Tuesday, July 25, 2023

Twitter's new X logo

 


Twitter's new X logo has generated mixed reactions among users. While some appreciate the sleek and modern design, others believe that it deviates too much from the recognizable blue bird logo that has become synonymous with the platform.


I believe that the One positive aspect of the new X logo is its simplicity as the design features a white letter 'x' on a light blue background, which gives it a clean and minimalistic appearance. This simplicity reflects a more modern and mature look for Twitter, which could attract a wider range of users.


Additionally, I believe that the X logo can be seen as a representation of Twitter's evolution and growth as a platform. Its angular shape and bold lines convey a sense of strength and confidence. This could be seen as a reflection of Twitter's effort to reinvent itself and appeal to a broader user base.


However, I have read that many users have expressed disappointment over the departure from the iconic blue bird logo. I am disappointed, too, because the blue bird is instantly recognizable and has become a symbol of Twitter. Some argue that abandoning this well-established logo may risk confusing users and diluting brand identity. I do not believe so. I think it is just a matter of getting used to it. 


Furthermore, critics believe that the X logo lacks personality and fails to convey Twitter's core values and purpose. The absence of the bird symbol, which has long been associated with open communication and free expression, may dilute the platform's image and make it less distinguishable from other social media platforms.


I guess Twitter's new X logo has provoked varying opinions among users. Its simplicity and modern design have received appreciation from some, while others lament the abandonment of the iconic blue bird logo. Ultimately, only time will tell if this re-branding effort helps Twitter to attract new users and evolve successfully.


What are your thoughts?

Friday, July 7, 2023

Guarding our hearts

 


Guarding our hearts is a natural response to protect ourselves from pain and vulnerability. We build walls, shielding ourselves from potential hurt. However, life often surprises us when someone unexpectedly enters our lives and slowly dismantles those walls. Through their genuine care, understanding, and patience, they show us the power of trust and vulnerability. Their presence becomes a catalyst for healing and growth, helping us realize that opening our hearts can lead to profound connections and immense joy. As they pull down our walls, we learn that love and genuine connection are worth the risk, forever transforming our lives and our capacity for happiness.


When we guard our hearts, we create barriers that isolate us from the world. These barriers can be constructed from past experiences of pain and disappointment, serving as a defense mechanism to prevent us from being hurt again. We convince ourselves that vulnerability is a weakness and that it is better to keep our emotions locked away. In doing so, we deny ourselves the opportunity for meaningful connections and authentic relationships.


However, life has a way of presenting us with unexpected opportunities for growth. Sometimes, a person enters our lives who challenges our preconceived notions about love and vulnerability. This person may be a friend, a partner, or even a stranger who shows us kindness in a moment of need. They break down our walls, not through force or coercion, but through their genuine care and understanding.


Their actions and words demonstrate a level of compassion that we may have never experienced before. They take the time to listen to our fears and insecurities without judgment, creating a safe space for us to express ourselves honestly. Through their presence, they teach us that vulnerability is not synonymous with weakness, but rather a strength that allows for authentic connections to be formed.


As we begin to trust this person and open ourselves up to the possibility of being hurt, something incredible happens. We start to experience a profound sense of connection and joy that we had previously believed to be unattainable. The fear and pain that once held us captive begin to dissipate, replaced by a newfound sense of freedom and liberation.


This process of dismantling our emotional walls is not easy. It requires courage and a willingness to confront our deepest fears and insecurities. There may be moments of uncertainty and doubt, where we question whether it is worth the risk. But as we witness the transformative power of love and genuine connection, those doubts gradually fade away.


Through this journey, we learn that love is not always perfect or without its challenges. There may be moments of heartache and disappointment along the way. However, the beauty lies in the fact that we are no longer alone in facing these challenges. We have someone by our side who is willing to stand with us, to support us, and to share in both our joys and sorrows.


