The One Thing You Should Never Compromise

There are countless things in life people tell you to protect such like your grades, your reputation, your friendships, your opportunities. But as I get older, I’m starting to realize that all of those things shift and stretch and bend depending on where you are in life. The only thing that truly stays with you, the one thing you carry into every room, every choice, every version of yourself, is your sense of who you are. And your values, your self-worth, and your genuine identity are the one thing you must protect without compromise.

It sounds simple. Almost too simple. But compromising yourself rarely happens in big dramatic moments. It happens in tiny decisions, in subtle hesitations, and in the quiet ways you shrink just a little so someone else feels a little taller. It happens when you catch your own excitement and muffle it because someone else doesn’t understand it. It happens when you feel a boundary bending and tell yourself it’s not a big deal—just this once.

For a long time, I didn’t even recognize when I was compromising myself. I just wanted to make people comfortable, to keep the peace, to be easy to like. I thought that was what made someone kind or good. But being your best self and keeping everyone else comfortable are two very different things, and learning that difference feels a lot like being pulled in two directions at once. You want to grow, but you don’t want to outgrow. You want to shine, but you don’t want anyone to think you’re shining too brightly. You want to choose what’s right for you, but you also don’t want to disappoint the people who’ve grown used to the version of you that always says yes.

And that’s the trap: you start compromising small pieces of yourself without even noticing.

I’ve learned that when people say, “Don’t compromise who you are,” they’re not talking about dramatic rebellions. They’re talking about the tiny, everyday moments when you feel yourself folding. It’s when someone reacts poorly to your good news and you immediately apologize for being happy. It’s when someone expects you to stay the same, even though you’re growing, and instead of letting yourself evolve you try to shove yourself back into the familiar shape they prefer. It’s when you silence your own wants because someone else disapproves of them.

I used to apologize for my happiness a lot. Not because I thought happiness was wrong, but because I saw how it made some people uncomfortable. If someone else was struggling, I felt guilty for doing well. If someone didn’t understand why something mattered to me, I’d downplay it until I barely recognized my own excitement. At the time, it felt like the considerate thing to do. I told myself I was being thoughtful. But looking back, I was slowly teaching myself that my joy was something fragile, something that needed to be hidden or trimmed down depending on the mood of the room.

And that’s where the real compromise begins, not with a single, huge decision, but with a slow, steady dimming.

Unhappy people sometimes react to your happiness as if it’s a threat. They treat your growth like it’s a reminder of where they feel stuck. They see your confidence and feel it highlighting their insecurities. It’s not intentional, necessarily, but it’s real. And if you’re empathetic, it’s easy to let their discomfort convince you that being fully yourself is somehow selfish.

It took me a long time to notice how often I had traded pieces of myself to avoid disappointing someone else. I told myself I was being thoughtful, mature, cooperative. But the truth is that compromising yourself never creates the harmony you expect. It doesn’t make unhappy people happier. It doesn’t make insecure people feel safer. It doesn’t earn you the acceptance you hope for. All it does is leave you carrying the weight of being someone you’re not.

The times I compromised myself went exactly the way you might expect: I ended up feeling frustrated, invisible, and disconnected from my own choices. I would say yes when I wanted to say no, and then I’d feel this quiet resentment building inside me, not toward anyone else, but toward myself for abandoning what I truly wanted. Compromising yourself doesn’t protect your relationships; it only confuses them, because people start interacting with the version of you that you’re pretending to be instead of the person you actually are.

The moment things started to change was surprisingly small. I realized that whenever I made a decision based on what someone else expected of me and not what felt right for me...I wasn’t proud of the decision. Even if the outcome was fine, the choice didn’t feel like mine. That feeling, that small internal disconnection, was the signal I had been ignoring: I was compromising who I was.

Once I understood that, something clicked. The one thing I should never compromise is the core of who I am becoming. Not the polished version I think people want. Not the quieter version that avoids conflict. Not the version that bends in all directions to keep everyone else comfortable.

Just me.

And the more I leaned into that, the clearer everything became. The people who truly cared about me weren’t disappointed when I honored my own boundaries, my joy, my passions. They were relieved. They were proud. They were rooting for the version of me that wasn’t performing, but living.

