Move Over, Trump: The Real History Happened When My Daughter and I Took Over the Embassy!

 The world is buzzing about the recent U.S. elections, where Trump was voted in as President once again—an event that will surely be etched in history. But let me tell you, something equally unforgettable happened at the American Embassy in Singapore just last month.  

My daughter went there to renounce her citizenship (good riddance, if you ask me!). What unfolded could very well become a case study for their next meeting on handling... "unique" situations like ours. I’m pretty sure the embassy staff never imagined they'd encounter anything quite like what happened that day.  

I can already hear you saying, "Come on, spill the tea! What happened? Stop keeping us in suspense!" Well, buckle up, because this is a story worth telling.

This milestone has been in the works for over a year. When Lani turned 21, she had to decide whether to remain a Singaporean or an American citizen. The choice was clear and straightforward—though the process was anything but. Lani made the smart decision to keep her powerful red passport, especially given the state of the country tied to the blue one, which seems to be in slow collapse.  

Of course, dealing with the American Embassy is never simple. Let’s be real—it’s all about the money! Don’t even get me started on what they put me through 25 years ago when I was applying for my green card. If I did, this blog post might turn into my fifth book!  

After several emails to the embassy without a response, we finally got a reply. But surprise—they informed me that I couldn’t handle the communication on my daughter’s behalf. She had to do it herself. (Bookmark this detail, because we’re circling back to it soon!)  

So, Lani sent the email from her own address. And while I chuckled at how they didn’t consider that I could’ve easily sent it from an account in her name, the fact is she sent it herself. Their reply? A bunch of forms to fill out, a detailed list of requirements, and—of course—a fee.  

And not just 'any' fee. Are you sitting down for this? Because I bet you’ll never guess how much they charged. Was it USD $50? Nope. Maybe USD $150? Wrong again. Okay, USD $500? Not even close.  

The fee was a staggering USD $3,000. Yes, you read that right. Three thousand dollars.  

It’s almost as if they’re saying, “Well, if you’re leaving us, we’ll squeeze every last dime out of you before you go.” Talk about daylight robbery!  

Oh, and remember how the embassy wouldn’t let me handle the email communication because I’m "not" the citizen in question? Yet, where is a 21-year-old supposed to find USD $3,000? Naturally, it fell to "her mother" to foot the bill.  

Ah, the irony.

According to the form, the payment options were clear: cash (after conversion, that would be SGD $3,250) or credit card. Naturally, we thought, "If they’re so desperate for this money, let’s make them work for it."

So, we came up with a plan—pay them in 'change'. Of course, the Monetary Authority of Singapore has rules about this, limiting the amount you can pay in coins to $32. Still, that was good enough for us! Small bills would make up the rest, and we were more than happy to get creative.  

For an entire year, we looked forward to this moment. It wasn’t just about the payment—it was about the principle. Finally, we’d be done with America (well, almost...I still have a son who’ll need to go through this same process in three years). We planned everything, knowing it would take all day. I even took the day off work to savour the occasion.  

But, of course, the embassy didn’t make things easy. Beyond the convoluted forms and the outrageous fee, they demanded we surrender my daughter’s American passport. Cue the awkward pause when we told them we didn’t have it anymore.  

For context, we moved back to Singapore when Lani was 5 and never returned to the U.S. She became a Singapore citizen not long after, and honestly—who keeps expired passports that serve no purpose?  

Thankfully, that was sorted out with a memo I had to write, explaining I had discarded the passport years ago. Oh, the temptation to add that I used it as toilet paper! But I refrained. (Barely.)  

Let’s just say, by the time this process was over, the only thing sweeter than paying in change was finally saying goodbye to America—for good.

All our planning was finally coming together. The day before Lani’s appointment at the American Embassy, I headed to the bank to withdraw SGD $3,250—entirely in two-dollar bills, the smallest denomination we have in Singapore. I had hoped to get $32 in coins to add some flair to the payment, but apparently, the bank only handles change requests on specific days. Just my luck, that wasn’t one of them. Oh well!  

What I didn’t anticipate was how heavy $3,250 in two-dollar bills would be. Let’s just say, carrying that stack gave me a whole new appreciation for lightweight digital transactions!  

Fast forward to THE day.

