26th Sunday in Ordinary Time: Living Out Our Faith

This Sunday’s readings remind me that faith is not simply about what we say. Faith is about what we choose, how we respond to God, and ultimately, how we live our lives.

The first reading from Ezekiel speaks very clearly about personal responsibility. God tells us that when an upright person turns away from what is right and chooses sin, that person is responsible for the choices made. But the reading also gives us hope. When a sinner turns away from sin and chooses to live according to God’s ways, that person will live. To me, this is a beautiful reminder that our past does not have to define our future.

God gives us free will. He does not force us to choose Him. He does not force us to love, to forgive, to serve or to do what is right. He allows us to make our own choices, even when those choices take us away from Him. Yet when we recognize that we have gone in the wrong direction and turn back to Him, He does not turn us away. He welcomes us with mercy and gives us the grace and strength to begin again.

That part of the reading speaks deeply to me because I know what it is like to have been away from God and then find my way back.

There was a time in my life when I had walked away from the Church. I questioned my faith, became distant from God and spent years living without making Him a central part of my life. But God never stopped calling me back. When I eventually returned to the Church and went to confession, it felt like coming home.

Looking back, I realize that God was never the one who walked away from me. I was the one who had turned away. Yet when I finally turned back, He was there.

That is the mercy of God.

It also reminds me that returning to God is not a one time decision. Every day, we are given opportunities to choose Him again. We can choose patience instead of anger. Forgiveness instead of resentment. Kindness instead of judgement. Service instead of selfishness. Faith instead of fear.

The Gospel takes this message even further through the parable of the two sons.

The father asks both sons to go and work in the vineyard. The first son initially says no, but later changes his mind and goes. The second son says yes, but does not go.

Jesus then asks, “Which of the two did the father’s will?”

The answer is not the son who simply said the right thing. It is the son who eventually acted.

That question makes me reflect on how easy it can be for us as Christians to say the right things. We can say that we love God. We can say that we trust Him. We can say that we want to serve Him. We can say that we want to help others and live according to the Gospel.

But what happens after we say those words?

Do our actions reflect them?

This is where the Gospel becomes very personal for me.

Since returning to my faith, I have come to understand that being Catholic is not just about attending Mass every Sunday. Mass is incredibly important to me, but what happens after we leave the Church matters too. The Gospel should follow us home. It should follow us into our families, our workplaces, our friendships and our everyday encounters with people.

It is easy to say we have faith when everything is going well. It is much harder to live that faith when we are hurt, disappointed, misunderstood or afraid.

I have had moments in my own life when I have had to learn to trust God even when I did not understand what He was doing. Through loss, disappointment and difficult seasons, I have slowly learned that I do not always need to understand God’s plan in order to trust Him.

Living out our faith means making a conscious choice to keep turning towards God, even when life does not go according to our plans.

It also means recognizing that we will sometimes be like the first son.

There will be times when God asks something of us and our first response may be no. We may feel tired. We may feel afraid. We may not feel ready. We may question whether we are capable. We may even resist what God is asking of us.

But the first son teaches us that changing our minds and responding later still matters.

That gives me hope because God does not expect perfection from us. He asks for a willing heart.

My experience with Landings has also helped me see this more clearly. Landings is about creating a space where people can reconnect with God, with the Church and with themselves. Many people who return to the Church may have complicated stories. Some may have been away for years. Some may have questions. Some may feel that they no longer belong.

But perhaps their story is not finished.

Perhaps they are simply at the point where they are ready to turn around and say yes to God again.

The first reading reminds us that God sees that turning back. He sees the heart that chooses to return. The Gospel reminds us that what matters is not simply what we say, but what we eventually do.

This is why I believe living out our faith also means being present for others.

Sometimes living the Gospel is not about doing something extraordinary. It can be as simple as checking in on someone who is struggling, caring for our parents, being patient with our children, forgiving someone who has hurt us, welcoming someone who feels left out or offering our time when we would rather be doing something else.

These ordinary acts can become extraordinary when they are done with love.

The vineyard in today’s Gospel can be seen as the world God has placed us in. Each of us has been given an invitation to work in it. We may respond immediately. We may hesitate. We may even say no at first.

But the invitation remains.

And perhaps the question Jesus asks us today is not simply, “What have you said?”

Perhaps it is, “What have you done with what you said?”

Our faith becomes real when it moves from our lips to our lives.

As I reflect on these readings, I am reminded that God gives each of us the freedom to choose, but He also gives us the grace to change. We are not defined only by the times we have failed. We are also defined by the moments when we choose to get back up, turn towards God and try again.

I pray for the grace to be less concerned about saying the right things and more willing to live them.

May my yes to God be more than words.

May it be seen in how I love, how I forgive, how I serve, how I care for others and how I respond when God calls me to step outside my comfort zone.

And when I get it wrong, may I have the humility to turn back.

Because ultimately, living out our faith is not about being perfect.

It is about continuing to choose God, one day at a time.

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Reflection: What is one concrete step that I can take today to do God's will?

A concrete step I can take today is to put my faith into action through one simple act of love and service. It could be spending intentional time with my parents, reaching out to someone who may need encouragement, or choosing patience and forgiveness in a situation where I would normally react differently. For me, doing God’s will is not always about doing something big. Sometimes it is simply recognising the people and opportunities God places in front of me and responding with love. Today, I want my “yes” to God to be more than words. I want someone to experience God’s love through something I do.