The person who helped us dismantle our walls becomes more than just a catalyst for change; they become an integral part of our lives. Their unwavering presence and support become the foundation upon which we build a future filled with love, understanding, and growth. Together, we navigate the complexities of life, knowing that we are stronger and more resilient because of the lessons we have learned.


In this process, we not only discover the capacity for love within ourselves but also within others. We realize that everyone we encounter has their own set of walls and barriers, shaped by their unique experiences. With this newfound understanding, we approach our relationships with empathy and compassion, knowing that everyone deserves the opportunity to experience the transformative power of love.


Guarding our hearts may initially seem like the safest option, but it ultimately deprives us of the rich tapestry of human connection. It is through vulnerability that we find strength, and it is through love that we find fulfillment. So, let us embrace the risks, and let us tear down the walls we have built.


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Saturday, June 3, 2023

I’ll Be Loving You Forever

 


Eleven years ago on this date, June 3, I met my all-time favourite boy band New Kids on the Block for the second time in three days…. So let’s rewind back two more days, eleven years ago.

 

1 June 2012: My kiddos were still young so when I planned this trip to Jakarta from Singapore to catch New Kids on the Block in concert after almost 20 years from the first time I had seen them LIVE in Singapore in 1992, I decided I would make it a family vacation. We toured Jakarta and in the late afternoon, when it was time for me to head over to the concert venue to do the meet-and-greet and go for the show, the kids remained behind at the hotel with my mother and husband.

 

It was nerve wrecking to be honest because I did not know what to expect. Imagine, I was only 13 when I last saw the guys in concert and back then, my family was not very rich so I had seats in nose bleed land but was grateful to still be at the show. Not too long after, they disbanded. I swore I would move to Boston to hunt them down and funny thing is.. I did finally move to Boston in 2000. As much as I never stopped listening to their music, I was busy trying to survive and the thought of looking for them never did cross my mind.

 

Although in 2007, someone looked me up on MySpace and asked if I would accompany her for Jordan’s solo concert. We met up and remained friends up till today. We attended two shows of Jordan’s on the same day and met him twice.

 

I moved back to Singapore in late 2007 and little did I know the guys would be getting back together in 2008. What bad timing because if I was still in USA, I would be attending a concert each month!

 

Anyway, I was glad to find out they were coming to Asia. Both Jakarta and Manila and I got tickets to both shows. But let me continue with Jakarta first.

 

I purchased the most expensive tier for the meet-and-greet experience for Jakarta. I don’t even recall what they called it but I believe it was the Ultimate. Which meant, when I do meet the guys and have my photo taken with them, it will be just me and them. Whereas the other tiers meant, you would take your turn with 9 other women and it would be a group photo.

 

It came my turn and I tried to remain as calm and cool as I possibly could. The guys were great. No matter how nervous you might have been, they made you feel comfortable and so much at ease. It was so easy talking to them. I was decked out in my denim jacket with NKOTB patches all over it. Joey thought it was cool. I can’t really remember exactly what we spoke about during that meet. But one thing that stood out was when I showed Donnie my newly acquired tattoo at the back of my neck that read, “I count the blessings that keep our love new. This love will last forever. I see it all now.” He held my hair back and I melted but remained calm. Then he read it out loud and said, “Oh this is Jordan’s” and yelled for Jordan who skipped towards us and held my hair (melted again) and used his finger to run through the lyrics tattooed on my skin and started singing. OH MY GOD! I thought I had died and went to Heaven. If this is what waiting 20 years held then I would do it all over again!

 

I finally fulfilled my lifelong dream of meeting the guys. Oh! And not to mention I had my KNIGHT sandwich photo taken!

 

I was front row for the concert and it was amazing. I could not believe I was there! The energy was so great I am glad I did not pass out.

 

But let’s fast forward now to the best part.

 

The next day, the family and I arrived back in Singapore at about 5pm on June 2. We got home, and mum and I had to unpack our bags from Jakarta, only to re-pack it with fresh clothes for Manila. By 10pm, we were at the airport again, waiting to hop on the flight to Manila. This time it was just her and I.