Armed with a literal stack of cash, we made our way to the embassy. Hauling around $3,000 in small bills wasn’t easy, but it was absolutely worth it for the moment we’d been waiting for.  

We arrived an hour early, but, of course, we were turned away for being 'too early'. So, we trudged two blocks to a nearby mall, the weight of our “treasure” making itself known with every step.  

When it was finally time, we made our way back to the embassy. Walking past the British Embassy, we noted its simple, decent design. Beside it, the Australian Embassy—a clean, unassuming white building. Then, towering between them, the U.S. Embassy appeared. It was massive, dark, and topped with a huge eagle emblem—less like an embassy and more like an intimidating asylum. But hey, who’s judging? Haha.  

Arriving five minutes early this time (because heaven forbid we get it wrong again), we were made to wait outside in the sun. Eventually, we passed through security, where they confiscated our phones and iPads. Too bad—because I really wish I could’ve recorded their reactions when we handed them that pile of two-dollar bills.  

The look on their faces? Absolutely priceless. Worth every step lugging that stack of cash!

So, the big moment finally arrived. We stepped into the U.S. Embassy at exactly 1:30 PM, as scheduled. From there, time became a blur—no watches, no phones (confiscated at security), and not a single clock in sight in that tiny waiting room. But that was okay; we were prepared for this to take all day.  

The first officer we dealt with? An Asian woman. Not quite the American we’d hoped to torment, but maybe she was an American-born Chinese. Regardless, her attitude screamed 'American immigration officer'. We handed her the stack of meticulously prepared documents, and with a condescending expression and a fake American accent, she flipped through them. Then, she handed a chunk of the papers back, stating, “We don’t need these.”  

Wait for it.

Minutes later, she reviewed what was left and started asking for the very documents she had just returned. My daughter Lani, channeling her inner me, didn’t hold back. In the most sarcastic tone, she pointed out, “You just gave them back to us, and now you’re asking for them again?” 

The officer looked stunned. Clearly, she wasn’t used to people standing up to her. Well, guess what? We weren’t there begging to live in their 'cuntry (oops, 'country'). We were happily paying to leave.  

After that little drama, we were directed to the cashier to make the payment. Now, this was the part we’d been waiting for!  

Enter the stacks of two-dollar bills....

At the cashier’s counter, we were greeted not by an American but by a Malay Singaporean woman. I almost felt bad for her...almost. But we were too excited to unleash our grand plan.  

Stack by stack, we placed the two-dollar bills on the counter. Her expression shifted from confusion to outright shock. She pulled out one of those money-counting machines you see at banks, but it was having none of it. Every time she loaded a stack, the machine jammed after spitting out just a few bills.  

Perfect.  

The machine failure meant they had to count everything manually. Music to our ears! As we waited in the small room, giggling like school girls, we noticed the embassy staff whispering and sneaking glances at us through the windows. Clearly, we had become the talk of the day.  

After about 30 minutes, an actual American officer—a bald, overweight man—was sent to handle our case. He tried to intimidate us with attitude, but we weren’t fazed. He suggested we use a credit card instead. My response? “Nope.”  

When he tried again, warning us that manual counting would take a while, we smiled and said, “Take your time. We’re happy to wait.”  

At one point, they claimed their cashier on the second floor wouldn’t be available until later, implying we’d have to wait until 5 PM. Lani caught a clock behind the counter and called out their bluff: “Mum, they’re messing with us. The embassy closes at 5 PM.”  

Caught in their own game, they handed us brown envelopes to seal the cash and walked it to their cashier with a witness. Before leaving, the officer even asked how we managed to get so many two-dollar bills, probably suspecting money laundering. I calmly replied, “From the bank,” pointing out the bank seals. That shut him up quickly.  

After the payment drama, they claimed I couldn’t stay in the room while Lani took her renunciation oath. But by then, I think they were so done with us that they didn’t even enforce it. Lani stood, raised her right hand, and gave the oath with an attitude that screamed, “No f***s given.”  

We walked out victorious, laughing all the way to the main road. I’m pretty sure we’ll be the talk of their office for a while. And when they send Lani’s application to Washington, I wouldn’t be surprised if they slap on a sticky note that says, “Expedite this. Get rid of her ASAP!”