The people who pulled away? They weren’t really pulling away from me, just from the loss of the version of me that made their world easier. And while that can sting, it’s not a reason to abandon yourself.

Being your best self will disappoint some people. That’s unavoidable. But disappointing yourself is far worse, and far harder to recover from. Happiness isn’t something you should apologize for. Growth isn’t something you should shrink from. And who you are, your real voice, your real joy, your real boundaries, is something you should protect fiercely.

Because at the end of the day, everything else in life can shift: friendships evolve, circumstances change, opportunities come and go. But you will always live with yourself. You will always wake up inside your own decisions. And you deserve to wake up inside a life built around your truths, not your fears.

That is why the one thing you should never compromise is yourself.

Movie Recommendation: Bloomington (2010)

 

Sometimes you come across a film without expecting much, and before you even realize it, it’s made a quiet, lasting impression on you. 

Bloomington (2010) is one of those films. It doesn’t shout, it doesn’t twist itself into dramatic knots, and it doesn’t pretend to be some “big” cinematic masterpiece. Yet it lingers. It lingers because it understands something tender about growing up, about figuring out who you are when no one else is defining it for you, and about the confusing, magnetic pull of people who arrive in your life at exactly the moment you’re most vulnerable to changing.

At its center is Jackie, a former child actress whose fame once made her feel like she had a defined place in the world. She enters college determined to become a normal person; something she’s never really had the chance to be. The film begins not with a big dramatic entrance but with a quiet sense of new beginnings: Jackie stepping onto a campus filled with strangers, possibilities, and the unsettling freedom of not being recognized. There’s something deeply relatable in that desire to step out of the version of yourself that everyone thinks they already know and start fresh. Even if you haven’t lived a life of fame, the feeling of wanting to reinvent yourself, especially at the start of something big, like a new school or a new stage of life is unmistakably universal.

Jackie’s journey becomes more complicated when she meets Catherine, a professor whose confidence and mystery pull Jackie in almost immediately. The relationship that unfolds between them is one of the film’s most interesting dynamics, not because it’s dramatic or shocking, but because it illustrates how magnetic certain people can feel when you’re in the middle of trying to figure out who you are. Catherine is poised, articulate, and seems to understand Jackie with a clarity that no one else ever has. That kind of attention can feel intoxicating, especially when you’re young and trying to navigate the uncertainty of your own identity. Jackie doesn’t fall for Catherine simply because she’s older or because she’s a professor; she falls because Catherine reflects back to her a version of herself she hasn’t yet seen.

One thing I appreciated when watching Bloomington is how the film doesn’t reduce their relationship to clichés. It’s not a forbidden love melodrama, nor is it portrayed as purely rebellious or reckless. Instead, the film shows it as an emotional entanglement filled with vulnerability, curiosity, and all the questions that come with stepping into adulthood. Even though Jackie is technically grown, she’s still very much learning about love, about boundaries, and about the way relationships can shape who we become.

There’s a softness to the way the movie presents their connection. It doesn’t try to sensationalize it. It doesn’t linger on anything inappropriate or explicit. Instead, it explores the emotional aspects: the thrill of being seen by someone who feels special, the confusion of wanting independence while also wanting closeness, and the difficult, often painful truth that the people who feel most transformative in your life aren’t always meant to stay. Catherine becomes a pivotal figure in Jackie’s life not because she “completes” her, but because she challenges her, inspires her, and ultimately forces her to confront what she wants her future to look like.

What makes Bloomington feel personal is how familiar Jackie’s internal struggle can be, even if the details of her life are completely different from your own. She’s torn between two versions of herself: the famous child who was always watched and the young adult trying to write her own script. That tension between who you were and who you want to be is something many people feel when they’re stepping into adulthood. Jackie’s relationship with Catherine becomes intertwined with that identity shift. Catherine sees potential in her, but she also represents a world that’s slightly out of reach, a world where Jackie isn’t entirely sure she belongs.

As Jackie’s emotional world grows more complicated, the film remains grounded in the quiet, everyday moments; study sessions, campus life, casual conversations. There’s an intimacy to these scenes that makes the story feel close, almost like reading a private journal. You begin to see Jackie not as a former actress or a student caught in a complicated relationship, but as someone who’s genuinely trying to make sense of the person she’s becoming. Every choice she makes feels like a step toward or away from the independence she claims to want.