Movie Recommendation: The Baby My Husband Lied About (2025)

 

I just watched The Baby My Husband Lied About (2025), and honestly, what a rollercoaster! As someone who enjoys a good Lifetime thriller, I knew I was probably in for plenty of drama, secrets and unexpected twists, but this movie still managed to surprise me. It had me questioning almost everyone, wondering what was really going on and, more than once, sitting there thinking, “Wait… WHAT?!”

The story follows Jen, played by Yoshié Bancroft, a woman who is excited about finally becoming a mother through IVF. For someone who has dreamed of starting a family, the happiness and anticipation surrounding the pregnancy feel very real. You can feel Jen's excitement and emotional investment in becoming a mum, which makes everything that happens afterwards even more unsettling.

Her joy quickly turns into confusion, suspicion and fear when she discovers that her sperm donor has been murdered. And then comes the really uncomfortable question. Could her own husband, Spencer, played by Clayton James, somehow be connected to it?

That is where the movie really grabbed my attention.

I have always found stories involving relationships, trust and betrayal fascinating because they make you think about how well we actually know the people closest to us. We can spend years with someone, share a home, build a family and believe we know everything about them, only to discover that there may be parts of their life they have kept hidden.

And this movie takes that idea and runs with it.

Jen is suddenly faced with questions she never expected to ask. Who can she trust? Why are certain things being kept from her? What does her husband really know? And how far back do these secrets go?

The IVF element also adds another emotional layer to the story. Becoming a parent through IVF can already involve so many emotions, from hope and excitement to anxiety and uncertainty. The movie takes that very personal journey and places it right in the middle of a mystery involving deception, murder and family secrets. It certainly makes the stakes feel much higher.

Yoshié Bancroft did a great job portraying Jen's vulnerability. I could feel her confusion as she tried to make sense of everything happening around her. One moment she is excited about becoming a mother, and the next she is questioning the people she should be able to trust the most. That emotional transformation kept me invested in her story.

Clayton James also brings the right amount of mystery to Spencer. There are moments when you think you have figured him out, only for the story to throw another question at you. Is he hiding something? Is there more to the situation than Jen knows? Or are we simply being led down the wrong path?

That is what kept me watching.

Now, let's be honest. This is a Lifetime thriller, so subtle storytelling is probably not what you are going to get. There are melodramatic moments, dramatic reactions, family secrets, suspicious behaviour and twists that sometimes make you want to shout at the screen.

But honestly, that is part of the fun!

I actually love movies that make me talk back to the television. Give me a good mystery where I can sit there trying to figure out who is lying, who is telling the truth and what on earth is going to happen next. I found myself doing exactly that while watching this one.

There were definitely moments where I thought I knew where the story was going, only to have another twist thrown at me. Some of the developments are certainly dramatic, but they kept the story moving and gave me enough curiosity to want to see how everything would eventually unravel.

The pacing also worked for me. I never felt like I was completely losing interest because there was always another question hanging in the air. Just when you think you might have the answers, something else comes along to make you question your theory.

Is it a perfect thriller? No.

Is every part of the story completely believable? Probably not.

But if I wanted complete realism, I probably would not be watching a Lifetime thriller in the first place! Sometimes I want to sit back, switch off from reality and enjoy a movie that gives me drama, suspense, secrets and enough twists to keep me entertained.

And The Baby My Husband Lied About certainly did that.

What I particularly enjoyed was the underlying theme of trust. Relationships are built on the belief that the person beside you is being honest with you. But what happens when that trust begins to crack? What happens when you start discovering things that make you question everything you thought you knew?

That is where this movie becomes more than just a murder mystery for me.

It made me think about how easily secrets can change the way we see someone. Once doubt enters a relationship, even the smallest thing can suddenly seem suspicious. You start looking back at conversations, situations and moments differently because you are wondering whether there was something you missed.

And that is probably the biggest question I took away from this movie.

How well do we really know the people closest to us?

If you enjoy Lifetime movies, domestic thrillers, complicated relationships and stories filled with betrayal, secrets and unexpected twists, I think this one is worth adding to your watchlist.

Just do not expect a quiet, subtle movie where everything unfolds gently.

This one comes with drama, suspicion, emotional chaos and plenty of moments that will probably have you saying, “What?!”

For me, that is exactly what made it entertaining.

My verdict: If you enjoy a good Lifetime thriller that keeps you guessing and gives you plenty of family drama along the way, give The Baby My Husband Lied About a watch. It may not be the most subtle thriller out there, but it definitely kept me entertained and, more importantly, it kept me watching until the very end.

And after watching it, I am reminded of one thing.

Sometimes the people we think we know the best can still have the biggest secrets.

What Am I Not Doing Because of Fear?

There are questions that are easy to answer because we already know the answer. Then there are questions that make us stop, sit quietly and really look at ourselves. “What am I not doing because of fear?” is one of those questions for me. It is not a question I can answer with a simple list because, if I am completely honest with myself, fear has influenced more of my decisions than I would sometimes like to admit.

I have always thought of myself as someone who is courageous. I have taken risks, started over, changed direction, tried new things and walked into situations where I did not know exactly what was going to happen. I have travelled, built businesses, written books, created opportunities for myself and stepped into new chapters of my life even when I did not have all the answers. Yet being brave does not mean being without fear. Perhaps real courage is recognizing that the fear is there and deciding not to let it have the final say.