Mum has been a long time fan of New Kids on the Block too. And I thought this would make a great memory keepsake for her and I to do something this special together. So I purchased 2 more Ultimates for her and me for Manila.


What I did not mention earlier was, a few weeks before the trip, I was so excited for mum to also be able to meet the guys, but we were informed that meet-and-greet in Manila would be cancelled. I was heartbroken, for mum. So I did everything in my power to try and get it going again. I tweeted Donnie probably a billion times begging him to try and do something about it because I wanted my mum to be able to meet them and she was so excited about it. I never got any response and reply from him but I am pretty sure he made it happen because it was back on again!


…. Fast forward to when we had to be at the venue for the meet-and-greet. My mum was as cool as a cucumber!

 

There were like 15 of us waiting in line for our turn to get in to the room where the boys were. I have done this before, a couple days before so I literally knew what to expect… or so I thought I knew… because this time it was different! So VERY different! The whole Manila experience was extraordinary!


While we waited in line, Donnie came out of the room and went down the line and hugged every single one of us. How can you not love this man? He has such a beautiful heart and soul.


So while we again waited for our turns to go in the room to meet the guys, everyone else was pushing one another to take a turn first because they thought if they waited till the last, they would get more time with the guys. It doesn’t work that way.


I told mum to just go on ahead first since she was excited about it. So mum goes in. I was next. I waited patiently but realized it was taking longer than usual. About 15 minutes had passed before the door opened and Earl signaled me to head on it. I was confused. Where was my mum? Was there another door that the fan would exit after meeting the guys.


Well? My question was answered when I walked in and I saw mum, sitting comfy on the couch, seated beside the guys and chatting up a storm. I join them. We talked and so many photos of us with the guys were taken. Donnie and Jordan then asked mum and I to play ping pong with them. It was as if time stood still.


Usually they guys are told not to sign any items during these meet and greets but my mum asked to sign her hat and they gladly did so.


But soon mum left after her 30 mins with the guys (15 mins alone and 15 mins while I was there). It was my turn and I had my 15 minutes with them.


I asked them to sign my jacket which I wore in Jakarta and their management said NO because they had already signed an item. And that was when beautiful Jonathan butted in and said, “Of course we will sign it. The other was for her mother.” And so they signed my jacket.


Joey then commented, “Hey! Where did you get this from? Because I saw another fan wear it in Jakarta.”


“Joey! That was me!”


Joey, “Oh! You came twice?”


“YEH!”


It was group photo time and I mentioned this is the best birthday present a girl could ever ask for. And they actually sang Happy Birthday to me.


Those are memories that will last a lifetime.


I truly believe we had this special experience because of my tweets to Donnie but who knows. Some may say it is favourtism but I believe whole heartedly it has nothing to do with favoritism. It’s probably because it was refreshing to see someone like my mother who appreciated their music and we were calm and collected and treated them like how we would treat our next door neighbour. I think we had all enjoyed ourselves that we lost track of time.


Thank you Donnie, Jordan, Jonathan, Danny and Joe for those beautiful memories.

Sunday, May 21, 2023

Create The Life You Want

 


In the pursuit of happiness and fulfillment, one must take an active role in shaping their own destiny. Life presents us with possibilities and opportunities, and it is up to us to seize them and mold our lives according to our aspirations and desires.


Creating the life you want begins with a clear vision of what you truly desire. Define your goals, dreams, and values, and let them serve as a compass to guide your decisions and actions. Set specific, realistic targets that align with your vision, breaking them down into manageable steps. Remember, small consistent efforts can lead to significant long-term achievements.


Embrace personal growth and self-improvement as vital components of your journey. Invest in developing new skills, expanding your knowledge, and nurturing positive habits. Learn from failures and setbacks, using them as stepping stones towards success. Cultivate a growth mindset that sees challenges as opportunities for growth and resilience.