What struck me most is that Bloomington doesn’t pretend that growing up is clean or straightforward. Sometimes you learn who you are through things that don’t last. Sometimes the people who shape you the most aren’t the ones you end up with. Catherine is important to Jackie’s story, but she isn’t the whole story, and the film respects that. It allows Jackie to step away, to take what she’s learned, and to continue becoming herself outside the influence of someone older and more experienced. It’s a reminder that not every powerful connection is meant to be permanent and that’s okay.

There’s also a subtle commentary on how easy it is to lose yourself in other people’s expectations. Jackie has spent so much of her life being shaped by others; directors, fans, even Catherine in some ways, that her coming-of-age journey becomes one of reclaiming autonomy. Watching her struggle, falter, and ultimately choose her own path feels quietly empowering. She grows, not because someone guides her to the right answer, but because she slowly learns to trust her own voice.

When I recommend Bloomington, it’s not because it’s a loud or flashy film, but because it feels honest. It captures the emotional confusion of early adulthood with a kind of softness and sincerity that’s rare. It doesn’t try to be a sweeping romance or a dramatic cautionary tale. Instead, it offers a realistic, introspective look at how relationships, especially complicated ones, can act as catalysts for self-discovery.

If you’ve ever felt caught between your past and your future, if you’ve ever found yourself pulled toward someone who made you feel seen, or if you’ve ever faced the uneasy truth that growing up sometimes means letting go, Bloomington will resonate deeply. It’s a film that understands the messy, beautiful process of becoming yourself. And sometimes, that’s exactly the kind of story that stays with you.

What Would I Do If I Had Unlimited Time, Resources, and Support?

If I had unlimited time, resources, and support, I think the first thing I’d feel is relief; relief from the worry of deadlines, financial limits, and the pressure of having to choose between what I want to do and what I have to do. Once that pressure is gone, it becomes easier to imagine what I would genuinely want to build with my life. With everything wide open, I know I’d focus on learning, creating, and helping others find opportunities they might not have had otherwise.

One of the first things I’d want to do is spend more time learning, but not in the traditional classroom sense. I imagine creating spaces where anyone could explore subjects or skills simply because they’re curious. These spaces would be open to people of all ages and backgrounds; more like community hubs than formal schools. They would have areas for art, science, writing, cooking, technology, or anything people feel drawn to try. With unlimited resources, no one would have to worry about whether they could afford to join or whether they were “qualified” enough to participate. Learning would be accessible, welcoming, and pressure-free.

Alongside learning, I’d also want to focus on supporting emotional well-being. I’ve noticed that many people carry stress and worries quietly, and they don’t always feel like they have a safe place to talk about it. With unlimited support, I’d create programs that encourage open conversations, mentorship, and community connections. Nothing dramatic, just spaces where people can be honest, feel understood, and get guidance when they need it. I don’t think emotional support should be something people only reach for in tough times; it should be something we naturally build into our everyday environment.

Unlimited time would also allow me to travel more intentionally. Not rushing from one tourist spot to another, but staying in places long enough to understand their culture, food, and daily life. I’d want to learn languages, try local activities, and talk to people about their experiences. Traveling this way would help me understand the world from different perspectives, and I think that kind of understanding would shape how I interact with people no matter where I am.

Creativity is another part of my life I’d like to explore further if time and resources weren’t a concern. I’d spend more time writing, experimenting with different forms of storytelling, and maybe even trying out new artistic hobbies without worrying about whether I’m “good” at them. Having unlimited support would remind me that creativity doesn’t need to be perfect, it just needs space to grow.

With unlimited resources, I’d also want to help others reach their goals. So many people have big ideas but lack financial stability, connections, or confidence. It would be meaningful to be able to give them the tools or support they need, whether that’s education, mentorship, equipment, or simply someone who believes in their potential. Helping someone take their first step is often more powerful than doing something huge on my own.

