Confirmed in God’s Perfect Timing: My Journey to Confirmation After 31 Years

 On Saturday, I received the Sacrament of Confirmation.

For many Catholics, Confirmation is received during the teenage years, usually around the ages of sixteen or seventeen. For me, it happened thirty one years later. At the age of forty seven, after a long and often winding journey of faith, I finally stood before the Church, before my family, and before God to receive the final sacrament of initiation.

And it was perfect.

Not because it happened when everyone else did, but because it happened in God’s time.

Looking back, I can see that God has been patiently leading me to this moment all along. My faith journey has not always been straightforward. As a teenager, I was far from enthusiastic about attending catechism classes. In fact, I was a terrible teenager and had very little interest in spending my weekends learning about the faith. While many parents might have insisted, I am grateful that my mother never forced me. At the time, I did not appreciate it, but today I understand the gift she gave me.

Had I been forced into Confirmation as a teenager, it might simply have become another obligation completed and forgotten. Instead, receiving Confirmation now was entirely my decision. It was a choice made freely, prayerfully, and intentionally. I chose to say yes to God. I chose to strengthen my faith. I chose to continue walking with Christ.

God truly works in mysterious ways.

From the circumstances that led me back to Him, to the people He placed in my path, to the timing of every step along the journey, I can now see His hand guiding me. There were moments when I thought Confirmation would never happen, yet God was quietly preparing everything according to His plan.

I first considered receiving Confirmation in 2024 when I noticed an announcement in our church bulletin inviting adults who had not yet been confirmed to register. My heart immediately felt drawn to it. However, there was one major obstacle. I did not have a sponsor.

As I learned more about the requirements, I realized my mother could not serve as my sponsor. My uncles were not active churchgoers and could not fulfil the role either. With no sponsor in sight, I decided to wait another year.

Then 2025 arrived.

Once again, I hoped to finally begin the journey, but life had other plans. That year I was preparing for and participating in a church mission trip to Vietnam. The experience was deeply meaningful and life changing, but it meant postponing Confirmation once more.

By the time I saw the church bulletin announcement again this year, something inside me knew it was finally time.

I signed up.

Yet the question of a sponsor remained.

I searched and asked around but found no suitable candidate. Eventually, I became discouraged and was close to giving up altogether. Then, quite unexpectedly, an old family friend came to mind.

Uncle Alan.

He has been part of my family’s life long before I was even born. He is not related by blood, but he is very much family. Gathering my courage, I sent him a message and asked if he would consider being my sponsor.

Without hesitation, he said yes.

Not only did he agree, but he immediately began gathering the necessary documents and certificates for registration. His enthusiasm touched me deeply. It felt as though he had been waiting for the opportunity.

Then I discovered something remarkable.

Uncle Alan had been baptized almost seventy years ago in the very same church where I would receive my Sacrament of Confirmation.

At that moment, I knew this was not a coincidence.

It was God’s plan.

I am incredibly grateful to Uncle Alan for standing beside me on this important day and for being part of such a significant milestone in my faith journey. He has truly been chosen family, and his willingness to walk this journey with me is something I will always treasure.

I am equally grateful for Martin, who coordinated and guided our Confirmation group. From the very beginning in 2024, he encouraged me, supported me, and helped me navigate every step of the process. His kindness and dedication were a tremendous blessing.

The catechism classes themselves were another blessing. Far from being something I dreaded as a teenager, I found myself looking forward to each session. They deepened my understanding of the faith and renewed my relationship with God. They challenged me to reflect on what it truly means to be a disciple of Christ and reminded me that faith is not simply something we inherit, but something we choose to live each day.

One particularly memorable moment came during the rehearsal before the Confirmation Mass. To my surprise, I ran into three former schoolmates. Their children were among the teenagers preparing to receive Confirmation. When they first saw me, they assumed I was there as a sponsor or godparent. Their surprise quickly turned into joy when they discovered that I was actually one of the five adults receiving the sacrament myself. We laughed together, and it became another reminder that God writes stories far better than we ever could.

Then the long awaited day arrived.

Dressed in white, I entered the church filled with gratitude, anticipation, and emotion. At first, I felt slightly embarrassed knowing that I would be walking down the aisle alongside the teenage confirmands. I was undoubtedly one of the oldest candidates present.

Yet as I walked down that aisle, something changed. I saw the smiles of the congregation. I felt their encouragement and support. I saw people celebrating not only the young confirmands but every person answering God’s call, regardless of age. As I walked, I fought back tears.

When I reached my seat, I looked behind me and saw my family. My mother was there, and her face radiated joy. In that moment, I thought about all the years that had passed, all the prayers she had undoubtedly offered for me, and all the grace that had brought us to this day.

Ed and my children were there as well. Although they are not Catholics, they came because they knew how important this day was to me. Their presence reminded me that love and support transcend denominational boundaries. Seeing them there filled my heart with gratitude.

The Mass itself was beautiful and deeply moving. It was celebrated by Father Shaun and His Eminence Cardinal William Goh. Throughout the liturgy, I felt an overwhelming sense of peace and belonging. One Scripture passage particularly resonated with me: “You will receive power when the Holy Spirit comes on you; and you will be my witness in Jerusalem, and in all Judea and Samaria, and to the ends of the earth.” These words capture the very essence of Confirmation.