This wasn’t just about Lani’s renunciation—it was payback for all the nonsense the U.S. immigration system put us through in the past. When it’s my son’s turn in a few years, I’ll be back, and this time, I might just bring coins.  

Because payback is a glorious thing.

Redefining Failure: The Power of Mistakes in Self-Improvement

Failure has always been an uncomfortable word, often associated with inadequacy, disappointment, or even shame. For many of us, it represents something to avoid at all costs. We equate it with falling short of expectations, with defeat, or with the end of our ambitions. Yet, the most useful trait you can train within yourself is the ability to stop seeing failure as something negative. When you embrace failure as a valuable tool for learning and self-growth, you unlock a powerful mindset for success. The real trick to self-improvement is not avoiding mistakes but making plenty of them and ensuring that you never make the same one twice.

Changing how we perceive failure is the key to unlocking our true potential. Instead of viewing failure as a sign of inadequacy, we can start seeing it as part of the learning process. In every mistake lies the opportunity for growth, and in every failure, there’s an invaluable lesson waiting to be uncovered. Learning to stop fearing failure allows you to pursue your goals without hesitation, with the understanding that setbacks are not the end of your journey but simply a natural part of it.

This shift in mindset is crucial. Most people approach tasks and goals with the mindset of "I must succeed," which creates immense pressure and, often, paralyzes them from taking bold steps. This fear of failure can hold us back, keeping us in our comfort zones and preventing us from exploring new possibilities. On the other hand, adopting a growth mindset—where failure is seen as a stepping stone to success—frees us from the fear of judgment or falling short. It opens us up to taking risks, knowing that even if we fail, we’ll come out the other side wiser and better equipped for the next challenge.

Consider, for instance, some of the most successful people in history. Many of them achieved greatness not because they never failed but because they failed repeatedly and used each failure as a learning experience. Thomas Edison famously said, “I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won’t work” when discussing his attempts to create the light bulb. For him, each failure was simply a step closer to success. Similarly, entrepreneurs like Elon Musk and Steve Jobs are known for their resilience in the face of failure, using their mistakes to pivot, adapt, and ultimately revolutionize their industries. They didn’t let failure define them but saw it as part of the creative process, refining their ideas until they found what worked.

This approach to failure can be applied to any aspect of life. Whether it’s in your career, relationships, or personal growth, making mistakes is inevitable. The key is to understand that failure is not the enemy but a teacher. Each failure provides you with new information about what doesn’t work, allowing you to refine your approach and improve. The trick is to learn from your mistakes and ensure that you don’t repeat them. In doing so, you’ll find yourself continuously evolving and improving, even in the face of setbacks.

One of the reasons why failure is so beneficial is that it forces us to confront our weaknesses. When we fail, we’re often forced to acknowledge the areas where we lack skill, knowledge, or preparation. This can be uncomfortable, but it’s also essential for growth. It’s through our failures that we identify the areas where we need to improve, and this self-awareness is critical to long-term success. By confronting our shortcomings head-on, we can take deliberate steps to address them, whether that means acquiring new skills, seeking guidance from others, or adjusting our strategies.

Failure also teaches us resilience. Each time we fail and get back up, we strengthen our ability to persevere in the face of adversity. Life is full of challenges and setbacks, and the ability to bounce back from failure is a trait that will serve you well in all areas of your life. Resilience is not just about grit and determination; it’s about understanding that failure is part of the process and maintaining the confidence to keep moving forward despite setbacks. This ability to persist is often the difference between those who achieve their goals and those who give up when things get tough.

Moreover, failure fosters creativity and innovation. When our initial attempts fail, we’re forced to think outside the box, to explore new possibilities and solutions we might not have considered otherwise. This is where true innovation happens. In fact, many breakthroughs in science, technology, and the arts have come from failures that prompted people to rethink their approaches. The willingness to embrace failure allows us to experiment, take risks, and push the boundaries of what we thought was possible.

But while failure is a powerful tool for growth, it’s important to remember that not all mistakes are created equal. The key to effective self-improvement is not just making mistakes but learning from them and avoiding making the same mistake twice. When we repeatedly make the same errors, it’s a sign that we haven’t fully absorbed the lesson. To truly grow, we must reflect on our failures and identify what went wrong, then apply that knowledge moving forward. This process of reflection and adaptation ensures that each failure brings us one step closer to success.