Even with all these possibilities, I know I’d still appreciate simple moments. I wouldn’t want my life to become a constant stream of projects or travel. I’d still make time for calm routines like reading, walking, spending time with people I care about, or just enjoying quiet mornings. Having unlimited time doesn’t mean I’d want to stay busy every second. Instead, it would allow me to slow down and be more present, without feeling like I’m falling behind.

If there were truly no limits, I think my overall goal would be to create a life that balances learning, creativity, and connection. I’d use the resources to make opportunities more accessible, support people emotionally, and explore the world at a pace that feels genuine. Unlimited time and support wouldn’t suddenly turn me into someone completely different; they would simply give me the chance to focus on the parts of life I value most: growth, kindness, and understanding.

Why I Couldn’t Stop Thinking About the Lowercase “n” in the 7-Eleven Logo

 

For as long as I can remember, there’s been one tiny detail in the world that bothered me in the most harmless, strangely endearing way. It wasn’t a major life question or anything deep and philosophical. It wasn’t about the universe or fate or why people act the way they do.

It was about a logo.

To be specific: the 7-Eleven logo.

Every time I walked into a 7-Eleven, whether it was to grab a Slurpe, pick up a snack after school, or buy something last-minute on a late night, I would look up at the sign. And every single time, something about it would itch the back of my brain: why in the world is ELEVE in bold uppercase letters, but the last letter… the n… is lowercase?

It felt so random. So intentional yet unexplainable. Like someone had carefully written a sentence, then whispered the last letter instead of finishing it properly. I couldn’t unsee it after I noticed. The logo felt unbalanced, like someone forgot to hit the shift key at the end. And once I noticed, I kept noticing every store, every sign, every cup.

At first, I thought maybe it was just a stylistic thing. Or a printing mistake that somehow became permanent. But the more I saw it, the more it felt like it had to mean something. Companies don’t usually mess up their logos. They spend millions on design choices. So what was this choice trying to say?

As a kid, I used to make up little theories. Maybe the n was lowercase because it was shy. Maybe it was meant to make the word look softer, like the logo was trying not to yell at you. Or maybe someone designing it just didn’t like capital Ns. I would stand in front of the fridge full of drinks or lean on the counter while paying, staring at the “n” like it was a clue I was supposed to decode.

I carried that weird fascination with me over the years. I didn’t think about it constantly or anything dramatic like that, but every time I walked past a 7-Eleven, that lowercase letter tugged at me again. It was one of those tiny mysteries that stays stuck in your brain for no logical reason, like remembering a random dream or a line from a song you only heard once. It was small, but it was mine.

Eventually, I decided I needed to know the truth. Google exists, after all. I finally looked it up, expecting some corporate design explanation or historical typography rule. Something technical, probably boring, but at least satisfying.

But the real reason?

It was surprisingly… human.

The lowercase n was the idea of the founder’s wife, Tuddy Thompson. When the company switched from their older logo (which actually used all caps, even the N), she suggested that the capital N looked too harsh and didn’t fit the friendly, approachable feeling she wanted the brand to have. She thought a lowercase n made the word look softer, more welcoming, more casual, less stiff.

That was it.

No dramatic story.

No secret symbolism.

Just a wife who looked at a capital letter and went, “Hmm… I don’t like that.”

And the company listened.

I sat there for a moment after reading that, half amused and half oddly satisfied. There was something incredibly charming about the fact that a single lowercase letter in an international brand logo wasn’t the result of a committee or a branding consultant or a team of designers, it came from one woman’s preference. A gentle little opinion that ended up imprinting itself onto stores all over the world.

And honestly, that made me love the logo even more.

It suddenly made sense. 7-Eleven has always felt like a convenience store that’s just… there for you. Not fancy. Not trying too hard. Just comforting and reliable. The lowercase n fits that energy perfectly. It takes the edge off the otherwise blocky, bold uppercase letters. It makes the logo feel a bit more approachable, almost like it’s smiling at you; if a letter can smile, anyway.

After I learned the real reason, I found myself thinking about how small decisions can shape the world in ways we don’t expect. That one tiny letter has probably been seen by billions of people. Yet it traces back to a simple preference voiced in what was probably a casual conversation.