I think one of the biggest things I have not done because of fear is simply allowing myself to dream bigger.

I have spent so much of my life thinking about what is practical, what is affordable, what other people might need and what responsibilities I have to my family. If my children need something, I can spend without thinking twice. If someone I love needs help, I am usually there. But when it comes to myself, I can hesitate. I question whether I really need something. I think about whether I should spend the money. I wonder whether I should wait. I tell myself that there will always be another time.

Sometimes I wonder whether that is really prudence or whether, underneath it all, there is a little bit of fear.

Fear of making the wrong decision. Fear of wasting money. Fear of failing. Fear of discovering that something I really wanted was not meant for me after all. It can be much easier to stay where we are than to take a chance on something we deeply want.

I also think about how often I have held myself back creatively because I was afraid that what I created would not be good enough.

Writing has always been a huge part of who I am. I have written books, blog posts, reflections, social media content and personal stories. I have shared pieces of my life with people I may never even meet. Yet even after doing all of that, there are still moments when I wonder whether my words matter. Will anyone read them? Will anyone understand what I am trying to say? Will people judge me? Will they think I am too emotional, too personal or too much?

The funny thing is that I have already learned that perfection is not the point. My stories do not have to be perfect to be meaningful. My words do not have to change the world to touch one person. Somewhere along the way, I think I forgot that.

Perhaps fear has also stopped me from putting myself out there in bigger ways.

I have ideas. So many ideas. Some are practical, some are creative and some probably sound completely crazy until I start explaining them. I have always had that entrepreneurial side of me that wants to build something, create something and turn an idea into something real. Whether it is writing, publishing, boots, creative projects or something completely new, I know there is still more inside me that wants to come out.

But with every new idea comes the same questions.

What if it does not work? What if people do not like it? What if I spend time and money on it and nothing comes from it? What if I am too old to start something new? What if I fail publicly?

Those questions can become very loud.

But I am beginning to realize that there is another question I need to ask myself. What if I never try?

Failure is uncomfortable, but regret can stay with us for much longer. At least failure tells us that we tried. Regret often comes from knowing that we never gave ourselves the opportunity in the first place.

There are also relationships and connections I might approach differently if fear did not get in the way.

Loss has taught me that life can change in an instant. Losing someone who means the world to you changes the way you look at time, love and the people around you. It reminds you that tomorrow is never something we are guaranteed. I have experienced the pain of losing people I loved deeply, and those experiences have changed me.

Yet even knowing this, I can still hesitate to say what I feel.

Sometimes I hold back because I do not want to appear vulnerable. Sometimes I do not want to burden someone with my emotions. Sometimes I worry that saying too much will make me look weak. But perhaps vulnerability is not weakness at all. Perhaps it is one of the most honest forms of courage.

I think there are still things I want to say to people. There are people I want to thank. People I want to tell how much they have meant to me. People I want to forgive. There are also people I may need to let go of, not because I no longer care, but because I have learned that holding on is not always the same as loving.

Fear can make us hold on to things because change is frightening. But sometimes the very thing we fear is the doorway to something better.

And then there is the biggest fear of all for me.

The fear of trusting completely.

My faith has taught me so much about surrender. I have reached a place where I genuinely believe that God has a plan for my life, even when I cannot see what that plan is. I have experienced difficult seasons, heartbreak, disappointment and uncertainty, and yet somehow I have continued to find my way back to God.

I used to think trusting God meant knowing what would happen next. Now I understand that perhaps faith is trusting Him even when I do not know.

That is still a work in progress for me.

Sometimes I want answers immediately. I want to know where the next door is going to lead before I walk through it. I want reassurance that I am making the right decision before I take the first step. But faith does not always give us a map. Sometimes it gives us enough light to take the next step.

Perhaps that is what I am not doing because of fear. I am not always taking that next step.

I am waiting for certainty.

I am waiting until I feel ready.

I am waiting until I know everything will work out.

But life does not work that way.

There will always be uncertainty. There will always be things outside my control. There will always be people who do not understand my choices and situations that do not turn out the way I expected. I cannot control all of that. What I can control is whether I allow fear to make my world smaller.

So what am I not doing because of fear?

Perhaps I am not saying yes often enough to the things that excite me. Perhaps I am not taking enough chances on myself. Perhaps I am not allowing myself to dream without immediately calculating all the reasons something might fail. Perhaps I am still protecting myself from disappointment when what I really need to do is open myself up to possibility.

I do not want fear to become the reason I look back one day and wonder what might have happened.

I want to live.

Not recklessly, but fully.

I want to keep writing. I want to keep creating. I want to build things that make me proud. I want to continue sharing my faith and my stories. I want to love people openly. I want to laugh loudly, wear the boots I love, travel, try new things and say yes to experiences that make my heart happy. I want to keep discovering who I am in every new season of my life.

Most importantly, I want to trust God enough to understand that I do not have to know everything before I begin.

Maybe fear will never completely disappear. Maybe that is not the goal.

Maybe the goal is to stop allowing fear to make my decisions for me.

I have already survived things I once thought would break me. I have walked through grief, uncertainty, disappointment and change. I have started again more than once. I have picked myself up when life knocked me down. I have found faith when I needed it most.

So perhaps I am stronger than my fear gives me credit for.

