminder that God's love is not limited to a particular nationality, culture, background, or social standing. We may be different in so many ways, but we are all called to seek Him and live according to His teachings.

Sometimes, we live in a world where people are quick to judge one another. We judge others by their appearance, their circumstances, their past mistakes, or whether they share our opinions and beliefs. We can become so focused on our differences that we forget the things that truly matter. Today's reading reminds me that God's kingdom is greater than the divisions we create among ourselves.

It also makes me think about the people who quietly live their faith without seeking recognition. They may not be famous, wealthy, or influential. They may never receive an award for their kindness or have their names remembered by the world. Yet they continue to help others, offer comfort, make sacrifices, and show love when someone needs it most. Perhaps some of the holiest people we encounter are those whose goodness we only fully appreciate when we look back on our lives.

We may never know the full impact of a kind word, a simple act of generosity, or a moment when we choose to be patient instead of reacting in anger. But these things matter. They are small ways of allowing God's love to reach others through us.

The second reading from the First Letter of John reminds us that we are children of God because of the love the Father has lavished upon us. I find this message especially comforting because life can sometimes make us question our worth. We may experience disappointments, make mistakes, struggle with personal challenges, or feel that we are not doing enough. There may be moments when we compare ourselves with others and wonder whether we are where we should be in life.

It is easy to measure our value by what we achieve, what we own, how successful we appear, or how others perceive us. But God reminds us that our identity is much deeper than these things. We are His children, loved by Him.

This does not mean we are perfect or that we will never make mistakes. It means that despite our imperfections, we are still loved and invited to grow closer to Him.

As I continue learning about my faith, I am beginning to understand that God does not expect me to have everything figured out overnight. My journey is still unfolding, and there are things I am only beginning to understand. What matters is that I keep trying. I keep learning. I keep praying. And when I fall short, I turn back to Him.

The reading also reminds us that we do not yet know everything we are meant to become. I find comfort in that thought because it reminds me that personal growth is a lifelong journey. We are not defined only by who we are today. With God's grace, we can become more patient, more forgiving, more compassionate, and more loving. Perhaps holiness begins with the willingness to let God work within us, one day at a time.

The Gospel from Matthew presents us with the Beatitudes, one of the most beautiful and challenging teachings of Jesus. He speaks of the poor in spirit, the gentle, those who mourn, those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, the merciful, the pure in heart, the peacemakers, and those who are persecuted for doing what is right.

What I find interesting is that Jesus describes happiness in ways that are very different from how the world often defines it. We live in a society that encourages us to pursue success, recognition, material possessions, and achievements. There is nothing inherently wrong with working hard or wanting a better life. However, we can become so caught up in these pursuits that we forget to nurture the things that matter most.

Jesus reminds us that true blessedness is not necessarily found in having an easy life or getting everything we want. It can be found in humility, compassion, mercy, and a heart that remains faithful to God even during difficult times.

The Beatitude that speaks to me particularly is, "Happy the merciful: they shall have mercy shown them." I believe kindness and mercy are qualities our world needs more of.

It is easy to be kind when someone treats us well. It is much harder when we have been hurt, disappointed, misunderstood, or let down. Sometimes, we want people to understand our pain before we can find it in ourselves to forgive them. Yet I am learning that forgiveness does not mean pretending that nothing happened or allowing others to continue hurting us. It means choosing not to let bitterness take control of our hearts. It means bringing our pain to God and asking Him to help us find peace.

I am learning that we cannot control how other people behave, but we can choose how we respond. We can choose kindness over cruelty, understanding over judgement, and peace over unnecessary conflict. These choices may seem small, but they reflect the kind of heart Jesus calls us to develop.

Another Beatitude that resonates with me is the call to be peacemakers. I believe peace begins with us. It begins in the way we speak to our families, the way we treat our friends, the way we respond to strangers, and even the way we speak about people who are not present.

We do not always have to win an argument. We do not always have to have the last word. Sometimes, the more loving thing to do is to listen, to step back, or simply to let go. Being a peacemaker does not mean avoiding every difficult conversation. It means approaching others with a sincere desire for understanding rather than a desire to hurt them. In a world that often seems divided, this is one of the most meaningful ways we can live out our faith.

Reflecting on the Beatitudes also makes me think about what it really means to become holy. When we think of saints, we often think of extraordinary individuals who dedicated their entire lives to God and performed remarkable acts of faith. Their stories inspire us, but they can also make holiness seem like something beyond our reach.