The word Confirmation means strengthening. Through this sacrament, the Holy Spirit comes to strengthen the gifts first received at Baptism and bring them to maturity. In the Sacrament of Confirmation, a person is sealed with the gift of the Holy Spirit and strengthened for service to the Body of Christ, the Church.

Confirmation is not simply a personal milestone. It is a call to action. It is often described as the sacrament of social action because it sends us out into the world to live and proclaim the Gospel. The strengthening and maturity we receive are not meant solely for our own benefit. Rather, the gifts we receive are intended to help us contribute actively and creatively to the Church and to the world around us.

As I reflected on this, I began thinking about how I hope to respond to that call. I want to become more involved in the mission of Christ. I want to serve where I am needed, participate in ministries, perform acts of charity, visit the sick, help the poor, and support the vulnerable. I want to be generous, compassionate, and caring. I want my life to be a witness to God’s love. I want to share my faith when opportunities arise, support the Church’s call for social justice, defend the dignity of every human person, and continue growing in prayer and sacramental life.

The history of Confirmation itself is rich and beautiful. The laying on of hands is recognized by Catholic tradition as the origin of the sacrament, perpetuating in a certain way the grace of Pentecost within the Church. By the second century, Confirmation was also conferred through anointing with holy oil known as Sacred Chrism. This anointing connects us to Christ Himself. The word “Christian” means “anointed one,” deriving from Christ, whom God anointed with the Holy Spirit.

During Confirmation, the bishop lays hands upon the confirmands, invoking the fullness of the Holy Spirit and His gifts. Through this action, we are strengthened for ministry, renewed in our commitment to Christ and His Church, and equipped to bear witness to the faith. The anointing with Sacred Chrism is particularly meaningful. As the bishop anoints the forehead, he says, “Be sealed with the Gift of the Holy Spirit.” That seal is permanent. It signifies that we belong to Christ, that we are chosen by God, and that we have a purpose within His plan.

Chrism itself carries profound symbolism. Consecrated by the bishop during the Chrism Mass on Holy Thursday, it is made from olive oil and balsam. The fragrance of balsam symbolizes the sweetness and beauty of holiness. Olive oil symbolizes life, endurance, healing, and peace. Olive trees survive storms, droughts, and the passing of generations. In many ways, they mirror our own spiritual journeys.

As Christians, we are called not merely to acknowledge the Holy Spirit but to develop a relationship with Him. For me, the Holy Spirit means God’s constant presence in my life. In moments of fear, grief, uncertainty, and struggle, He brings comfort, wisdom, peace, and strength. He reminds me that I am never alone.

The Holy Spirit bestows seven gifts: Wisdom, Understanding, Counsel, Fortitude, Knowledge, Piety, and Fear of the Lord. These gifts are strengthened and sealed within us at Confirmation. Unlike material gifts, they never go out of style. They do not break, spoil, tarnish, or need replacing. They remain with us throughout our lives. Our responsibility is to use them well.

As I reflect on my own life, I believe I have been using these gifts by encouraging others, listening with compassion, serving where help is needed, and sharing hope through my writing and actions. During difficult seasons, I have tried to choose patience, wisdom, kindness, and faith, allowing God to work through me.

Have I always done this perfectly? Certainly not. But I believe the Holy Spirit has continually guided me back to God and helped me remain faithful to the mission He has placed before me. Moving forward, I want to intentionally invite the Holy Spirit into my daily life. I want His wisdom to guide my decisions, His courage to strengthen me, and His love to transform my heart.

Among the fruits of the Spirit, love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, generosity, faithfulness, and self control, the one I most desire to grow in is patience. I often want answers immediately. I want healing quickly. I want circumstances to change overnight. Yet God continues teaching me to trust His timing. I pray for a calmer heart, gentler responses, and the grace to wait faithfully.

Ultimately, I pray that the Holy Spirit will transform my life so that I may bear fruit and give witness to Christ.

Before ending, I want to share two moments from Cardinal William Goh’s homily that stayed with me. The first was when he spoke about people being forced into faith practices. I smiled because it reminded me of my own journey. Thirty one years late by conventional standards, perhaps, but I was there entirely of my own choosing. No one forced me. No one pressured me. I came because I wanted to be there.

The second was when he spoke about reaching a stage of faith where what others say about you can no longer truly hurt you because your identity is rooted in God. Those words resonated deeply with me. After everything life has taught me, I believe I have finally reached that place. Not perfectly, but sincerely. A place where my worth is no longer determined by the opinions of others but by God’s love.

And for that, I am profoundly grateful.

Thirty one years later, I finally received the Sacrament of Confirmation. Not late. Not behind. Exactly when God intended. And what a beautiful gift it has been.

Movie Recommendation: Masters of the Universe (2026)

 

There are very few movies that can transport you back to your childhood the moment the opening scene begins. Masters of the Universe (2026) did exactly that for me. Long before superhero films dominated the box office, before cinematic universes became the norm, there was one hero who captured my imagination more than any other: He-Man. Growing up, I rushed home to watch the animated series whenever I could. Like so many children of the 1980s, I was captivated by the magical world of Eternia, Castle Grayskull, the unforgettable battle cry of "By the Power of Grayskull," and the timeless struggle between good and evil. He-Man wasn't simply another cartoon character to me. He was my childhood hero.