And perhaps it is time I gave myself permission to find out just how far I can go.

The next chapter of my life does not need to be fearless.

It simply needs to be lived with faith, courage and an open heart.

25th Sunday in Ordinary Time: For Me, Life Is Christ

There are certain words in Scripture that we can hear many times, but every now and then, they speak to us in a much deeper and more personal way. For me, the words from today's second reading are exactly that: “Life to me, of course, is Christ.” The more I reflect on these words from St Paul, the more I realize that they are not simply beautiful words about faith. They are an invitation to look at my own life and ask myself what, or rather who, is truly at the centre of it. To say that “life is Christ” means recognizing that my life is not ultimately defined by my achievements, possessions, plans, disappointments or even the difficult seasons I have walked through. My life belongs to Christ, and everything I experience can become part of my relationship with Him.

That understanding has not come overnight. My own faith journey has had its twists and turns. I was baptized Catholic as a baby, attended catechism and grew up knowing the Church, but there was also a long period in my life when I walked away. I was away from the Church for many years, and for a time, I probably could not have imagined just how important my faith would eventually become to me. Then, about ten years ago, I found my way back. One of the most significant moments for me was going to Confession after being away for about fifteen years. That return was not simply about walking through the doors of a church again. For me, it felt like coming home. Since returning, I have never looked back, and I now see that God was never really finished with me, even during the years when I had wandered away.

My faith today is also very different from when I was younger because I have experienced more of life. I have experienced loss, disappointment, uncertainty, family struggles and moments when I have had to surrender things that were completely beyond my control. Through these experiences, I have learnt that trusting God does not mean understanding everything He allows to happen. There have been moments when I could have asked God why something happened or why certain things had to be so difficult. Yet, over time, I have learnt to trust His plan more deeply. I may not always understand what He is doing, but I have come to believe that God sees what I cannot see and knows what I cannot know.

That is why St Paul's words speak to me so strongly. When he says, “Christ will be glorified in my body, whether by my life or by my death,” he is showing us that his life belonged completely to Christ. His circumstances did not determine his faith, and his suffering did not cause him to turn away. Instead, he continued to trust and serve. I find that both challenging and inspiring because it is easy to say that Christ is at the centre of our lives when everything is going well. The real test comes when life does not go according to plan. Can I still say that life is Christ when I am hurting? Can I still trust Him when I do not understand? Can I continue to serve when I am tired or disappointed? I believe St Paul is reminding me that faith is not about having all the answers. It is about knowing who I can place my trust in even when I do not have the answers.

The first reading reinforces this beautifully when we are reminded that God's thoughts are not our thoughts and His ways are not our ways. How often have I tried to work out God's plan for my life? I have looked at circumstances and tried to understand why certain things happened, and I have tried to make sense of situations that simply did not make sense to me. But perhaps faith is learning to say, “God, I do not understand this, but I trust You.” That has become increasingly important in my own journey. I no longer want my faith to depend on whether life is going according to my plan. I want my faith to be strong enough to trust God even when His plan looks completely different from mine. Sometimes what I thought was a setback has eventually led me somewhere I never expected, and sometimes what I desperately wanted did not happen because God had something else in mind.

Then we come to today's Gospel, the parable of the workers in the vineyard, and this Gospel speaks to me in an especially personal way. The landowner goes out at different times of the day and hires workers. Some begin early in the morning, others are brought in later, and some only arrive at the very last hour. Yet when the day ends, the landowner gives them the same wage. Those who worked all day become resentful because, from a human perspective, it seems unfair. If I had worked from morning until evening while someone else had only worked for an hour, I might also have wondered why we were receiving the same. But Jesus is not really giving us a lesson about wages. He is teaching us about God's grace, generosity and mercy.

When I hear this Gospel today, I cannot help but think about my own return to the Catholic Church. I was not one of those people who stayed faithfully close to the Church every single day of my life. I wandered, I was away, and I took my own path for many years. Yet when I came home, God did not make me feel as though I had arrived too late. He did not ask me where I had been all those years before welcoming me back. He gave me another opportunity. He allowed me to rediscover my faith and to experience Him in ways I may never have experienced had I not gone through that journey. Looking back, I realize that God's mercy was there even when I was not paying attention to it.

That is why I believe so strongly that we should never make someone feel that they are too late to return to God. There is no “too late” with God and there is no expiration date on His mercy. There is always room in His vineyard. This is one of the reasons my Landings journey has been so meaningful to me. Joining Landings has given me an opportunity to reflect more deeply on what it means to welcome people who have been away from the Church and are trying to find their way home. It is not simply about bringing someone back to Mass. It is about listening, belonging and creating a space where someone can say, “I have been away,” without feeling judged. It is about allowing people to tell their stories and recognizing that everyone's journey back to God is different.

Perhaps because I have my own story of being away and returning, I understand how important that welcome can be. Sometimes people do not need someone to lecture them. They need someone to listen. Sometimes they do not need someone to remind them of everything they have done wrong. They need someone to remind them that they still belong. Sometimes they simply need someone to say, “It is okay. Come home.” My Landings journey has made me realize that my own experience of returning to the Church was not simply something that happened for me. Perhaps God can use that experience to help me welcome someone else. Perhaps my story can remind another person that returning to God is possible and that they do not have to feel ashamed of how long they have been away.