In practical terms, this might involve keeping a journal to document your mistakes and the lessons learned from them. It could mean seeking feedback from others to gain a more objective perspective on what went wrong. It could also involve breaking down your failures into specific components to understand the root causes. Whatever method you choose, the goal is to transform your failures into learning opportunities that propel you forward, rather than allowing them to hold you back.

In conclusion, the most useful trait you can develop within yourself is the ability to stop seeing failure as a bad thing. When you embrace failure as an essential part of the learning process, you free yourself from the fear of making mistakes. This mindset allows you to take risks, innovate, and grow in ways you never thought possible. Remember, the trick to self-improvement isn’t about avoiding failure but making plenty of mistakes—and making sure that you never make the same one twice. By doing so, you’ll continuously evolve, turning each setback into a stepping stone on your path to success.

From Berries to Pears: Fruits That Keep Your Blood Sugar in Check

 

Fruits are a cornerstone of a healthy diet, offering a wealth of nutrients and flavors. For individuals managing their blood sugar levels, understanding the impact of different fruits on blood glucose is crucial. Over the past eight years, my juicing journey has deepened my understanding of how fruits can influence blood sugar levels. This essay explores which fruits are effective in controlling blood sugar, highlighting the lessons learned from years of juicing, including the role of the Glycemic Index (GI), fiber, and specific compounds in fruits.

The Glycemic Index and Its Impact

The Glycemic Index (GI) measures how quickly a food raises blood sugar levels compared to a reference food. Low GI foods, with values of 55 or less, are less likely to cause rapid spikes in blood sugar, while high GI foods, with values of 70 or more, can lead to quicker increases. For blood sugar management, consuming fruits with a low GI is advantageous as they help maintain stable glucose levels.

Low Glycemic Index Fruits

1. Berries: Berries, including strawberries, blueberries, raspberries, and blackberries, are among the best choices for blood sugar control. With GI values ranging from 30 to 40, they are low in sugar and high in fiber and antioxidants. From my juicing experience, incorporating berries has not only enhanced the flavor but also provided a steady release of energy, without causing sharp spikes in blood sugar.

2. Cherries: Cherries have a GI value of around 20, making them an excellent option for blood sugar control. Their low sugar content and high antioxidant levels, such as anthocyanins, contribute to improved insulin sensitivity. In my juicing practice, cherries have been a delightful addition, offering both taste and beneficial effects on blood glucose levels.

3. Apples: Apples have a GI value of about 38. They are rich in soluble fiber, particularly pectin, which helps regulate blood sugar by slowing sugar absorption. Through my juicing journey, I’ve discovered that apple juice blends well with other low-GI fruits, providing a natural sweetness without overwhelming my blood sugar levels.

4. Pears: Pears, with a GI value of approximately 38, are another fruit that supports blood sugar management. Their high fiber content aids in the gradual release of glucose. I’ve found pears to be versatile in juicing, often combining them with greens to create a refreshing, blood sugar-friendly beverage.

5. Grapefruit: Grapefruit, with a GI value of around 25, is a low GI fruit that can aid in blood sugar control. Its fiber content and vitamin C contribute to its health benefits. Grapefruit juice has been a staple in my juicing routine, providing a tangy flavor and a positive impact on blood glucose.

The Role of Fiber in Blood Sugar Control

Fiber is essential in managing blood sugar levels. It comes in two types: soluble and insoluble. Soluble fiber dissolves in water, forming a gel-like substance that slows carbohydrate digestion and absorption, thereby preventing rapid spikes in blood sugar. Insoluble fiber adds bulk to the stool and supports regular bowel movements.

Fruits high in soluble fiber, such as apples, pears, and berries, are particularly beneficial. Through my juicing experience, I’ve learned that including these fruits helps maintain more stable blood sugar levels. Additionally, blending fruits with leafy greens has enhanced the fiber content of my juices, further supporting blood sugar regulation.

Compounds in Fruits that Influence Blood Sugar

1. Polyphenols: Polyphenols are naturally occurring compounds with antioxidant properties found in many fruits. They can improve insulin sensitivity and lower blood sugar levels. Berries, for instance, are rich in polyphenols like quercetin and catechins, which have been beneficial in my juicing regimen for managing blood glucose.