Surround yourself with a supportive network of like-minded individuals who share your aspirations and can provide guidance and encouragement along the way. Collaborate with others who can complement your strengths and offer different perspectives, fostering a rich and diverse environment for personal development.


Creating the life you want is not an effortless task, but it is an empowering one. It requires determination, perseverance, and the willingness to take risks. By taking charge of your life, setting meaningful goals, and embracing personal growth, you can shape a life of purpose, fulfillment, and true happiness. Remember, you have the power to create the life you want; go forth and make it a reality.


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Now let me share with you 7 simple steps in creating the life that you want.


Step 1:
Do a life audit first.

Find out where you stand in each of the eight areas of life to start.
- Health
- Self-care
- Personal development
- Career
- Finances
- Home life
- Relationships
- Free time

What alterations would have the most influence on your life?


Step 2:
Make a mental adjustment

Everything in your life is influenced by your mindset. We act on the basis of our beliefs and thoughts.


Whenever something bad occurs from now on, adjust your perspective. Consider what you can change or control rather than feeling like a victim.


Step 3:
Construct a vision

We have a distinct sense of purpose when we have a vision.

That implies that we are looking at far more than just sitting down, achieving short-term goals, and solving issues as they arise.

Passion and dreams fuel visions, which are then expressed via sincere efforts to produce noticeable results.

Step 4:
Daily self-improvement is important.

The fog begins to lift after you have your vision, and your road map starts to become more clear. But, no one will be driving the automobile for you.

To transform your life, you must put in the necessary effort. You achieve that by practicing consistently every day.

Over time, if you give the plants a tiny bit of water each day, your garden would always expand.

Step 5:
Create an environment where success will occur.

If you want to alter your life, you must change more than just yourself. Also, your surroundings must alter.

For instance, if you frequently associate with pessimistic friends, you can begin to accept the boundaries they're placing on you.

It is much more likely that you will succeed if you associate with other doers and others who share your ambition.

Step 6:
Improve your existing abilities while learning new ones

Nothing will transform your life more quickly than learning new skills.

Set aside time each day to develop your skills by watching videos, listening to podcasts, and reading books, but don't forget to put them into practice as well.

Step 7:
And finally, have fun with it.

The entire purpose of this activity is to change. That implies that your attitudes and actions will change throughout the course of the year.

The thing you were looking for may turn out to no longer be what you want.

Have fun and, most importantly, don't let the process consume your attention to the point where you lose sight of your goals.

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Good luck!

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Wednesday, May 10, 2023

Timeboxing vs To-Do Lists

 


It took me 42 years to realize that I needed to get rid of everyone who was toxic and unfavourable and who prevented me from being the finest version of myself. Life is too short to spend time with ignorant individuals. 


And you have no idea how significantly my life has improved.


Anyhow, a great buddy of mine sent me a link on to-do lists.


The article's heading read, "Former monk Jay Shetty says'most successful, productive people don't use to-do lists' — what he does instead."


I thought it was incredibly relatable, so I'd want to share my opinions and practical knowledge on timeboxing and to-do lists.


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Apparently Jay Shetty and I have a lot more in common than I'd like to think, but it's also possible that I've learnt a lot from listening to his podcasts. 


Anyway, let's get to the topic I wanted to cover. To start, let me say that I don't frequently use a to-do list. I might always claim to be going through my to-do lists, but I only do so because it is simpler to use that phrase than to define timeboxing.


Timeboxing, as defined by Jay Shetty, is the process of converting your to-do list into a calendar and assigning each activity a specific amount of time. You then decide what to accomplish and when to do it, ignoring all other distractions within the allotted amount of time for that work. 


By assigning you a set amount of activities to finish each day, timeboxing gives you a finite number of tasks to complete per day unlike a to-do list. 


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This is how timeboxing functions in my opinion and why I believe it increases my productivity.