The workers in today's Gospel also remind me that God's Kingdom is not a competition. We do not earn more of God's love because we have been Catholics longer, and we do not become more worthy because we have served in the Church for decades. Someone who has only just returned is not somehow less loved because they arrived later. God's love is not measured according to our human calculations. When I returned to the Church after so many years, I did not have to earn my way back. I simply had to open my heart, and God met me there. That is the beauty of His mercy.

The Gospel also challenges me to look honestly at my own heart. It is very easy to compare our journey with someone else's, even within the Church. We can look at how much another person serves, how long they have been involved or what they seem to have received, and wonder why things appear different for us. But Jesus reminds us that we are not serving God for recognition or reward. We serve because we are grateful. We serve because we love Him. We serve because we have already received so much from Him. If someone returns to the Church after twenty years, that should be something we celebrate. If someone discovers their faith later in life, we should celebrate that too. Their return does not take anything away from us because God's love is not a limited resource. There is enough grace for all of us and enough room in His vineyard for everyone.

This is perhaps one of the greatest lessons I am taking away from today's readings. My journey back to the Church has taught me that God never stopped calling me, even when I was not listening. My Landings journey is teaching me that perhaps now I have a responsibility to help others hear that call too. Not by forcing, judging or telling people what they should do, but by listening, welcoming and sharing my own story. I want people who have been away from the Church to know that the door is still open. I want them to know that they are not alone and that their journey does not have to look like anyone else's. Because I know what it feels like to walk away, and I know what it feels like to come home.

Today, when I hear St Paul say, “Life to me, of course, is Christ,” I hear those words differently because of everything I have experienced. For me, it means that Christ is not simply a part of my life. He is the foundation of it. He is the One I turn to when I am grateful, the One I turn to when I am hurting and the One I trust when I do not understand. He is the One who welcomed me home when I found my way back, and perhaps now He is asking me to help make His Church feel like home for someone else.

The first reading reminds me that God's ways are higher than mine. The second reading reminds me that my life belongs to Christ. The Gospel reminds me that God's mercy welcomes everyone, even those who arrive at the very last hour. When I put all three readings together, I hear a very personal invitation to trust God, live for Christ and leave the door open for others to come home.

I do not know where my faith journey will take me next, but I know that I want my life to be a reflection of the One who never gave up on me. If I can help even one person who has been away from the Church feel welcomed, heard, loved and safe enough to take that first step home, then perhaps my own journey has a purpose beyond myself. Perhaps the years I spent away, the experience of returning and everything I have learnt since then can become part of how God uses me to reach someone else.

Because I have learnt that coming home to God is not something to be ashamed of. It is something to celebrate. And so today, I want to say those words not just with my lips but with my whole heart: “Life to me, of course, is Christ.” If Christ truly is my life, then I pray that my life will always leave a little more room for someone else to find their way back to Him.

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Reflection: Can I say the words of St. Paul, "Life to me is Christ"? What would that look like in my life now?

When I ask myself whether I can truly say, “Life to me is Christ,” I realize that this is not about how religious I am. It is about what guides me when life becomes difficult, what I hold on to when I do not have all the answers and what kind of person I choose to be each day.

For me, saying these words means allowing Christ to shape the way I live, not just the way I pray. It means trying to be more patient when I am frustrated, more forgiving when I have been hurt, more generous with my time and more willing to reach out to someone who may need encouragement. It means choosing love over resentment, gratitude over focusing on what I do not have and trust over fear.

It also means accepting that I cannot control everything. I like to understand things and make sense of situations, but faith reminds me that I do not always need to have all the answers. Sometimes I simply need to place what I cannot control in God's hands and trust that He will lead me where I need to be.

My Landings journey has also made me realize that living for Christ can be found in the simplest things. Sometimes it is listening to someone without judging, making someone feel welcome or simply being present when another person needs a little encouragement. I do not have to do something extraordinary to reflect Christ. I can do it through the ordinary moments of everyday life.

I know I will not always get it right, and I am certainly still a work in progress. But perhaps “Life to me is Christ” is not about being perfect. It is about choosing, day after day, to let my faith shape the way I live, love, serve and treat others. If I can carry Christ with me beyond the church and allow even a little of His love to be reflected through my life, then I believe I am beginning to live those words rather than simply say them.

First Reading - Isaiah 55:6-9

Second Reading - Philippians 1:20-24,27

Gospel - Matthew 20:1-16

Movie Recommendation: Joyful Noise (2012)

 If you are looking for a movie that combines music, faith, family, laughter, a little romance and plenty of heart, Joyful Noise is one I would definitely recommend adding to your watch list.

Released in 2012 and directed by Todd Graff, Joyful Noise is a musical comedy-drama centred around a small-town church choir in Pacashau, Georgia. The community is struggling financially, and the choir is facing the possibility of being shut down. Their hope is to win the National Joyful Noise Competition and bring some much-needed encouragement and pride back to their town.

But the biggest challenge isn't necessarily the competition itself. It is the clash between two very strong-minded women.

And this is where the movie gets really entertaining.

The two women at the centre of the story are Vi Rose Hill, played by Queen Latifah, and G.G. Sparrow, played by Dolly Parton. After the death of the choir director, Vi Rose takes over the choir. G.G., the director's widow, believes she should have had more say in what happens. The two women have very different personalities and very different ideas about how the choir should sound.