Sometimes the things we notice; the tiny quirks, the little inconsistencies; end up leading to stories that remind us how human everything is. Even big companies. Even logos we take for granted. Even random details we obsess over for no reason other than they’re slightly different from everything around them.

Now when I walk past a 7-Eleven, I don’t see the lowercase n as an odd mistake or a visual mismatch. I see it as a reminder that the world is full of tiny decisions made by real people; decisions that ripple outward in ways no one ever expects.

It also reminds me that paying attention to small things isn’t useless or weird. Sometimes it leads you to understand something in a deeper, funnier, more personal way. In this case, one lowercase letter became a quiet reminder that the imperfect or unusual parts of something can be what gives it character.

I like that the n doesn’t match the rest of the word. I like that it breaks the pattern. I like that it represents a moment where someone, somewhere, simply preferred something different, and that preference survived decades, redesigns, mergers, and expansions.

The logo wouldn’t feel the same without it. And neither would my memories.

Because for me, the lowercase n isn’t just a design choice.

It’s a tiny mystery I carried with me throughout my life.

It’s the part of the logo that made me look twice.

It’s the detail that made the ordinary feel a little more whimsical.

And now that I finally know the real story behind it, it feels like a little secret I get to keep with me every time I walk through those familiar sliding doors.

Movie Recommendation: Deep Water (2022)

 

If someone asked me to recommend a movie that blends psychological tension, relationship drama, and a constant feeling that something is “off,” I would choose Deep Water (2022). It’s not a traditional thriller filled with jump scares or chase scenes. Instead, it’s a slow, unsettling unraveling of a marriage—one that pulls you in because of how strange, uncomfortable, and fascinating it is. What makes Deep Water stand out to me is how it explores jealousy, manipulation, and the blurry lines between love and control. The story is suspenseful, but what kept me hooked was the way the movie made me think about the characters long after it ended. For anyone who likes thrillers that focus more on psychology than action, Deep Water is a memorable and gripping watch.

The movie centers on Vic and Melinda Van Allen, a married couple living with their young daughter Trixie in the small town of Little Wesley, Louisiana. On the surface, their life looks comfortable, even calm. Vic is retired early after making a fortune developing guidance chips for military drones, and Melinda seems carefree, almost bored, drifting from one interest to another. But the further the movie goes, the clearer it becomes that the Van Allen marriage is anything but ordinary. The couple lives by an unspoken but clearly fragile arrangement: they sleep separately, and Melinda openly brings other men into her life—even into their home. It’s not a secret, either. Their friends see it, the town sees it, and Vic quietly tolerates it, at least at first.

What makes their relationship compelling to watch is that it’s filled with contradictions. Melinda claims Vic lacks passion, yet she keeps choosing men who seem to exist mostly to provoke him. Vic claims not to care, but he watches everything with a tense, controlled calm that feels unsettling. It’s like watching two people who know exactly how to hurt one another, and who keep pushing the boundaries of what the other will tolerate.

The story moves into darker territory when Melinda invites her newest lover, Joel, to a neighbor’s party. Vic confronts Joel privately and casually tells him that he murdered one of Melinda’s previous lovers, Martin, who recently disappeared. It’s unclear whether Vic is joking, lying to scare him, or confessing something real—and that uncertainty becomes one of the movie’s most suspenseful elements. Joel is terrified enough to leave town, and the rumor spreads through their circle, especially catching the attention of a local writer, Don Wilson. Soon after, the news reveals that Martin was found shot to death and that someone else has been arrested. Whether Vic is guilty or simply using the situation to intimidate Melinda’s boyfriends is left for the viewer to interpret, but the movie makes it clear that whatever Vic and Melinda share, it’s far from healthy.

Melinda’s next lover, Charlie, becomes the focus of Vic’s jealousy. She brings Charlie to a party and plays with Vic’s reactions, clearly enjoying the tension. When a sudden rainstorm forces everyone indoors, Vic and Charlie end up alone in the pool. Melinda later finds Charlie drowned, and though the police question everyone, Melinda immediately accuses Vic. What’s chilling is not whether Vic did it—the movie almost wants the audience to keep guessing—but how calmly he interacts with Melinda afterward. She tells him she isn’t afraid of him; instead, she suggests that he kills because of her. Their conversations reflect a twisted attachment where danger becomes part of their connection.