When the first live-action Masters of the Universe movie was released in 1987, I could hardly contain my excitement. Seeing Dolph Lundgren step into the role of He-Man was a dream come true. At the time, it felt as though my favourite cartoon had leapt straight from the television screen onto the big screen. Lundgren had the physical presence, the commanding stature, and the quiet confidence that made him believable as the legendary warrior. Looking back today, I know that the film had its limitations, particularly with the technology available at the time, but none of that mattered to me then. I was completely in awe. To a young fan, it was everything I had hoped it would be.

Fast forward almost four decades, and a new generation has been introduced to the world of He-Man through the 2026 reboot. Walking into the cinema, I carried with me a mixture of excitement, curiosity, and a little apprehension. Whenever a beloved childhood classic is reimagined, there is always the fear that it won't capture the same magic. Thankfully, those fears disappeared almost immediately.

What made this experience even more meaningful was the reason I was there. My children knew how much He-Man meant to me growing up. Although they had never watched the original cartoon and knew very little about the franchise, they surprised me by taking me to see the movie. It was such a thoughtful gesture because they weren't going for themselves. They were going because they knew how much it meant to me. Ironically, by the time the credits rolled, they had become fans themselves. Watching them become invested in the characters, laugh at the jokes, and cheer during the action sequences reminded me of how I felt all those years ago discovering He-Man for the very first time.

One of the smartest decisions made by director Travis Knight was to tell the story from a fresh perspective. Instead of immediately introducing us to the fully formed hero, the film begins with Adam as a young boy before circumstances force him to live on Earth, separated from his home and his destiny. He grows up believing fragments of his past while trying to make sense of who he truly is and searching for a way back to Eternia. This approach gives the audience a chance to connect with Adam as a person before he becomes the legendary He-Man. It adds emotional depth that wasn't explored nearly as much in earlier adaptations and makes his eventual transformation feel earned rather than inevitable. 

Nicholas Galitzine deserves enormous credit for bringing this version of Adam and He-Man to life. Taking over such an iconic role is no easy task, especially when generations of fans already have a clear image of what He-Man should be. Galitzine manages to honour the character while making him his own. His performance balances vulnerability, determination, humour, and heroism beautifully. As Adam, he is relatable and grounded. As He-Man, he possesses the strength, confidence, and larger-than-life presence that fans expect. His impressive physical transformation certainly helps sell the role, but it is his sincerity and emotional performance that truly stand out. 

The screenplay also deserves praise for recognising that modern audiences appreciate moments of humour alongside epic fantasy. The original cartoon certainly had its lighter moments, but this new film injects clever comedic scenes without ever undermining the seriousness of the story. The comedy feels natural rather than forced, often arising from Adam's awkward life on Earth and his interactions with those around him. These moments provide welcome breathing room between the larger action sequences and make the characters feel more human. The film never forgets that while audiences enjoy spectacular battles, they also want characters they can laugh with and care about.

Visually, the difference between the 1987 film and this new adaptation is extraordinary. That is not a criticism of the original because technology has advanced dramatically over the past four decades. The earlier film achieved a great deal with the resources available at the time, and it still holds a special place in my heart. However, the 2026 version is able to fully realize the grandeur of Eternia in ways that simply weren't possible before. The landscapes are breathtaking, the action sequences are thrilling, the creatures feel alive, and the magical elements finally have the scale they always deserved. It is not a case of one film being better than the other. Rather, they are products of their respective eras. The original remains a treasured classic for nostalgic reasons, while the new version embraces modern filmmaking to bring the world of Masters of the Universe to life with incredible imagination.

Perhaps my biggest surprise, and undoubtedly my favourite moment of the entire film, was seeing Dolph Lundgren appear in a cameo. I had managed to avoid spoilers, so when he appeared on screen, I couldn't help but smile from ear to ear. It was one of those moments that instantly connected the past with the present. Rather than simply being a nostalgic gimmick, his appearance felt like a heartfelt passing of the torch from one generation of He-Man to the next. For longtime fans like myself who grew up admiring Lundgren's portrayal, it was a genuinely emotional tribute to the franchise's history. 

By the end of the movie, I realised something special had happened. I had walked into the cinema hoping to relive a piece of my childhood, but I walked out having shared that experience with my own children. They entered knowing almost nothing about He-Man, yet they left talking excitedly about Eternia, the characters, and hoping there would be another sequel. Watching them discover the same hero who inspired my own imagination decades ago was perhaps even more rewarding than watching the film itself.

Masters of the Universe (2026) succeeds because it respects its legacy while confidently forging its own identity. It honours longtime fans without relying solely on nostalgia and welcomes a new generation into the world of Eternia with heart, humour, spectacular action, and memorable performances. Nicholas Galitzine proves himself to be a worthy successor to Dolph Lundgren, while Lundgren's touching cameo serves as the perfect bridge between the past and the future.

For me, this wasn't just another trip to the cinema. It was a journey back to my childhood and a reminder that some heroes never truly leave us. They simply find new ways to inspire the next generation. And by the power of Grayskull, He-Man still has that power.