The five issues I discovered with my to-do list were a turning point in my life. First, they presented me with an excessive number of options. Second, I gravitate towards jobs that are easier to complete and are simpler by nature. Third, I rarely feel motivated to complete critical but non-urgent chores, such as scheduling time for learning. Fourth, to-do lists by themselves lack the crucial context of how much free time I have. Fifth, they don't have an accountability system to hold me accountable.

That was plenty for me, and I have since switched from my to-do list to this timeboxing calendar approach. And during the past few years, I've learned a few more advantages of timeboxing that I'd like to share.

First, scheduling timeboxes into a calendar allows for the relative arrangement of tasks. Working diligently and doing my absolute best isn't always necessary; instead, doing the right thing at the appropriate moment will result in greater results for everyone.

Second, it provides me with a detailed account of everything I've accomplished. 

Thirdly, I feel like I have greater control. Control is the main factor that determines my level of enjoyment at work, thus this is really essential to me. My happiness and productivity suffer as a result of frequent interruptions. Timeboxing is the ideal remedy for this. I plan what to accomplish and when to do it, eliminate all outside distractions for the specified period of time, and complete the task. Repeat. Consistent control and obvious success are incredibly pleasant and even addictive. This is about my intention and how I feel, not just about production.

Fourth, my productivity has increased significantly. The majority of us accept that there is some truth to the idea that work grows to fill the time allocated for its completion. In reality, we frequently spend longer than necessary on a task, affected more by the time that is actually available than by how long the task should actually take. Therefore, by setting a reasonable, limited time for a task and sticking to it, disciplined timeboxing for me frees me from the above. 

The advantages of timeboxing are numerous, diverse, and profound. This routine has enhanced my mood and my personal accomplishments. Given how much time it gives me to do other tasks, this may have been the most crucial ability or practice I have acquired as a modern professional. Additionally, it is easily applied and cost-free. 

Generally stated, timeboxing is a time management strategy in which you assign a specific amount of time to a specified activity. After the stipulated duration has passed, you stop working on the activity and evaluate whether your intended objectives have been met.

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How do you timebox, then?

Four steps make up the timeboxing time management method:

- Locate appropriate tasks
- Establish your goals
- Set a timer
- Work, and evaluate your progress

STEP 1
Locate appropriate tasks

In general, you can choose any task and assign it to a timebox, but it would be better if you did so for the following tasks:

Tasks that you don't want to spend a lot of time on and for which you lack motivation.

Typically, tasks that you know will need a lot of time and effort are the ones that you lack motivation to do. You delay endlessly since you are aware that you cannot complete these things quickly.

You can effectively reduce the difficulty of the assignment by breaking it up into smaller, more manageable pieces, each with their own deadlines and milestones. This leaves you with the simple chore of inspiring yourself to meet the next deadline or milestone, which is much more doable.

Most of the time, unpleasant but important jobs, like cleaning up your room or organizing your emails, are the ones you don't want to spend too much time on. Either you'll put off starting these tasks or you'll take an excessive amount of time.

You essentially limit the time you'll spend on such task from the outset by giving yourself a fixed deadline.

STEP 2
Establish your goals

Once you've chosen your projects, consider what you intend to accomplish with them and when.

When it comes to tasks you don't want to perform, you might make working on them during a timebox, a goal itself. For instance, make cleaning your room for 15 minutes your goal. By working on organizing your room for 15 minutes each day for a week, you'll probably discover that you've made significant progress without even breaking a sweat. You can even make this timebox an ongoing one.

STEP 3
Set a timer

This step is very similar to the second stage in the time blocking time management strategy. Once you've decided on the activity you'll tackle and the goals you want to achieve by doing it, it's time to devote a time period to this work.

Therefore, you choose when to begin working on the task and when to finish it. If the time limit allows, you may even note this time in your calendar to ensure that you don't get behind on your errands.

As was indicated in the first step, you'll likely timebox your most challenging tasks that you lack motivation to do; as a result, you'll need an ideal, condensed timebox to assist in making these tasks bearable.