As suspicion grows, Melinda and Don start openly discussing Vic as a murderer. Don and his wife even hire a private investigator to follow Vic. The marriage spirals even further when Melinda reconnects with an old boyfriend, Tony, and insinuates that she might take Trixie and move to Brazil with him. Vic overhears this conversation, and it becomes clear that whatever control he thought he had over the situation is slipping away.

Vic eventually lures Tony into his car and drives him to a cliffside area that he and Melinda used to visit. There, he provokes Tony by throwing stones, causing him to fall to his death. After sinking Tony’s body in a creek, Vic seems to think the problem is solved—at least until Melinda later takes him and Trixie to the same spot for a picnic. When Tony’s body resurfaces, Vic rushes to cover his tracks while Melinda grows increasingly suspicious. Yet, instead of running from Vic, she invites him into her bed for the first time in a long while, as if danger and affection have become intertwined.

The movie’s suspense peaks when Don witnesses Vic trying to deal with Tony’s resurfaced body. Don flees to alert the authorities, and Vic chases after him on his bike. The chase ends abruptly when Don, distracted by his phone, swerves to avoid Vic and accidentally drives off a cliff. It’s one of the movie’s strangest moments because Vic doesn’t technically cause Don’s death, yet he benefits from it. That blurred line between intention and accident defines much of the film’s tension.

Back at home, Melinda finds Tony’s wallet hidden in one of Vic’s snail tanks, proof of what happened. Instead of calling the police or confronting him directly, she begins packing a suitcase to leave. But in a surprising moment, Trixie throws the suitcase into the pool, begging her mother not to go. It’s a small but powerful reminder of the child caught in the middle of their toxic marriage. When Vic finally returns home, Melinda tells him she “saw Tony”—a statement loaded with both accusation and understanding. But then she does something unexpected: she burns Tony’s wallet and identification. Whether this means she accepts Vic, fears losing him, or has simply grown too emotionally tangled to leave is left intentionally ambiguous.

What makes Deep Water worth recommending is not just its plot, but the mood it creates. The movie is quiet but tense, slow but emotionally charged. It’s more about psychology than action, more about what the characters don’t say than what they do. Watching Vic and Melinda is like watching two people trapped together, neither willing to leave, both testing the limits of how far love—or obsession—can go.

I would recommend Deep Water to anyone who likes thrillers that explore the darker side of relationships and the hidden motivations behind people’s choices. It’s unsettling without being graphic, mysterious without being confusing, and it leaves space for the viewer to interpret the characters’ true intentions. The movie doesn’t give clean answers, and that’s exactly what makes it so thought-provoking.

How Can You Make a Positive Impact on Someone Else’s Life Today?

When people talk about “changing someone’s life,” it’s easy to imagine something huge—saving someone from danger, donating millions of dollars, or inventing something world-changing. But the older I get, the more I’ve realized that most of the positive impact we make happens in incredibly small, almost invisible moments. And today, right now, I can make a difference in someone else’s life in ways that take almost no time, cost nothing, and still matter more than I might ever know.

For me, the simplest way to make a positive impact is by being aware—paying attention to people around me instead of rushing through my day on autopilot. When I actually slow down enough to look, I start noticing things: a friend who laughs a little too quickly, a classmate who has been sitting alone more often, or even a family member whose tone is slightly quieter than usual. These small signals aren't dramatic, but they’re real, and responding to them is the first step toward making someone’s day a little better. Even something as simple as saying, “Hey, are you doing okay today?” can open a door that someone didn’t know they were allowed to walk through.

One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned is that impact isn’t about having the perfect words—it’s about showing up. I’ve had days where someone just sitting next to me, or acknowledging that I looked stressed, honestly changed my whole mood. Remembering that helps me treat others the same way. Today, for example, I could check in on a friend I haven’t talked to in a while. Not with a heavy, dramatic message—just a simple “I was thinking about you today—how’ve you been?” That tiny act can remind someone they’re not drifting through the world unnoticed.