2. Flavonoids: Flavonoids are a type of polyphenol present in various fruits. Apples and citrus fruits are notable sources. Research indicates that flavonoids, such as hesperidin found in citrus fruits, can enhance insulin sensitivity and support better blood sugar control. Incorporating these fruits into my juices has been a strategic choice for their blood sugar-regulating effects.

3. Vitamins and Minerals: Vitamins and minerals in fruits also play a role in blood sugar management. For example, vitamin C, abundant in oranges and strawberries, has been linked to improved glucose control. Potassium, found in bananas and avocados, helps balance blood sugar by supporting cellular function. Juicing these fruits has provided a convenient way to incorporate these nutrients into my diet.

Lessons Learned from a Juicing Journey

Over the past eight years, my juicing journey has significantly enhanced my understanding of how fruits affect blood sugar. Here are some key lessons learned:

1. Importance of Variety: Juicing a variety of low-GI fruits has helped me maintain balanced blood sugar levels. Experimenting with different combinations has also introduced me to new flavors and nutrients, making the process enjoyable and educational.

2. Impact of Fiber: Including fruits high in soluble fiber, such as apples and pears, in my juices has been crucial in managing blood glucose. I’ve learned that fiber helps slow sugar absorption, preventing rapid spikes in blood sugar.

3. Balancing Sweetness: While fruits naturally contain sugars, I’ve discovered that balancing sweeter fruits with low-GI options and incorporating vegetables into my juices can help regulate blood sugar levels. This approach has prevented excessive sugar intake while still enjoying flavorful beverages.

4. Monitoring Responses: Regularly monitoring my blood sugar levels has been essential in understanding how different fruits and combinations affect me personally. This personalized approach has allowed me to adjust my juicing practices to better suit my needs.

5. Incorporating Nutrients: Juicing has provided an opportunity to boost my intake of essential vitamins, minerals, and antioxidants. By focusing on fruits rich in these nutrients, I’ve supported overall health while managing blood sugar levels effectively.

Practical Tips for Including Fruit in a Blood Sugar-Friendly Diet

1. Choose Low-GI Fruits: Opt for fruits with low GI values, such as berries, cherries, and apples, to maintain stable blood sugar levels.

2. Incorporate Fiber: Include fruits high in soluble fiber in your diet to slow sugar absorption and prevent spikes in blood glucose.

3. Pair with Other Foods: Combine fruits with proteins or healthy fats to balance sugar intake and support steady energy levels.

4. Monitor and Adjust: Track your blood sugar responses to different fruits and adjust your juicing and dietary practices accordingly.

Conclusion

Fruits play a crucial role in blood sugar regulation, particularly when choosing low-GI options and focusing on those rich in fiber and beneficial compounds. My eight-year juicing journey has provided valuable insights into how different fruits impact blood glucose levels. By incorporating a variety of low-GI fruits, understanding the role of fiber, and leveraging the benefits of specific compounds, I have been able to manage my blood sugar effectively while enjoying a diverse range of flavors. This journey has not only enhanced my knowledge but also improved my overall health and well-being.

My Run, My Shoes: Personal Insights on the Best and Worst Running Footwear

 

Running shoes play a crucial role in enhancing or hindering a runner's performance. With countless brands available, each claiming to offer the best experience, it can be challenging to find the right pair. From personal experience and extensive testing, ASICS and Puma Nitro have proven to be the top choices, offering exceptional comfort, support, and durability. In stark contrast, Skechers has failed to deliver on these fronts, and even Nike, despite its global reputation, has not impressed.

ASICS

ASICS has earned its place as a top brand among runners, thanks to its meticulous attention to detail and commitment to innovation. The brand’s focus on biomechanics has resulted in shoes that cater to a wide range of runners, from beginners to elite athletes.

One of the defining features of ASICS running shoes is their Gel technology. This unique cushioning system absorbs shock during impact, which is crucial for reducing strain on the joints and muscles. Whether running a marathon or enjoying a leisurely jog, ASICS Gel technology ensures that your feet remain comfortable and supported. The Gel-Kayano and Gel-Nimbus series are prime examples of ASICS' ability to blend comfort and performance. The Gel-Kayano, in particular, is renowned for its stability and support, making it an ideal choice for overpronators—runners who need extra support to prevent their feet from rolling inward excessively.