Yet today's Gospel reminds me that holiness is not simply about doing extraordinary things. It is also about how we live the ordinary moments of our lives. It is about being honest when dishonesty would be easier, helping someone without expecting anything in return, showing compassion to someone who is struggling, and standing up for what is right even when doing so is unpopular.

It is about remembering God not only when we need His help, but also when life is going well and we have reasons to be grateful. Most importantly, it is about recognising that we still have room to grow.

I know that I am not perfect. I have my own weaknesses, struggles, and moments when I could have handled things better. But I am learning that faith is not about pretending to be perfect. It is about being willing to grow, to learn from our mistakes, and to keep turning towards God.

I may not be able to change the entire world, but I can try to make a difference in the lives of the people I encounter. I can choose to be kinder. I can be more patient. I can be more mindful of the words I use and the feelings of others. I can remember to pray for those who are struggling, including those who may have hurt me.

Most importantly, I can ask God to help me become a better person, not just for my own sake, but for the sake of those around me. Perhaps this is where my journey towards holiness begins.

As I reflect further on today's readings, I am reminded that becoming closer to God is not a destination we reach overnight. It is a journey that requires patience, humility, and a willingness to keep learning.

I am grateful that I am rediscovering my faith and learning to see familiar things through a different perspective. The more I reflect on Scripture, the more I realise that God's teachings are not simply words to read or listen to during Mass. They are lessons to carry into our daily lives.

Today's Gospel challenges me to look beyond what the world considers important and examine what is happening within my own heart. Am I showing enough kindness to others? Am I willing to forgive when I have been hurt? Do I bring peace into the lives of those around me, or do I sometimes contribute to the negativity? Am I standing up for what is right, even when it is uncomfortable? And am I allowing God to guide my decisions, my thoughts, and my actions?

These are not always easy questions to answer, but I believe they are worth asking. Faith is not simply about knowing what is right. It is about making a conscious effort to live it, even when doing so challenges us.

On this Solemnity of All Saints, I am reminded that the saints are not only people to admire. They are examples of what a life rooted in God can look like. Their lives encourage us to keep striving for holiness, even when the journey is difficult.

We may never become famous saints whose names are remembered throughout history. But we can all strive to become better Christians through the choices we make every day. We can love more deeply, forgive more freely, serve more willingly, and live with greater humility.

As I leave Mass today, I want to carry these lessons with me. I want my faith to be reflected not only in the prayers I say or the Scriptures I read, but also in the way I treat people and the way I live my life.

I know I still have much to learn, and I am sure there will be days when I fall short. But I pray that God will continue to guide me, strengthen my faith, and help me become the person He created me to be.

My prayer today is simple. Lord, help me to live with a heart that reflects Your love. Teach me to be more compassionate, more forgiving, more humble, and more faithful. May my words bring encouragement, my actions bring kindness, and my presence bring peace to those around me. Help me remember that holiness begins with the little things we do every day. Amen.

Happy Solemnity of All Saints. May we be inspired by the saints who have gone before us and encouraged to walk our own journey of faith with love, courage, and trust in God.

A Little Change to My Movie Recommendations Blog Posts

Some things begin as a passion project, and before you know it, they become a little tradition. For me, sharing movie recommendations has been one of those things. I have always enjoyed discovering films, watching stories unfold on screen, and sharing the ones that leave an impression on me. Whether a movie makes me laugh, cry, think a little deeper, or simply appreciate good storytelling, I enjoy passing that experience on to others. After all, what is the point of discovering a good movie if you cannot share it with someone else?

Over time, I have been putting together movie recommendations for my readers, hoping to introduce them to films they might not otherwise have discovered. Some are popular titles, while others are lesser-known gems that I feel deserve more attention. I have always believed that a good movie does not necessarily need a big Hollywood budget, a star-studded cast, or an enormous marketing campaign to be worth watching. Sometimes, the most memorable stories are the ones that quietly surprise you.

However, I have been thinking about something lately, and I feel it is time to make a small change. One thing I have come to realize is that many of the movies I recommend are simply not available to a large number of my readers around the world. We live in different countries, subscribe to different streaming platforms, and have access to different movie libraries. A film that is readily available to me in Singapore might not be available to someone in the United States, the United Kingdom, Australia, or somewhere else entirely. Even when we subscribe to the same streaming service, the content can differ from country to country because of licensing agreements, distribution rights, and regional restrictions.