Are Gmail Addresses Unprofessional?

 

For years, I have worked with people from all walks of life, from students taking their first steps into the workforce to experienced professionals looking to reinvent their careers. One of the questions I hear surprisingly often is whether having a Gmail address is considered unprofessional. It is an interesting question because email remains one of the primary ways we introduce ourselves in the professional world. Before someone hears our voice or meets us in person, they often see our email address. That small detail can create a first impression, and first impressions matter.

My answer may surprise some people. I do not believe that a Gmail address is unprofessional. In fact, I would argue that Gmail has become one of the most widely accepted and respected email platforms in both personal and professional settings. What determines professionalism is not the domain at the end of your email address. It is the way you present yourself, the name you choose, and the quality of your communication.

When I receive an email from someone using Gmail, I rarely stop to think about the platform they are using. Instead, I notice the person's name, the clarity of their message, their tone, and how they conduct themselves. A well written email from jane.doe@gmail.com leaves a far better impression than an email from a company domain that is filled with spelling mistakes, poor grammar, or an unprofessional attitude. Professionalism has always been more about the person than the technology they choose to use.

That said, not all Gmail addresses are created equal. This is where many people unintentionally make mistakes. An address such as john.doe@gmail.com or jane.doe@gmail.com appears neat, simple, and credible. On the other hand, addresses such as partygirl88@gmail.com, crazygamer123@gmail.com, or cutiepie4ever@gmail.com can send the wrong message in a professional setting. While those names may have been fun choices during teenage years, they can unintentionally suggest a lack of maturity when applying for jobs, networking with clients, or communicating with business partners.

I often encourage people to look at their email address as part of their personal brand. Just as we choose appropriate clothing for an interview or prepare a professional résumé, our email address deserves the same level of consideration. It represents us every time we send a message. A clean and simple email address that includes your name helps build trust and makes it easier for people to remember you. It also demonstrates that you take your professional image seriously.

There is another reason why Gmail has earned such widespread acceptance. It is backed by one of the world's leading technology companies and offers exceptional reliability, security, and functionality. Businesses, educational institutions, charities, government agencies, and multinational corporations communicate with Gmail users every single day. Many organizations even use Google Workspace, which is built upon the same Gmail infrastructure while allowing companies to use their own custom domain names. This has further strengthened Gmail's reputation as a professional communication platform.

Some people believe that only an email address with a custom business domain looks professional. There is certainly some truth to that, especially for businesses wanting to strengthen their brand identity. An email such as debra@companyname.com immediately reinforces the company's name and can create a stronger corporate image. For entrepreneurs, consultants, and established businesses, investing in a custom domain can enhance credibility and marketing efforts. It tells clients that the business has invested in its own online presence.

However, context matters. A university student applying for internships does not necessarily need a custom domain. Neither does someone applying for their first job or an individual networking within their industry. A professional Gmail address is perfectly acceptable in these situations. In many industries, hiring managers are far more interested in your qualifications, experience, communication skills, and attitude than whether your email ends with gmail.com.

I have reviewed countless résumés throughout my career, and I can honestly say that the email address itself has rarely been the deciding factor. What catches my attention is when an email address looks careless or inappropriate. Those small details can sometimes create unnecessary doubt. If someone has invested significant time preparing a polished résumé but includes an email address that sounds like a gaming username from childhood, it creates a disconnect. Fortunately, this is one of the easiest problems to fix. Creating a new Gmail account takes only a few minutes, yet it can significantly improve a person's professional image.

As technology continues to evolve, perceptions also change. Years ago, some people viewed free email services as less credible because businesses often relied on corporate servers. Today, that distinction has become much less significant. Gmail has become deeply integrated into everyday business operations around the world. Video meetings, shared documents, collaborative workspaces, cloud storage, and calendars all work seamlessly within the Google ecosystem. As a result, Gmail has become a familiar and trusted part of professional life.

There is also something refreshing about simplicity. An email address that simply reflects your name demonstrates confidence. It does not need unnecessary numbers, symbols, or clever phrases to stand out. In fact, simplicity often communicates professionalism more effectively than creativity in business communication. People appreciate being able to type your email address easily without worrying about multiple underscores, unusual spellings, or confusing punctuation.

Ultimately, professionalism is built through consistency. It is reflected in how promptly you respond to emails, how respectfully you communicate with others, and whether you honour your commitments. Your email address is simply the doorway to that interaction. Once the conversation begins, your character, knowledge, and reliability become far more important than the platform you use.

If someone were to ask me today whether they should be worried about using a Gmail address, my answer would be no. I would encourage them instead to ensure that their email address is clean, appropriate, and based on their real name whenever possible. I would also remind them that professionalism cannot be purchased with a domain name alone. It is earned through integrity, competence, and respectful communication.

In the end, I believe that we sometimes focus too much on appearances and not enough on substance. A Gmail address is not what defines a professional. The person behind the email does. A thoughtful message, a respectful attitude, and a commitment to excellence will always leave a stronger impression than any email domain ever could. When those qualities are present, a Gmail address is not only acceptable but entirely professional in today's connected world.

What Do You Value?