The "Eat that Frog" time management method's creator, Brian Tracy, advises working on your most challenging tasks first thing in the morning. Therefore, you may simply set up a timebox in the morning for your most crucial, urgent, or simply unappealing work that you lack the motivation to complete.

STEP 4
Work, and evaluate your progress

The final step may be the simplest; you immediately begin working on your first scheduled task and move down your list of scheduled timeboxes.

Keep track of how much time you spend on each task to make sure you don't go over the allocated time:

Stop working as soon as the period of time specified has passed, and then evaluate your performance.

You are successfully timeboxing each time you complete your assignment inside the given time frame. All that is left to do is evaluate your progress each time.

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I'm not entirely against making a to-do list. 

What is the secret to completing tasks? It involves creating to-do lists and completing them. The most critical tasks are listed first, while the least significant tasks are listed last.

The oldest method of productivity is to make a list of the things you need to do, prioritize the list, and then complete the list. But what would be more effective? Timeboxing. 

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The debate between timeboxing and to-do lists is an important one when deciding how to get things done. You must comprehend your working style and optimal workflow if you want to know what suits you best. You can ultimately choose which is more significant to you. There are circumstances in which you could even combine the usage of timeboxing and to-do lists. 

To be frank? I timebox and keep a to-do list. That's how I operate.

Finding the best approach to employ or the one that is more effective is difficult. However, I think using both is a wonderful idea because they complement one another. You can make a list of your tasks, order them by importance, and determine how long it will take you to finish each one. Then, create up timeboxes with projected completion times for each of those jobs.

Therefore, you need to be aware of the tasks if you want to know the implementation time for both. Both are suitable options, depending on your work standards.

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Whatever you choose to do, never forget one crucial point...

Take regular breaks.

Humans can operate most effectively for only 35 to 45 minutes on average. Therefore, it's essential to continuously take breaks if you want to maintain your energy and productivity. Regular breaks allows you to advance more quickly than those who take few or no breaks.

Surprised? I'm sure you are!

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With my always busy schedule, which requires excellent organisational abilities, and after all these years as a modern professional, I have come to understand the few benefits and drawbacks of timeboxing and using to-do lists.

Let's start by discussing the benefits and drawbacks of timeboxing.

The advantages of timeboxing includes:
- Ease of performance
- Ease of time management
- More possibilities for evaluation
- Less anxiety

The disadvantages? Well, I only discovered one drawback:
- Finding consistent time in the calendar to complete tasks

What are a to-do list's benefits and drawbacks now?

The advantages of a to-do list includes:
- Ease of implementation
- Prioritization of important tasks
- A simple sense of satisfaction

What is the disadvantage of a to-do list?
- If the list becomes too lengthy, it may cause stress

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In conclusion, the next step for you is to decide whether timeboxing, to-do lists, or both are good for you. However, feel free to experiment to discover what works for you. I would advise utilizing both because they complement one another quite nicely.

"So box some time to implement a version of this, that works for you."

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Saturday, May 6, 2023

It’s been 2 weeks and…

It’s been two weeks since I got pickpocketed at East Coast Beach and I still have not been able to bring myself to head back there even if it’s always been my Happy Place. Not sure if I can still call it my Happy Place as I somehow cringe at the thought of going back there. Still filled with questions like when and how did it all take place and why was I that careless? Of course, I shouldn’t let that one bad experience take away my joy of being at my happy place but it’s tough.

 

I know in time to come, I will get over it and be able to head back again and if not, I always have Changi Beach.

 

But I should take a few other things into consideration before allowing this one bad experience to ruin it for it. I should be thankful that it could have been worse and I could have gotten hurt in the process but I did not. Also I should keep in mind that it happened during a public holiday when the beach was packed with locals as well as foreigners so if I were to head back to East Coast Beach, I could just avoid the crowded times.