And that is where the frustration comes in. Imagine reading a recommendation, getting excited about a movie, only to discover that you cannot find it on any of your streaming platforms. You search for it, check another service, and perhaps even look it up online, only to find that it is unavailable in your region. After a while, I can imagine how disappointing that must feel. I may be recommending a film with the best intentions, but if you cannot actually watch it, how useful is that recommendation to you? This has made me reconsider how I approach my movie blog. I want my recommendations to be enjoyable and helpful, rather than leave readers hunting for a movie they cannot access.

So, does this mean I am stopping completely? Well, not quite! I suppose I am not quite ready to close the curtains on my movie recommendations just yet. Watching movies remains something I enjoy, and sharing my thoughts about them is still a lovely way to connect with people who have similar interests. What I will be doing, however, is changing the way I share these recommendations. Going forward, I will try to focus more on popular movies, well-known titles, and films that are likely to be more widely accessible across different countries and streaming platforms. Of course, I cannot guarantee that every movie will be available everywhere. We all know how unpredictable streaming catalogues can be! But I can certainly be more mindful about the movies I choose to feature.

I will also be stepping away from the weekly schedule. Instead of feeling obliged to publish a recommendation every week, I will share one whenever I come across a movie that I genuinely want to talk about. Sometimes, that might mean a few recommendations close together. Other times, there might be a longer gap between posts, and I think that is perfectly fine. I would rather share a movie because I truly enjoyed it or believe it is worth watching than recommend something simply because it is time to publish another post. After all, the best recommendations are the ones that come from genuine enthusiasm, not a calendar reminder!

Perhaps this is also a good reminder that not everything needs to follow a strict schedule to be meaningful. I enjoy discovering films, but I also want to keep this little corner of my blog enjoyable for everyone who visits. There is no point in turning something I love into an obligation, especially when I know that the recommendations may not always be practical for readers in different parts of the world. I would rather take my time, watch what interests me, and share my thoughts when I have something worthwhile to say. And who knows? I might stumble upon a movie that becomes a favourite for many of you, or perhaps I will introduce someone to a film they would never have considered watching otherwise. That possibility alone makes sharing worthwhile.

To everyone who has taken the time to read my movie recommendations, thank you. Whether you have watched a film because of my suggestion, discovered a new favourite, or simply enjoyed reading my thoughts, I appreciate you being here. I also understand that some of you may have been disappointed when a recommended movie was unavailable in your country. That was never my intention, and it is something I want to be more conscious of moving forward.

So, consider this a little change of direction rather than a goodbye. My movie recommendations will still be here, just without the weekly commitment. When I find something worth sharing, you can expect to hear about it. Until then, keep exploring, keep discovering stories, and never underestimate the joy of finding a really good movie on an ordinary evening.

And if you have any movie recommendations of your own, I would love to hear them. After all, discovering a great film is wonderful, but discovering one through someone else's recommendation can be just as rewarding.

Happy watching, everyone! 

The Importance of Values

 I have always been pretty sure of my values, although I do not think I fully understood how much they shaped my life until a few years ago. Looking back, I realize that my values have always been there, quietly influencing my decisions, the people I surround myself with, and the way I choose to live. I just never really stopped to think about them in the way I eventually did.

It happened during a group coaching session at work. I believe it was our second session, and the coaches asked us to identify our personal values. What surprised me was that some people genuinely had to stop and think about what their values were. For me, the answers came quite naturally. I did not need to complete an exercise or spend a long time figuring them out. I could name the things that mattered to me without much hesitation.

I remember being surprised by this. It had never occurred to me that people might not know their own values, or that they might need help identifying them. I had always assumed that most people knew what mattered to them and what guided their decisions.

The coaches then asked us to consider how our values aligned with our jobs. That was when something clicked for me. I realized that my values were not simply a list of things I believed in. They were the foundation upon which I made many of my life decisions. They influenced what I was willing to accept, what I was prepared to walk away from, and what I wanted to experience in life. I had probably known this subconsciously for years. I just had never brought it to the forefront of my mind.

Thinking back, I also realized that my values did not simply appear out of nowhere. They developed as I grew older, shaped by the people I loved, the experiences I had and the lessons I picked up along the way.

One of the biggest values in my life is happiness. I grew up with the belief that we should pursue what makes us happy rather than spend our lives trying to meet everyone else's expectations. I recognize that there is immense privilege in having people around us who encourage us to find our own happiness. Not everyone has that kind of support or the freedom to make choices based on what they want. I do not take that for granted, and I believe it has played a significant role in shaping the way I look at life.