 

Values are the bedrock of our identity. They are the invisible threads that weave our character, influence our decisions, and shape the path we choose in life. While everyone professes to have values, like honesty, loyalty, kindness, or perseverance, it is not merely the words we speak that reveal what we value. Rather, it is the things we are willing to fight for, the sacrifices we make, and the consistency of our actions, even when no one is watching. As the saying goes, “Who you are is defined by the values you are willing to struggle for.” This statement captures the essence of true character. It is easy to claim ideals, but what truly defines a person is whether they uphold these ideals in the face of adversity.

To understand what someone values, look not at what they say, but at what they consistently do. Words can be curated, refined, and filtered for public consumption. They can be shaped to present a certain image or narrative. In many ways, our spoken values can become a form of reputation management; a way to gain approval or protect a specific identity. But when values are deeply internalized, they transcend words. They become evident in the way we show up every day, in how we treat others, and how we respond when everything is on the line.

Consider the value of integrity. It is a quality often associated with honesty and moral uprightness. Many individuals claim to value integrity, but true integrity is seen when a person chooses to do the right thing, even when the consequences are costly or when no one would ever find out otherwise. It is in those moments when there’s no audience, no validation, and no applause that our values are laid bare. Struggling to uphold integrity when lying might be more convenient or profitable is what reveals whether that value truly lives within us. The willingness to endure hardship or loss in order to maintain our principles is what gives our values substance.

The same applies to other values like compassion, loyalty, and perseverance. Compassion is not just about saying, “I care about others”; it’s about acting with kindness even when it’s inconvenient. It's about standing with someone in their pain, not because we gain anything from it, but because our heart moves us to do so. Loyalty is not a matter of declaring allegiance or professing love; it’s revealed when someone stands by another through difficulty, when betrayal would have been easier. Perseverance, similarly, is more than motivation quotes on a wall. It is the act of continuing when fatigue, frustration, or fear makes quitting seem more rational.

In this regard, actions don’t just speak louder than words, they are the only language values truly understand. They are the evidence of belief. They show the depth of our convictions. This is why the concept of struggle is so important in defining who we are. Struggle implies effort. It implies resistance. It means we are choosing a path not because it is easy or rewarding, but because it aligns with who we are at our core.

Struggles are uncomfortable. They push us to the edge of our patience, courage, and resolve. Yet, they are also the crucibles where values are tested and refined. A person who claims to value forgiveness, for instance, will face countless opportunities to forgive someone who has hurt them. And each time they choose to forgive rather than hold a grudge, they aren’t just living their values, they are becoming the embodiment of them. Every act reinforces the value and etches it deeper into their identity.

Moreover, the struggles we endure for our values also influence how others perceive us. Not through our curated reputation, but through lived experience. Reputation is often an external construct, shaped by perception, social expectation, and sometimes manipulation. It is fragile, easily distorted by gossip or error. But character, which stems from values, is forged in the quiet, consistent choices we make. Over time, people may come to trust or admire someone not because of what they say about themselves, but because of what they’ve proven through action. A person who silently helps those in need, who stands up against injustice even when it costs them something, who apologizes sincerely when wrong...such a person doesn't need to advertise their values. Their life does it for them.

On the other hand, when words and actions don’t align, the dissonance is deafening. We’ve all encountered people who speak beautifully about justice, love, or equality, but whose lives betray the very things they claim to uphold. In those cases, words serve not as a window to values but as a mask. This gap between proclamation and practice is where trust breaks down both internally and externally. Internally, we feel that sense of misalignment, the moral dissonance that comes from not living what we claim to believe. Externally, others sense the inauthenticity, even if they can’t always articulate it. In the end, people may not remember every word you say, but they will remember how you made them feel, how you treated them, and whether your actions matched your values.

So, what do I value? I value truth, compassion, resilience, and purpose. But more importantly, I seek to live these values, knowing that claiming them is not enough. I value truth, not just in telling it to others, but in being honest with myself. This means acknowledging my own flaws, confronting uncomfortable realities, and resisting the urge to hide behind convenient lies. It means having the courage to speak up, even when silence is safer.

I value compassion, not because it’s easy, but because it’s necessary. In a world often driven by self-interest and efficiency, compassion asks us to slow down, to see each other fully, and to recognize that every person is fighting their own battles. It calls me to show up with kindness, to withhold judgment, and to offer a hand instead of turning away.

I value resilience because life will test you in ways you never anticipated. There are days when giving up feels tempting, when the odds seem stacked against you, when grief and hardship feel too heavy to carry. But I believe in getting back up. I believe that resilience is not just enduring pain, but transforming it into strength, wisdom, and empathy.

And above all, I value purpose. I believe that each of us has a role to play, a way to contribute that is meaningful and life-giving. Purpose doesn’t always mean grand gestures or world-changing innovation. Sometimes, it means loving your family well, doing your job with integrity, or being present for someone in need. It’s about living with intention, not drifting through life passively.

To hold these values is to invite challenge. There are times when telling the truth may hurt someone I love. There are moments when showing compassion is emotionally exhausting. There are days when resilience feels impossible. There are seasons when my purpose feels unclear. But I am willing to struggle for these values because they define who I am and who I aspire to be. The struggle itself becomes sacred because it refines and strengthens the very values I cherish.