Vi Rose believes in tradition. G.G. believes that tradition should not stop you from trying something new.

Their disagreements create plenty of funny moments, but underneath all the arguments is something much more meaningful: both women genuinely care about their community, their families and their faith.

One of the biggest reasons I would recommend this movie is Dolly Parton.

Dolly plays G.G. Sparrow, and honestly, she brings so much personality to the role. G.G. is confident, outspoken, funny and completely unafraid to say exactly what she thinks. That makes her a wonderful character for Dolly to play.

What makes it even better is seeing Dolly share the screen with Queen Latifah. The contrast between the two characters gives the movie much of its energy. Their chemistry and musical performances are among the film's biggest attractions. Contemporary reviews also highlighted the strength of their performances and the musical numbers.

And if you already love Dolly Parton, you get the added pleasure of watching her do what she does so naturally: entertain, sing, make you laugh and occasionally deliver a little wisdom along the way.

Of course, you cannot talk about Joyful Noise without talking about the music.

This is a gospel choir movie, but it doesn't restrict itself to traditional gospel music. The film mixes gospel with contemporary pop influences, creating some wonderfully energetic musical performances. The choir even performs gospel-inspired versions of familiar popular songs.

The result is a soundtrack that feels joyful, uplifting and very accessible, even if you are not normally someone who watches gospel musicals.

There is something particularly wonderful about watching people who may be struggling with life come together through music. Singing becomes more than entertainment. It becomes a way of expressing faith, hope, frustration, love and community.

And that is really the heart of the movie.

Although the National Joyful Noise Competition provides the main storyline, there are several smaller stories happening at the same time.

Vi Rose is raising two teenagers and trying to protect her family while dealing with her own struggles. Her daughter Olivia, played by Keke Palmer, is talented and independent and does not always see eye-to-eye with her mother.

G.G.'s grandson Randy, played by Jeremy Jordan, also arrives and becomes romantically interested in Olivia. Their relationship adds another layer to the story, particularly because the adults have their own ideas about what is best for the younger generation.

There is also Walter, Vi Rose's son, whose character brings another dimension to the family story.

So while the movie is wrapped in music and comedy, it touches on some surprisingly real themes: parenting, grief, financial hardship, generational differences, relationships, faith and learning to accept that sometimes another person's way of doing things may have value too.

Perhaps the message I enjoyed most about Joyful Noise is the idea that harmony does not mean everyone has to sound the same.

That is true in music and, perhaps even more importantly, it is true in life.

Vi Rose and G.G. are very different women. They disagree, they clash and they certainly know how to get under each other's skin. But eventually they have to realize that their differences don't necessarily have to divide them.

They need one another.

And perhaps that is one of the loveliest messages hidden underneath all the singing and comedy: sometimes we create something beautiful precisely because different people bring different voices to the same song.

Joyful Noise is not a complicated movie, and it certainly isn't trying to be a serious theological exploration. In fact, critics were divided about the storyline, with some finding the plot predictable while praising the musical performances.

But sometimes you don't need a movie to be complicated.

Sometimes you simply want something that makes you smile.

Something that reminds you about faith.

Something that makes you want to sing.

Something that reminds you that difficult seasons don't last forever.

And sometimes you just want to watch Dolly Parton and Queen Latifah arguing, singing and trying to save a church choir!

So if you enjoy feel-good movies with music, humour, family, faith and a little bit of romance, I would definitely recommend giving Joyful Noise a try.

And if you are a Dolly Parton fan, that's even more reason to watch it.

After all, with Dolly Parton, Queen Latifah and a gospel choir involved, you already know you're going to get plenty of joyful noise.

The Things I Knew Mattered, But Still Chose to Avoid

 

There are some questions that make you stop and really think. Not because you do not know the answer, but because you know it all too well.

“What did I avoid that I knew mattered this year?”

My first instinct was to think about the things I did not accomplish. The plans I postponed. The ideas I left sitting in notebooks. The conversations I kept putting off. The dreams I told myself I would get to when life became a little less complicated.

But the more I thought about it, the more I realized that perhaps the things I avoided were not really tasks. They were feelings. They were decisions. They were moments of vulnerability. They were the things that required me to slow down long enough to ask myself what I truly wanted, what I truly needed and what God might be asking me to let go of.

This year has reminded me that being busy is not the same as moving forward.

I have always been someone who keeps going. Give me a challenge and I will find a way. Give me a problem and I will try to solve it. Give me an idea and I will probably turn it into a project before I have even finished thinking about it. I have built things, written things, helped people, served, worked, created and carried on even when life was not particularly gentle.

Sometimes I think I have become very good at keeping myself busy because busy means I do not always have to sit still with the questions that make me uncomfortable.

Perhaps one of the things I avoided this year was rest.

Not simply having a quiet afternoon or taking a day off, but genuinely resting without feeling that I should be doing something productive. I have often associated progress with movement. If I am doing something, I feel useful. If I am achieving something, I feel that I am moving forward.

But maybe there are seasons when moving forward means being still.

My faith has been teaching me that lesson in ways I did not expect. Be still and know that God is here.

Being still is harder than it sounds.

When you are still, you hear your own thoughts. You notice what hurts. You recognize what you have been avoiding. You begin to see which things are worth holding onto and which things have simply become habits because you were afraid to release them.

I also avoided having some conversations with myself.

The honest ones.

