My Personal Memorial For A Buddy

Yesterday evening after dinner, my hubby and daughter helped me put together this little candle memorial for my buddy Jamey Griffin.

I really appreciated their help because it gave me some comfort.

Went to bed at about 11pm but had set my alarm so I could wake up in time for Jamey's memorial service that was taking place back in Memphis. Yeh the 14 hours time  difference is a killer. However, I didn't not want to miss it. It was important to me.  It would be the only way for me to say goodbye to Jamey at the same time as everybody else in Memphis.  I still wish I could have physically been there though. 

Nevertheless, I woke up at 1.30am, Wednesday (February 18 - Singapore time). Which means it was 11.30am, Tuesday, February 17 in Memphis Tennessee.

Right at that time mentioned above, Jamey is being laid to rest beside his dad James Griffin. If I had still been living in Massachusetts, I would have taken the next flight out to Memphis to be there. But the costly flights and ridiculous hours of flying (almost 25 hours each way) from Singapore to USA just did not work in my favour.

So I decided to light 4 candles in memory of my dear friend Jamey Griffin who left us too soon. I did this at the same time he was being remembered in Memphis.

The first candle I lit represented my grief and pain of losing him.

The second candle lit represented my courage and to be able to confront my sorrow and to find comfort that he is now in a better place. He is with his dad in Heaven and they will continue to make beautiful music together. We will one day meet again.

The third candle I lit was for Jamey's memory to forever stay alive within me, inside my heart always. For the times we laughed, the times we cried, and the silly things we talked about.

And last but not least, the fourth candle I lit was for the love and friendship we shared. I lit this so that Jamey's light will always shine.

The other day, I noticed how beautiful the sky was then I realized it's because Jamey was up there. God only takes the best, and now I know this, because he took Jamey. I'd give anything just to be able to say goodbye.

“Jamey, every once in a while in our life, we meet someone whom we never thought would affect us in a special way even if they've been around just for a short while. But you did just that. Four years is nothing to sneeze at anyway. You will always have a special place in my heart and I thank you for the gift of your friendship.”

“Rest In Peace my friend. I'm missing you more than ever. In my thoughts you are today, but in my heart you'll forever stay. Please don't forget me! I promise not to forget you!”