Another standout feature of ASICS shoes is their durability. These shoes are built to last, even under the rigorous demands of regular running. The high-quality materials used in their construction, coupled with the brand's dedication to research and development, result in a product that can withstand the test of time. Additionally, ASICS shoes offer excellent arch support, which is critical for preventing common running injuries such as plantar fasciitis. The combination of cushioning, stability, and durability makes ASICS a top choice for serious runners.

PUMA

While Puma has traditionally been known for its stylish athletic wear, the introduction of the Nitro series has solidified the brand’s position in the running shoe market. Puma Nitro shoes are a testament to the brand’s commitment to combining style with substance.

The most notable feature of the Puma Nitro series is its Nitro foam technology. This innovative cushioning system provides a lightweight and responsive feel, making it ideal for runners who prioritize speed and agility. The Nitro foam offers a springy sensation with every step, giving runners the boost they need to maintain their pace over long distances. This responsiveness is particularly beneficial for runners looking to improve their speed and performance.

Puma Nitro shoes also excel in versatility. Whether you’re running on a track, road, or trail, these shoes offer excellent grip and stability, ensuring you stay grounded even in challenging conditions. The durability of the materials used in Puma Nitro shoes further adds to their appeal, as they can withstand the wear and tear of various running environments. The lightweight design, combined with the responsive cushioning and durability, makes Puma Nitro a top contender in the running shoe market.

SKECHERS

Skechers has gained popularity in the casual footwear market, known for its comfortable and affordable shoes. However, when it comes to running shoes, Skechers falls short in several critical areas. While the brand offers a wide range of styles and designs, the performance aspects of their running shoes leave much to be desired.

One of the main issues with Skechers running shoes is the lack of adequate support. Unlike ASICS and Puma, which focus on providing stability and arch support, Skechers shoes often feel flimsy and lack the necessary structure to support a runner’s feet during intense activity. This deficiency in support can lead to discomfort and even injuries over time, particularly for runners who require extra stability due to overpronation or high arches.

Another drawback of Skechers running shoes is their cushioning system. While the shoes may feel comfortable initially, the materials used in the cushioning tend to break down quickly, resulting in a less supportive and comfortable experience over time. This lack of durability is a significant issue for serious runners who need shoes that can withstand regular use without compromising on comfort or performance. Furthermore, the overall build quality of Skechers running shoes is often subpar compared to brands like ASICS and Puma. The materials used in the construction of Skechers shoes do not offer the same level of durability, leading to a shorter lifespan and inconsistent performance.

Nike

Nike is one of the most recognized and trusted brands in the athletic footwear industry. The brand has built a reputation for innovation, style, and performance, and its running shoes are no exception. However, despite the brand's widespread popularity and extensive marketing campaigns, Nike running shoes have not lived up to expectations, particularly in comparison to ASICS and Puma Nitro.

One of the main issues with Nike running shoes is their cushioning. While Nike has developed various cushioning technologies, such as Air and React, these systems often feel too soft and lack the balance between comfort and firmness that serious runners need. The overly cushioned feel can result in a lack of responsiveness, making it harder for runners to maintain their pace and energy over long distances. This can be a significant drawback for runners who prioritize performance and need a shoe that can keep up with their demands.

Another area where Nike falls short is durability. While the brand's shoes are undoubtedly stylish and lightweight, they often come at the expense of long-term durability. The materials used in Nike running shoes can wear down quickly, especially when subjected to the rigors of regular running. This lack of durability can lead to a decrease in support and comfort over time, making the shoes less effective for long-term use.

Despite these shortcomings, Nike does offer a wide range of options, catering to different types of runners. However, for those who prioritize performance, durability, and overall value, Nike running shoes may not be the best choice.

So in conclusion, choosing the right running shoes is a personal decision that can significantly impact your running experience. 

Ultimately, when it comes to running shoes, it’s essential to prioritize what matters most—comfort, support, durability, and performance. By focusing on these factors, you can find a pair of running shoes that will enhance your running experience and help you achieve your goals.

Persistant Perseverence

 

Persistence and perseverance have been the cornerstones of my personal journey, shaping my experiences, molding my character, and defining my path to growth. Throughout my life, I've come to realize that achieving meaningful goals requires steadfast determination and an unyielding spirit.