What do I really want for the next chapter of my life? What deserves my energy? Who deserves access to my heart? What am I doing because it genuinely matters to me, and what am I doing simply because I have always done it?

Those are uncomfortable questions because sometimes the answers require change.

And change can be frightening, even when it is good.

This year has also taught me that I cannot keep waiting for everything to be perfect before I allow myself to move forward. There will always be something unfinished. There will always be another responsibility, another problem to solve, another person who needs something from me.

If I wait until life is perfectly organized before I pursue the things that matter, I may spend my whole life waiting.

I have also avoided giving myself enough credit.

I can be quick to celebrate other people. I can encourage someone else, remind them of their strengths and tell them how far they have come. Yet when it comes to myself, I sometimes move straight on to the next goal without stopping to acknowledge what I have already survived, learned and accomplished.

That needs to change.

I have lived through difficult seasons. I have experienced loss. I have had moments when I did not know what the future would look like. I have watched plans change. I have had people come into my life and people leave it. I have experienced disappointment, uncertainty, grief, love, faith and unexpected blessings.

And somehow, I am still here.

Not just surviving.

Growing.

That is something worth celebrating.

Perhaps I also avoided trusting myself.

There have been moments when I have second guessed my instincts, questioned my decisions and wondered whether I was asking for too much or dreaming too big. But I am beginning to understand that confidence does not mean knowing exactly how everything will turn out.

Confidence means taking the next step anyway.

That is something I have been learning in my faith too. I do not need to know the entire road before I take the next step. God does not always give us the full map. Sometimes He simply gives us enough light for where we are standing.

And perhaps that is enough.

One of the biggest things I avoided this year was accepting that some things are simply not mine to control.

I can love people, but I cannot make their decisions for them.

I can offer advice, but I cannot choose someone's path.

I can work hard, but I cannot control every outcome.

I can pray, but I cannot dictate God's timing.

That last one is probably the hardest.

I have learned that surrender is not giving up. Surrender is trusting that I do not have to carry everything myself.

There is tremendous freedom in that.

Looking back, I realize that the things I avoided were often the very things that mattered most. Rest mattered. Honest conversations mattered. My dreams mattered. My boundaries mattered. My happiness mattered. My faith mattered. My relationships mattered. And perhaps most importantly, I mattered too.

I do not want to carry the same avoidance into another year.

I want to be braver about the things that matter.

I want to make the phone call. Have the conversation. Start the project. Say the prayer. Take the opportunity. Walk away when something no longer serves its purpose. Say yes when something feels right. Say no when something does not. Rest without guilt. Love without fear. Dream without apologizing for the size of the dream.

Most of all, I want to stop postponing my own life.

There will always be reasons to wait.

There will always be another Monday, another month, another year.

But life is happening now.

So perhaps the real lesson from this question is not about what I avoided this year. Perhaps it is about what I will no longer avoid moving forward.

I will no longer avoid becoming the woman I know I am capable of becoming.

I will no longer avoid choosing myself when choosing myself is necessary.

I will no longer avoid the dreams that keep returning to my heart.

I will no longer avoid the quiet moments where God may be trying to get my attention.

And I will no longer be afraid of the unknown simply because I cannot see the whole road.

I have learned enough to know that I do not need to have everything figured out.

I just need courage for the next step.

Faith for the next chapter.

And the willingness to finally give myself permission to become everything I was created to be.

Maybe that is what this year was really trying to teach me.

The things that matter most are often the things we are most tempted to avoid.

So next year, I want to meet them head on.

With faith.

With courage.

With an open heart.

And with the quiet confidence that whatever comes next, I will be ready for it.

24th Sunday in Ordinary Time: The Courageous Act of Forgiving

 Forgiveness is one of the hardest things God asks of us, yet it is also one of the most freeing. When someone hurts us, especially when the hurt is deep and personal, our first instinct can be to protect ourselves, hold on to the pain and remember what was done to us. Sometimes we may even feel that forgiving means saying that what happened was acceptable. But the readings for the 24th Sunday in Ordinary Time remind me that forgiveness is not about denying the hurt. It is about choosing not to allow that hurt to control the rest of my life.

In the first reading from Ecclesiasticus, we are reminded of something very challenging: “If a man nurses anger against another, can he then demand compassion from the Lord?” These words make me stop and think. How can I ask God to forgive me for my own mistakes, weaknesses and failures while refusing to extend forgiveness to someone who has hurt me?

I know that I am not perfect. I have made mistakes. I have said things I wish I could take back. I have disappointed people and I have needed forgiveness myself. Every time I go before God and ask for His mercy, I am reminded of how generous His love is. God does not keep a record of my failures and use them against me. He invites me to repent, to learn, to grow and to begin again.

That is why forgiveness is such an important part of my own faith journey.

There have been moments in my life when I have been hurt, disappointed and let down by people. There have been situations where I have struggled to understand why someone behaved the way they did or why certain things had to happen. I have learned that it is very easy to carry these experiences with me. We can replay conversations in our minds, think about what we should have said, wonder why someone treated us a certain way and quietly allow resentment to take root in our hearts.

But the longer I hold on to anger, the heavier my heart becomes.

Jesus takes this teaching even further in today's Gospel. Peter asks Jesus how many times he should forgive someone who sins against him. Peter probably thought he was being generous when he suggested forgiving seven times. But Jesus answered, “Not seven, I tell you, but seventy seven times.”