It is a daily journey. No one lives their values perfectly. We all fall short, make mistakes, and sometimes act out of fear rather than conviction. But what matters is returning to the core of who we are and recommitting to living in alignment with what we believe. That’s why reflection is so important. We must ask ourselves regularly: Are my actions matching my values? Am I living in truth, or merely maintaining a reputation? Am I doing what’s right, or what’s easy? These questions help us recalibrate and keep us grounded in authenticity.

Ultimately, values are not about being perfect; they are about being intentional. They are about choosing what matters most, not just when it’s comfortable, but especially when it’s difficult. They are about showing up, again and again, with integrity, even when no one else notices.

In conclusion, who you are is not defined by your image, your words, or even your achievements. It is defined by what you are willing to struggle for. Your actions particularly when they come at a cost reveal your deepest values. Words can inspire, but they are empty without action. Reputation can be built with clever speech, but character is built with consistent choices. So, what do you value? If you really want to know, don’t just ask yourself what you believe, ask yourself what you’re willing to suffer for. The answer to that question will show you who you truly are.

What Will My Legacy Be?

 

I am writing this blog post because of a question that was asked during a work meeting on Friday. It was one of those questions that seems simple at first, but the more you think about it, the deeper it becomes.

The question was, "How do you want to be remembered?"

When I first heard it, I didn't really have an answer. I listened as others shared their thoughts, but for some reason, that one question stayed with me. It followed me home on Friday evening. It was still on my mind throughout Saturday. Even while I was sitting in church on Sunday, I found myself reflecting on it. It kept replaying over and over in my mind, challenging me to think beyond today, beyond tomorrow, and beyond the goals I have for my career or my personal life.

It made me stop and ask myself what really matters when everything else fades away. What kind of impact am I leaving on the people whose lives I touch? What do I hope people will say about me when I am no longer here? What will be the legacy that remains?

The more I reflected on those questions, the more I realized that the answer isn't found in achievements, titles, or possessions. It is found in purpose. It is found in vision. It is found in the way we choose to live every single day.

So this is my answer.

Life has taught me many lessons. Some have come through moments of incredible happiness while others have arrived through heartbreak, disappointment, and loss. Every experience has shaped the person I am today. As I look back on the journey I have traveled and think about the years that still lie ahead, I often ask myself one important question. How do I want to be remembered?

The answer has never been about wealth, fame, or recognition. Those things may come and go, but they do not define a person's legacy. What remains long after we are gone is the way we made people feel, the lives we touched, and the difference we made in the world around us. That is the legacy I hope to leave behind.

I want to be remembered as someone who genuinely cared about people. I have always believed that kindness costs nothing but can mean everything to someone who needs it. We never truly know what another person is carrying inside. A smile, a listening ear, a word of encouragement, or simply being there can sometimes change a person's entire day or even their life. If people remember me as someone who made them feel valued, accepted, and loved, then I will have achieved something far greater than any material success.

My purpose has never been simply to exist. I want my life to matter. I want every chapter of my story to have meaning. Whether I am entertaining an audience, speaking with a friend, helping someone through a difficult season, or sharing my experiences with others, I hope that something I say or do inspires hope. I believe every one of us has been given gifts that are meant to be shared, not hidden away. Mine has always been to bring joy, encouragement, and belief into the lives of others.

For many years I have had the privilege of making people laugh, smile, and forget about their worries, even if only for a little while. There is something incredibly special about watching a child's eyes light up with amazement or seeing adults become children again as they experience wonder. Those moments remind me that happiness is one of the greatest gifts we can give each other. It is never just about performing or entertaining. It is about creating memories that stay with people long after the show has ended.

My vision for my life has always been much bigger than myself. I want to leave the world a little brighter than I found it. I know I cannot change the entire world, but I can change someone's world. Sometimes all it takes is believing in someone when they have stopped believing in themselves. Sometimes it is reminding people that they are stronger than they realize. Sometimes it is simply showing up when everyone else has walked away.

One of the greatest lessons life has taught me is that love is measured by presence, loyalty, and sacrifice. The people who have walked beside me have shaped my heart forever. Some are still here, while others now live only in my memories. Their influence continues to guide me every single day. They have taught me that relationships are life's greatest treasure. Time spent with people we love is never wasted because those moments become the memories we carry forever.

Loss has also taught me the importance of living with purpose. It reminds us that tomorrow is never guaranteed. We often spend so much time waiting for the perfect opportunity that we forget today is already a gift. Because of this, I want to live each day intentionally. I want to tell people they matter. I want to forgive quickly, love deeply, laugh often, and appreciate life's simple moments. Those are the things that truly make life beautiful.

I hope people remember that I never gave up. Like everyone else, I have faced obstacles that tested my strength and challenged my spirit. There were moments when it would have been easier to walk away or settle for less. Instead, I chose to keep moving forward. Not because I was fearless, but because I believed that every setback carries within it the possibility of a greater comeback. Resilience is not about never falling. It is about finding the courage to stand up one more time than we fall.

I also hope to be remembered as someone who remained authentic. In a world where it is easy to become who others expect us to be, I have always wanted to stay true to myself. I have learned that pretending to be someone else may earn temporary approval, but authenticity earns lasting respect. I want people to remember that I was real, honest, and genuine in both my successes and my struggles.