One of the most profound lessons I've learned is that setbacks and challenges are inevitable companions on the road to success. Whether facing academic hurdles, personal struggles, or professional setbacks, I've encountered numerous moments where giving up seemed like the easiest option. Yet, each time, I chose to press forward with renewed determination.

Persistence, for me, is not just about pushing through difficulties but also about maintaining a resilient mindset in the face of adversity. It's about embracing failures as opportunities for growth, learning from mistakes, and continuously striving to improve. This mindset has not only helped me overcome obstacles but has also shaped my approach to life, instilling in me a belief that every setback is a stepping stone towards achieving greater things.

There have been times when doubts crept in, when the path ahead seemed dauntingly steep, and when success appeared out of reach. During these moments, I leaned on my resilience and unwavering resolve to persevere. I reminded myself that setbacks are temporary and that with perseverance, resilience, and a positive attitude, I could navigate through any challenge.

Persistently pursuing my goals has taught me valuable lessons about the power of resilience and determination. It's about showing up consistently, putting in the hard work even when results are not immediate, and maintaining faith in the process. This commitment to persistence has not only helped me achieve personal milestones but has also shaped my character, fostering a sense of strength and resilience that extends beyond individual achievements.

In essence, persistent perseverance is more than just a trait—it's a mindset, a way of life that embraces challenges as opportunities for growth and views setbacks as temporary detours rather than dead ends. It's about believing in oneself, refusing to give up in the face of adversity, and continually striving towards personal and professional excellence.

As I continue on my journey, I carry with me the invaluable lessons learned through persistent perseverance—lessons that remind me of the strength found in resilience, the power of determination, and the endless possibilities that await those who refuse to be deterred by obstacles.

From Festivity to Disenchantment: My Changed Perspective on the 4th of July

 

I hesitated to write this during the Fourth of July festivities out of respect for my fellow American friends and family. However, it’s time to share my evolving perspective on this holiday. When we moved back to Singapore almost 19 years ago, I held onto American traditions, celebrating everything we used to in the USA, including the Fourth of July. It was important to me that my children didn't miss out on their roots. We proudly celebrated every year in our own way, keeping the spirit of American independence alive in our household.

However, I no longer feel the same pride in America. The celebrations now feel hollow in light of current events and the state of the country. The ideals we once celebrated seem to be in stark contrast to the reality many Americans face today.

One of the main reasons for my disillusionment is the treatment of veterans. These are individuals who fought for the very freedom we celebrate on the Fourth of July, yet they are not being taken care of as they should be. In my ten years working in real estate rentals, I’ve seen firsthand how many veterans struggle. They fought for our freedom, but it often seems like everything is reversed now, with those who should be honored and supported instead being neglected and forgotten.

In addition to the plight of veterans, I am deeply troubled by the epidemic of gun violence, particularly the tragic shootings of innocent children in schools. Schools should be safe havens, yet they have become sites of unimaginable horror. Despite the urgency of this crisis, meaningful gun control legislation remains elusive due to the entrenchment of the Second Amendment and powerful lobbying groups.

I could list many other reasons for my disappointment with America, but it’s essential to also acknowledge the opportunities I had while living there. My 11 years in the USA helped me grow as a person and become more independent. I experienced much more than many of my fellow Singaporeans who never had the opportunity to live overseas. For that, I am grateful.

However, this does not negate the frustrations I feel about America's current state. For instance, our tax money often goes to support individuals who contribute little to society, while veterans are denied much-needed assistance. Moreover, as long as we hold US citizenship or a green card, we are required to pay taxes to both the USA and the country we live and work in, which can be financially burdensome.

The situation has become even more complicated now that my children have chosen to be Singaporean citizens. Singapore does not allow dual citizenship, so they have decided to give up their American citizenship. The process has been anything but straightforward. The American embassy requires an exorbitant fee of USD $3,000 to renounce citizenship, a figure that was increased from USD $400 under Obama’s administration. This fee feels like a desperate attempt to retain citizens for tax purposes and leaves a bitter taste in our mouths.

I am unhappy about paying a total of USD $6,000 for my kids to renounce their American citizenship, but I will be relieved when it’s over. If America is so financially desperate that it needs to charge such high fees, then so be it. This experience has cemented my view that there’s nothing great about the once-great America.