I love how direct Jesus is.

He does not give Peter a number so that we can keep count. Jesus is teaching us that forgiveness cannot simply be a mathematical exercise. It has to become a way of living. We cannot say, “I have forgiven this person seven times, so that is enough.” Forgiveness is something we may have to choose again and again.

Sometimes we forgive someone and then the memory comes back. Sometimes the pain resurfaces when we least expect it. Sometimes we think we have moved on, only to discover that there is still a part of our heart that hurts. Does that mean we failed to forgive? I do not think so. Perhaps it simply means that forgiveness is a journey.

For me, forgiveness has taught me that I can acknowledge that something hurt me without allowing that hurt to become who I am.

I can recognize that something was wrong without living in anger. I can seek truth and justice when necessary without filling my heart with hatred. I can create boundaries when I need to protect myself while still asking God to bless the person who hurt me.

That is not weakness.

That takes courage.

The parable Jesus shares in the Gospel makes this even clearer. A servant owes his master an enormous debt and is unable to repay it. The master shows him mercy and forgives the entire debt. Yet when that same servant encounters another servant who owes him a much smaller amount, he refuses to show the same mercy.

Jesus is showing us something uncomfortable about human nature. Sometimes we are very aware of the mercy we need from God, but we can quickly forget the mercy we have received when someone else hurts us.

How often have I asked God for patience, understanding and forgiveness for myself? Yet when someone else makes a mistake, how quickly can I become frustrated or judgmental?

The Gospel challenges me to look at my own heart.

God has forgiven me more times than I can count. He has given me opportunities to start again. He has remained faithful even when I have not always been faithful to Him. If I truly believe in God's mercy, then I have to allow that mercy to change the way I treat other people.

Forgiving someone does not mean I suddenly forget everything that happened. It does not mean I have to restore every relationship to the way it was before. It does not mean I have to put myself back into a situation that continues to hurt me.

Forgiveness is something that happens within my heart.

It is saying, “Lord, I give this to You. I cannot carry this forever. You know what happened. You know how much it hurt. You know what I have struggled with. I choose to place this person and this situation into Your hands.”

Sometimes that prayer is easy.

Sometimes it is not.

Sometimes I have had to pray it more than once.

And perhaps that is exactly what Jesus means when He tells us to forgive seventy seven times. There may be days when I feel that I have forgiven someone, and then another memory brings the hurt back. On those days, I can choose forgiveness again. Not because the person necessarily deserves it, but because I want to be free.

I have come to realize that forgiveness is not primarily about releasing someone else from responsibility. It is about releasing my own heart from the prison of resentment.

When I hold on to anger, I remain connected to the hurt. When I surrender it to God, I begin to move forward.

This does not happen overnight. Some wounds take time. Some require many prayers. Some require tears. Some require difficult conversations. Some require distance. But through all of it, I believe God is gently teaching me that I do not have to carry everything myself.

There is also something very beautiful about forgiveness because it allows God to work in places where I cannot.

I may never receive the apology I hoped for. I may never understand why someone did what they did. I may never get the explanation I wanted. But I can still choose peace.

I can choose not to become bitter.

I can choose not to allow another person's actions to change the person God is calling me to be.

And most importantly, I can choose love.

When I think about my own relationship with God, I know that I have been given far more mercy than I could ever earn. God's forgiveness is not something I deserve because I am perfect. It is a gift because He loves me.

That is the heart of today's Gospel.

Jesus is not asking us to pretend that pain does not exist. He is asking us not to become prisoners of it.

“Not seven, I tell you, but seventy seven times.”

Perhaps every one of those seventy seven times is another opportunity to say, “Lord, help me let go.”

Help me release the anger.

Help me surrender the resentment.

Help me forgive what I cannot change.

Help me remember that I, too, am someone who has needed forgiveness.

And help me become more like You.

I am still learning. I do not always get it right. But I believe forgiveness is one of the greatest acts of courage we can make. It takes courage to acknowledge our pain, courage to surrender our need for revenge, courage to trust God with what happened and courage to choose peace when anger feels easier.

Today, I pray for the grace to keep choosing forgiveness, not just once, not just seven times, but seventy seven times and as many times as my heart needs.

Because forgiveness does not change the past.

But with God's grace, it can change the future.

And sometimes, the person who needs forgiveness most is not the person who hurt me.

It is the person inside me who is still carrying the hurt.

Lord, give me the courage to let go, the wisdom to know when to set boundaries, and the grace to forgive as You have forgiven me.

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Reflection: When I remember God's mercy toward me, does it make me more patient and compassionate with others?

When I remember how merciful God has been towards me, I realis how much I still have to learn about being patient and compassionate with others. I have made mistakes, wandered away from God, and yet He never gave up on me. When I returned to the Church after being away for many years, I experienced His mercy in a very personal way. He welcomed me back without judgement and gave me the grace to begin again.

That reminds me that I cannot expect perfection from others when God has never expected perfection from me. I am learning to be more understanding, especially when people disappoint or hurt me. I may not always understand their actions, but I can choose compassion instead of judgement.

God has forgiven me countless times, and remembering that helps me pause before reacting. It reminds me that everyone is fighting their own battles, carrying their own wounds and trying to find their way. If God can be patient with me, I can learn to be patient with others too.

For me, mercy is not just something I receive from God. It is something I am called to give.