Another way I can make a positive impact is by practicing patience—something I’m definitely still learning. It’s so easy to get annoyed at people when they’re slow, distracted, or acting in a way that feels inconvenient. But lately I’ve realized that the times when someone is being “difficult” are usually the exact moments when they need the most understanding. Being patient with a sibling who’s in a bad mood, helping a classmate who doesn’t understand the assignment, or answering someone kindly even when I’m busy—all of these choices have ripples that go way further than I can see.

And then there’s kindness—the kind that isn’t performative, dramatic, or posted online. I’m talking about the quiet, behind-the-scenes kindness that’s easy to underestimate. Holding the door for someone. Complimenting someone’s new haircut or hoodie. Saying “thank you” to the cafeteria staff or the bus driver. These things seem tiny, but they create a sense of warmth that people carry with them. I know I do. The number of times a small compliment or a simple smile changed the direction of my day still surprises me, and it reminds me that I have the same power in reverse.

Something that’s become important to me recently is choosing to listen—really listen—when someone is talking. Most of us listen just long enough to come up with something to say back, or we get distracted by messages, notifications, or our own thoughts. But when I take moments to genuinely let someone talk—without interrupting, without judging, and without planning my next sentence—it shows them that their words matter. That they matter. Sometimes people don’t need advice or solutions; they need space to let their feelings exist without being dismissed. Offering that space is one of the kindest impacts anyone can make.

Another thing I can do today is fix something small that I’ve been avoiding. Maybe it’s apologizing for something I said too sharply or clearing up a misunderstanding I’ve been ignoring. It’s uncomfortable, but taking responsibility, even for something minor, can remove a weight from someone else’s shoulders. Apologies don’t erase mistakes, but they rebuild trust—sometimes even stronger than before.

I also remind myself that making a positive impact doesn’t have to involve talking at all. Today, I can help someone simply by sharing my time. If a friend wants to study together, I can say yes. If someone needs help carrying something heavy, I can offer. If my family needs an extra hand with chores or cooking, I can step in before being asked. Acts of service—even tiny ones—often speak louder than anything I could say.

But maybe the most important way I can positively affect someone today is by choosing to be my best self in the small moments. When I take care of my own mental and emotional state, I show up calmer, kinder, and more patient. When I treat myself with compassion, I don’t walk around accidentally passing stress or negativity onto other people. Self-kindness isn’t selfish—it’s preparation. The better I feel, the better I act. And the better I act, the more naturally I make the world around me lighter.

And even though it might sound strange, I think making a positive impact is also about remembering that everyone—including people who seem confident, funny, popular, or unbothered—has invisible struggles. No matter how someone appears on the outside, they might be dealing with pressure, insecurity, loneliness, or fear. Keeping that in mind helps me treat others with gentleness instead of judgment. Today, if I choose to give someone the benefit of the doubt instead of assuming the worst, that alone can make the world feel safer to them.

At the end of the day, the question isn’t whether I can change someone’s entire life in one moment. It’s whether I can make today—this one day—easier, lighter, or more hopeful for someone else. Even the smallest actions can echo through someone’s week or month in ways I’ll never know. A kind word can interrupt a cycle of negative thoughts. A moment of patience can prevent an argument. A simple message can remind someone they matter. And even though these things take almost no time, they make the world feel less cold.

So how can I make a positive impact on someone’s life today? By paying attention. By choosing kindness. By listening. By apologizing. By helping. By being patient. By being present. And most importantly, by remembering that every interaction carries the possibility of making someone feel a little more valued and a little less alone.

Even if no one else notices, even if it only changes the day—and not the whole world—impact is impact. And today, I can choose to make mine a good one.

The Goddess Returns

 

I still remember the first moment I saw them—the boots everyone now calls Ascension / Retribution. I didn’t design them to be beautiful. I didn’t design them to be worn. I designed them because I needed to understand what power looked like when it stopped apologizing for existing. People talk about muses, about inspiration, about gentle little sparks of creativity. But these boots weren’t a spark. They were a strike—lightning straight to the ribs. A reminder that divinity doesn’t always arrive with grace. Sometimes it arrives with temper.

When I began sketching them, I didn’t picture a sweet, celestial goddess. I didn’t imagine soft clouds or gentle light. I imagined the one they stopped worshipping because she became too powerful. The one temples tried to forget. The one stories tried to erase. The one who doesn’t descend to earth, because the earth rearranges itself around her feet. I realized, slowly but absolutely, that these boots weren’t just footwear—they were the footprint of her return.