My heart goes out to family and friends who are unhappy living in the USA but have no other choice. We are fortunate to have an alternative, and what an awesome alternative it is: Singapore. Here, we feel safe, supported, and part of a community that values and protects its citizens.

In conclusion, the Fourth of July has transformed from a day of joyous celebration to a time of reflection and disillusionment for me. The disparities between the ideals of freedom, justice, and equality and the current realities in America have led to a profound shift in my perspective. While I cherish the growth and experiences I gained during my years in the USA, I cannot ignore the systemic issues that have tarnished my view of the country. As I move forward, I do so with a heavy heart for those still grappling with these challenges and a deep appreciation for the life we have built in Singapore.

Dancing with a Limp

 

Losing Matt, my best friend and my chosen family, in a car accident, shattered my world. It felt like my heart was irreparably broken, a wound that would never heal. Grief is a deeply personal and profound experience that fundamentally changes us. The pain is unlike any other, a physical ache that grips the chest and makes it hard to breathe. The idea of ever feeling whole again seems impossible. But, paradoxically, the enduring presence of this pain is also where some solace can be found.

When Matt died, the initial shock and sorrow were overwhelming. The grief felt insurmountable, and I couldn’t imagine ever moving past it. In many ways, I haven't. The void Matt left behind is irreplaceable, and the wound in my heart has never fully healed. Yet, the fact that this wound remains open means that Matt lives on within me. His presence is embedded in my memories, thoughts, and very being. Every moment we shared, every laugh, every tear is a part of who I am now. The broken heart I carry is a testament to the depth of the love I had for him and the profound impact he had on my life.

Living with this broken heart is like having a broken leg that never heals properly. The pain may subside over time, but it never completely disappears. There are days when the ache is more pronounced, triggered by memories, anniversaries, or simple reminders of Matt. Just like a leg that hurts more in cold weather, my grief can resurface unexpectedly, catching me off guard and bringing back the intensity of the initial loss. These moments of renewed sorrow remind me of the depth of my love for Matt and the irreplaceable nature of who he was.

Despite this enduring pain, I have learned to live with it. I’ve adapted, finding ways to navigate my life with this constant companion. This doesn’t mean I have moved on or forgotten. Instead, I’ve integrated my grief into my daily existence, allowing it to shape me in new and often profound ways. Over time, I’ve discovered that I can still experience joy, love, and fulfillment, even with a heart that remains broken.

This adaptation is much like learning to dance with a limp. At first, the limp felt awkward and restrictive, a constant reminder of the injury. But as I grew accustomed to it, I found new rhythms and movements that accommodated my altered state. I might not dance with the same abandon or grace as before, but I still dance. In fact, my dance has taken on a new beauty, marked by resilience and strength. The limp has become a part of my story, a visible symbol of my ability to endure and find joy despite my pain.

In this way, my broken heart has become a source of strength. It reminds me of my capacity to love deeply and profoundly. It has taught me empathy and compassion, as I recognize the shared experience of grief in others. My own loss has allowed me to connect with others who are suffering, offering support and understanding in a way that only those who have been through similar pain can. My broken heart fosters a sense of community and solidarity, bringing people together in our shared humanity.

Moreover, living with a broken heart has led to a deeper appreciation for life and the people who remain in it. I have become more attuned to the preciousness of each moment, recognizing the fragility and impermanence of life. This awareness has led me to live more fully, cherishing my relationships and making the most of the time I have with my loved ones. The loss I have endured serves as a constant reminder not to take anything for granted.

The journey through grief is never linear or predictable. It is marked by ups and downs, moments of intense pain, and moments of surprising joy. There are days when the weight of the loss feels too heavy to bear, and there are days when I feel a sense of peace and acceptance. Through it all, I carry Matt's memory with me, allowing his presence to continue shaping my life in meaningful ways.

Losing Matt, someone I could not imagine living without, has been one of the most devastating experiences of my life. The heartbreak is deep and enduring, leaving a wound that never fully heals. But within this broken heart lies a testament to the love we shared, a love so powerful that it leaves a lasting imprint. This unhealed wound has become a source of strength, resilience, and connection. I have learned to dance with my limp, finding new ways to navigate life with my grief. And in doing so, I honor Matt's memory, keeping him alive in my heart forever.