Success, to me, has never been measured by awards or titles. Success is measured by the number of lives that are better because I was part of them. It is measured by friendships that stood the test of time, by family who always knew they were loved, by strangers who became friends, and by people who found hope because our paths crossed. Those are the achievements that cannot be displayed on a shelf but live forever in the hearts of others.

Creativity has always been a part of who I am. I believe imagination has the power to bring people together, to spark wonder, and to remind us that life is meant to be experienced with curiosity and joy. Whether through entertainment, storytelling, or simply sharing life's lessons, I hope my creativity encourages others to dream bigger and believe that anything is possible.

I also want to leave behind a legacy of gratitude. Life has not always been easy, but even in the hardest seasons there has always been something to be thankful for. Gratitude changes perspective. It allows us to see blessings even when circumstances are difficult. I want people to remember that I chose appreciation over bitterness and hope over despair whenever I could.

Above all, I want to be remembered for the love I gave. Love is the one thing that never loses its value. It outlives possessions, achievements, and even time itself. Love is found in the little things we do every day. It is found in compassion, forgiveness, generosity, patience, and kindness. If people remember that I loved wholeheartedly and gave the best of myself to those around me, then I know my life will have been worthwhile.

When my story eventually comes to its final chapter, I do not want people to focus on how many years I lived. I want them to remember how fully I lived those years. I hope they remember the smiles we shared, the laughter we created, the encouragement I offered, and the hope I tried to bring wherever I went. I hope they remember someone who believed that every person mattered and that every day was another opportunity to make a positive difference.

If I can leave behind a legacy of kindness, resilience, authenticity, compassion, joy, and love, then I will know I fulfilled my purpose. My vision has always been simple. To live a life that leaves people better than I found them. To inspire others to believe in themselves. To remind people that hope is never lost. To prove that one life, lived with purpose and love, can create ripples that continue long after we are gone.

That is how I want to be remembered. Not for what I owned, but for what I gave. Not for what I accomplished, but for the lives I touched. Not for the applause I received, but for the love I shared. If those are the memories that remain, then I will know that my life truly mattered.

God's Timing Is Always Perfect

 This weekend marked the beginning of a journey I should have started many years ago as I began preparing to receive the Sacrament of Confirmation. I was nervous walking into the first session, but those fears quickly disappeared as I listened, learned, and opened my heart. Most Catholics receive Confirmation around the age of sixteen, but as a rebellious and uncontrollable teenager, I refused to spend a year attending catechism. Looking back now, I know my parents could not have forced faith into my heart. Faith has to be embraced freely, and perhaps God knew my time had not yet come.

Since returning to the Church, I have been trying every day to become a better person and a better Catholic. Receiving this sixth sacrament feels like the final step in completing a journey that began at my baptism. Two years ago I wanted to begin this process, but I could not find a sponsor. Last year, the timing was impossible because I was away on a church mission to Vietnam. Looking back, I believe God was simply asking me to wait for His perfect timing.

This year I asked Uncle Alan, a lifelong family friend who has known my mother and uncles since before I was born. He has always been a shining example of what living the Catholic faith truly looks like. I hesitated because I knew being a sponsor involved paperwork and commitment, but before I had even finished asking, he happily agreed. What touched me even more was his excitement. The very next day he contacted his older sister to find out where he had been baptized so he could obtain his baptism certificate. Then came the most beautiful surprise. He discovered that he had been baptized in the very same church where I will receive my Confirmation. Even he had never known that. Moments like these remind me that God truly does work in mysterious ways.

One discussion during our first preparation session was about choosing a Confirmation name. While many people take a new saint's name, I have decided to remain simply Debra. My name was lovingly chosen at my baptism by both my mother and my maternal grandparents, and that makes it incredibly special to me. It is part of who I am and the life God has always known me by. There is also Saint Deborah, remembered for her wisdom, courage, and leadership as the fourth judge of Israel. Although our spellings differ, I find comfort in knowing I share my name with such a remarkable woman of faith. The words from Isaiah, "I have called you by name, you are mine," touched me deeply because they remind me that my identity has always belonged to God.

When our group was asked to think of one occasion when God communicated His love to us, I found myself unable to choose just one. In recent years, I have experienced His love through answered prayers, unexpected blessings, and countless moments when He quietly reminded me that I was never walking alone. Those experiences are the reason I am now sitting in a Confirmation classroom with an open heart, ready to say yes to Him.

Before I began this journey, my mum joked that if anyone asked why I had never been confirmed as a teenager, she would happily let me blame her. I immediately told her I never would because it was never her fault. Then my daughter shared something so wise that it stayed with me. She said, "Grandma did the right thing by not forcing you to do something you did not want to do because it would not have been meaningful. It is much more meaningful now because you have chosen this path yourself, and we are all here to support you." I could not have asked for a more beautiful reminder that faith is not about obligation but about answering God's call when our hearts are finally ready.

As I completed my first weekend of Confirmation preparation, I left feeling peaceful, grateful, and excited for what lies ahead. God has patiently waited for me all these years, never giving up on me, never withdrawing His love. Now, at last, I am ready to take this next step, trusting that the One who has called me by name will continue to guide me wherever He leads.