Over time, I have come to understand that happiness is not always about exciting experiences, achievements or getting everything I want. Sometimes, it is an internal state. It is being comfortable with who I am, knowing that I have made choices I can live with, and finding contentment in the life I am building.

I have responsibilities, of course, and I understand that not every decision can be made purely on the basis of what makes me happy. But I also believe that happiness matters. We should not spend our entire lives making everyone else comfortable while quietly making ourselves miserable. For me, happiness is not about having a perfect life. It is about having a life that feels like mine.

Another value that has become increasingly important to me is growth. I believe this has a lot to do with the people I surround myself with and the mindset I have developed over the years. I have been fortunate to be around people who believe in learning from mistakes, becoming better versions of ourselves and understanding that improvement matters more than perfection.

I have never believed that we need to get everything right the first time. We are human. We make mistakes, we get things wrong, and sometimes we make decisions that we later realize were not the best ones. That is life. What matters to me is what we do afterwards. Do we learn from the experience? Do we take responsibility? Do we make an effort to improve? Or do we keep repeating the same mistakes while expecting different results?

Growth requires honesty with ourselves. It means acknowledging that we do not know everything and being willing to learn, even when doing so challenges what we have always believed. It also means accepting that we are works in progress. There is always something new to learn, a different perspective to consider or an opportunity to become better at what we do.

Looking back at my adult life, I can see how often growth has influenced my decisions. When considering a job, I think about what I can learn and whether the experience will help me develop. When I chose to embrace a nomadic lifestyle, it was partly because I wanted to experience more of the world and discover what life could offer beyond what I already knew. Even talking to people and engaging with different perspectives can be an opportunity to grow.

I am curious about life, and I do not want to reach a point where I stop learning simply because I am comfortable. Comfort has its place, but I do not believe we should allow it to become a cage.

This is where I think the importance of knowing our values becomes especially clear. Life will always present us with choices, and not all of them will be easy. Sometimes, we have to decide between what is familiar and what offers us an opportunity to grow. At other times, we have to choose between pleasing others and staying true to ourselves.

Knowing our values does not mean that making decisions suddenly becomes easy. It simply gives us a clearer sense of direction. When we understand what matters to us, we have something to refer to when we feel uncertain or when the expectations of others threaten to drown out our own voice.

Our values can also help us understand why certain situations bother us more than others. Sometimes, what frustrates us is connected to something we deeply believe in. If we value honesty, dishonesty may affect us more than it affects someone else. If we value growth, being in an environment where there is no room to learn or improve may leave us feeling stuck. Recognizing these connections allows us to understand ourselves better and make more conscious choices.

Of course, having strong values does not mean we will always get things right. We can still make poor decisions, get caught up in our emotions or find ourselves in situations that challenge what we believe. What matters is our willingness to reflect, learn and make adjustments when necessary.

I also believe that values can evolve as we move through life. Some remain constant, while others become more important as our experiences and priorities change. The key is to keep checking in with ourselves and making sure we are living in a way that reflects what genuinely matters to us.

Understanding our values can also help us build better relationships. When we know what matters to us, we become more aware of the people who respect those values and the environments in which we can thrive. At the same time, we learn to accept that other people may have different values. We do not all have to think alike or make the same choices. What matters is being honest about who we are while respecting the freedom of others to do the same.

That group coaching session taught me something I had never really considered before. Knowing my values was something I had taken for granted, and I had not realized that identifying them could be a challenge for other people. More importantly, it made me recognize just how much my values had influenced the life I had built.

Today, when I look at my life, I can see how happiness and growth have guided so many of my decisions. They have influenced the opportunities I pursue, the people I keep close and the experiences I want to have. They remind me that life is not about following a path simply because everyone else is walking it.

Ultimately, I believe the importance of values lies in the direction they give our lives. They remind us of what matters when we become distracted by what everyone else thinks should matter. They help us make choices that feel authentic to us, even when those choices do not make sense to everyone around us.

We spend so much time trying to figure out what we want from life that perhaps we should also spend time asking ourselves what we want our lives to stand for.

Success means different things to different people, and happiness means different things too. There is no single formula for living a meaningful life. For me, it comes down to continuing to grow, finding happiness in the life I choose to live, and remaining true to the things that matter to me.

I may not always get everything right, but I want to know that the decisions I make are guided by values I believe in, rather than expectations I feel pressured to meet.

After all, this is my life. I want to live it in a way that feels right to me, while continuing to learn, grow and become the person I know I can be.