The silhouette came first: knee-high, razor-sharp, unmistakably confrontational. They follow the leg like ritual armor, not fabric. No seams. Nothing to indicate they were crafted by human hands. They look forged—born of heat and pressure, like something pulled from the core of the earth. I wanted them to feel inevitable, as if they had always existed and I merely dug them up.

Then came the materials, and that was when the design stopped being a design and started becoming a story. The base is a molten-gold toned metal leather. Not shiny: brushed, intentional, ancient. Gold that looks like it remembers something. I inlaid cracked alabaster-white veins through it—lines like living marble, as if the boots themselves were waking up. Under light, they shift with a subtle iridescence, the kind you notice only if you’re paying attention. Not glitter. Not sparkle. Something closer to a celestial pulse. Inside, there’s blood-red silk, though no one ever sees it unless the wearer moves. It’s a secret. A heartbeat hidden inside armor.

And then, of course, the heel. The part that always makes people pause because they don’t understand how it exists. Sculpted like a falling star frozen at the moment of impact, jagged and asymmetrical. It looks like it shattered the ground when she arrived. Tiny gold fractures glow faintly, the way hot metal does before it cools. To me, it feels like trapped divine energy—dangerous in a beautiful way, the kind of danger that isn’t reckless but righteous. A reminder that the stiletto, in this case, is not seductive. It is architectural violence: a vertical refusal to soften oneself for space.

The divine detailing was the last thing I added, and probably the part that makes the boots feel most like her. Symbols etched into the surface—not a readable language, but a remembered one. Inspired by lost scripts, star maps, and the ruins of temples long ago swallowed by sand. On the knee, the guard curves like a halo split in half, as if to say: once whole, now sharpened. Embedded within the gold are tiny sculptural relics: a sun disc, a crescent shard, a broken crown fragment. Not ornaments—warnings. Each one represents power taken back, not gifted.

I wrote a list of rules for how the boots must be worn, though I’m not sure I ever showed it to anyone. No pants over the boots. Ever. Skin or sheer fabric only, because armor needs contrast. The walk must be slow, deliberate, unbothered. Gods don’t hurry. And most importantly: no smile. Not because she isn’t capable of joy, but because she doesn’t perform for approval.

As the design took shape, I started imagining her story. She was once worshipped for her beauty. Then feared for her power. Then erased from the stories when mortals decided she had become too much—too strong, too independent, too uncontrollable. But divinity doesn’t disappear. It waits. And these boots are modeled after the moment she returns—not as myth, but as proof.

They carry the weight of temples built in her name.

They carry the silence after prayers stopped.

They carry the fury of a goddess who realized she never needed belief to exist.

I wrote a manifesto to go with them—something personal, something sharp enough to match the boots themselves:

I am not divine because you worship me.

You worship because I exist.

I do not descend.

I arrive.

I am not gentle.

I am eternal.

At first, I thought I wrote those lines for the goddess. But the more time passes, the more I realize I wrote them for myself. Or for anyone who has ever shrunk themselves to make others feel comfortable. For anyone who has ever been told they’re “too much.” For anyone who forgot their own power and needs something to shake it awake.

When I finally finished the boots, they didn’t feel like a creation. They felt like a confrontation. Like the universe looking back at me and saying: “Now do you understand?” They frightened some people. Confused others. A few loved them immediately, which almost concerned me, because pieces like this aren’t meant to be loved instantly. They’re meant to be absorbed, wrestled with, questioned. If they frighten you, they’re working. If they confuse you, they’re evolving.

And if you love them immediately…

you’ve misunderstood them.

There will only ever be one pair. Not because of rarity, though people like to think that. Not because they were difficult—though they were. But because not every idea deserves to be repeated. Some things are meant to exist once. Singular. Untamed.

That’s why the boots aren’t named after a goddess.

They’re named after what happens when she comes back.

People ask me what Ascension / Retribution is meant to be—fashion, sculpture, costume, armor? The truth is, it’s none of those things.

This is not fashion.

This is evidence.