When Shepherds Change: My Personal Reflections on Priest Transfers, Parish Life, and Quiet Goodbyes

 

There is something quietly painful about hearing that a familiar priest will be leaving your parish. In the Catholic Church in Singapore, priest transfers, often called pastoral transitions, are presented as a normal and necessary part of Church life. On paper, it is easy to understand. In practice, it can feel like a sudden disruption to something deeply personal and spiritually meaningful.

This is my personal reflection on that experience and on the idea of priest transfers in general. It is not written as a criticism of the Church or of the priests themselves. It is an attempt to express what it feels like from the perspective of someone in the pews, and to better understand why something so emotionally significant must happen so regularly.

We are often told that pastoral transitions have existed since the early Church. Even the apostles moved from one place to another, and early Christian communities were entrusted to different shepherds over time. Priests today are also sent to different parishes as part of their vocation and mission. In Singapore, as in Brunei and Malaysia, this system of rotation is common. It is meant to allow different communities to benefit from different gifts and to ensure that no parish becomes overly dependent on one individual.

I understand this reasoning. Priests are not meant to be permanently tied to one place. Their lives are shaped by obedience, mission, and service. In theory, moving priests between parishes helps the wider Church remain alive, flexible, and responsive to needs.

But understanding something does not always make it easier to feel at peace with it.

For many parishioners, a priest is not only a leader at the altar. He becomes part of the fabric of their spiritual lives. He is present at baptisms, weddings, funerals, confessions, and quiet moments of struggle. Over time, trust is formed. Familiarity grows. A sense of stability begins to settle in. Without realizing it, a parish begins to feel like home not only because of the building or the community, but because of the priest who helps hold it together week after week.

That is why it hurts when they leave.

In my own experience, this feeling carries an added weight. I stepped away from the Church many years ago for personal reasons. When I tried to return, it was not an easy journey. Some priests I encountered did not make me feel welcome in a way that encouraged me to stay. At that time, I began to question my place in the Church entirely.

Then I encountered a priest who changed that.

Through his homilies, his presence, and the way he treated people with genuine kindness, something within me shifted. Over time, I met other priests who continued to support that return, who made me feel that faith was still something I could grow into rather than something I had to perfect before coming back. These priests became part of a deeply personal journey, one that they may never fully realize they influenced so profoundly.

So when I hear that they are being transferred, my immediate reaction is not simply disappointment. It is a kind of quiet grief. Not dramatic or loud, but deeply human. It feels like losing someone who played a part in helping me rediscover something I thought I had lost.

Yet this reflection is not really about me alone.

It is about the human side of something that is often treated as routine administration. It is about the emotional reality experienced by parishioners when familiar spiritual leaders are moved elsewhere. It is about the question that many people think but do not always say out loud. Why is this necessary in this way and at this frequency?

Is this practice unique to Singapore, Brunei, and Malaysia, or is it something that happens across the global Church? I am genuinely curious about this. If priest transfers are common everywhere, then perhaps what we are feeling is part of a wider understanding of how the Church is structured. If not, then it may be worth reflecting on how different regions approach pastoral continuity and whether there is space for a more gentle transition process.

What makes this especially difficult to process is the sense of disruption it creates in communities that are still forming bonds. In Singapore, travel is not a major barrier. One can move across the country in under an hour. So the question naturally arises. If distance is not a major issue, is there a way for priests to remain rooted in one parish for longer periods while still serving the wider needs of the Church when required?

Perhaps they could remain in one community while still being available to assist elsewhere when needed. This would allow for both stability and flexibility. It would also allow relationships within parishes to deepen without the frequent interruption of leadership changes.

I understand that priesthood is not a career in the usual sense. It is a vocation shaped by obedience and mission. There are likely many reasons for transfers that are not visible to parishioners. Priests may be moved for their own growth, for the needs of other communities, or for the overall direction of the diocese. These decisions are rarely simple.

Still, from the perspective of someone in the pews, there is a longing for continuity that is often not fully acknowledged.

Parish life is built slowly over time. It is shaped by repeated encounters, shared prayers, and familiar voices. When a priest is transferred after only a few years, sometimes even sooner, it can feel like that sense of stability is interrupted just as it begins to form. For elderly parishioners and for those who already struggle with change, this can be especially difficult.

I also think about how often people in general are required to adapt to change throughout their lives. Moving homes, changing schools, relocating for work. Even positive changes require emotional adjustment. Human beings need time to settle, to belong, and to feel rooted. Constant movement, even when it is purposeful, can quietly wear on the heart.

Priests are human too. They build relationships, routines, and a sense of belonging in their parishes. They are not immune to the emotional weight of starting over. This is why I sometimes wonder whether there is room within the Church’s structure for more long term stability, not as comfort alone, but as a foundation for deeper pastoral care.

I am not suggesting that priest transfers should stop. I am not questioning the wisdom of the Church as a whole. What I am expressing is something simpler. That these transitions carry emotional weight for the communities involved, and that this weight is often felt more deeply than it is spoken about.

Because behind every parish is a group of people trying to grow in faith together. And behind every priest is a person who has become part of that journey in ways that are not easily replaced.

When a priest is transferred, it is not just an administrative change.

It is a goodbye.

And for many people, goodbyes like these take time to understand, even when they are necessary.