 

Karma isn’t blind. It will go after those who did this not only to me but I am sure many others at the beach that day.

 

I still cannot figure if I was that careless which I know I am not and I am always paranoid and careful, or are these thieves really that good?

 

How could they open the zips to my haversack bag without me even noticing? And to take my wallet which I carefully placed at the back of the bag so when I had it on, and if anything should fall out, it would be everything else but my wallet. How quick were they to get this done as I walked, and I walk rather quickly.

 

So after two weeks of really breaking my head to think the whole scenario through, I may have come up with a few conclusions of my own.

 

These people work in groups. They probably followed me from the Lagoon where I was buying dinner for my granny, and they watched me carefully back the food and my wallet into my haversack bag. They knew exactly where I had placed it. Then followed me for a good while and even though I brisk walked, there were a few times I had to slow down because of crossed areas and people being in my path. Those could have been the times they got to reach into my bag. Who knows? Those groups of people in my path that slowed me down could even have been from their group?

 

It must have happened not too long before I realized something was aloof and that my haversack felt weird. I stopped to check and there it was, wide opened, food I bought for granny was still inside but my wallet gone. I knew for a fact that someone had robbed me because there was no way that even if the zip on my bag unzipped itself that my wallet would fall out and not the food. I knew that for a fact because of the way I had placed the items.

 

I stood still for a few minutes, totally in shock. I finally called my mum to let her know what had just happened and to have Ed call me. We got all our cards cancelled and blocked. I continued on to Granny’s to give her the dinner I bought for her. Told her what happened which I should not have because she felt bad and felt like it was her fault that it happened. She felt if I did not bring her dinner, this would not have happened.

 

Assured her it was alright and it is not her fault. I wanted to do this for her.

 

The plan was to walk back home after I see granny but after what happened, I just wasn’t feeling it. So I took a bus home. After which, Ed accompanied me over to the police station to file a report.

 

Of course I did not have to because it wasn’t a lot of money that I lost and credit cards were cancelled. Thankfully I had my ID in my phone so I didn’t have to report that. But I made the police report because I was hoping this would get the police to look into the matter and prevent it from happening to someone else.

 

However, the police did not seem to be concerned and instead made me regret my decision for having made the report because he made me feel more stupid. He tried to tell me I may not have zipped my bag or it unzipped itself. He made it clear he could not see how my wallet could have been taken and it may have fallen out instead. I know me. I know how I packed my bag. I know my paranoia. And I know that even if anything were to have fallen out, it would not have been my wallet because of the way I packed it.

 

So that was that.

 

What I am more upset about is the fact I am so disappointed with my fellow Singaporeans.

 

I am pretty sure in the middle of that crowded beach, lots would have seen me walking with a haversack on my back that was wide opened and no one seem to think anything out of the ordinary about it, enough to approach me and say, “Excuse me but did you know your bag is open?” I know I would have said something like that to someone if I saw their bag was wide opened like that which would be strange. In fact, that was exactly what I did a couple days ago at the train station to a guy who had his bag half opened.

 

Learned two lessons from this.

 

Firstly, ‘low crime doesn’t mean no crime’.

 

Singapore has a reputation for being a safe, peaceful, and orderly city. While violent crime, and crimes against persons are rare occurrences, fraud and scams, and theft are on the rise. We should not be complacent and take to heat the campaign slogan.

 

And the second lesson learned is… never depend on anyone else but yourself. In time of trouble, you better be able to defend yourself and help yourself because apparently Singaporeans WILL NOT help you. While there are still some good people in this country, majority are simply all for themselves or in time of trouble, they would much rather take out their phones and film, rather than help.

 

I still am feeling ‘shitty’ about this whole thing because honestly, as much as many have told me, “well at least they did not hurt you…” … I on the other hand would have much preferred to have at least put up a fight with this coward!

 

I feel violated.

Thursday, April 6, 2023

Maundy Thursday


Maundy Thursday is the Thursday before Easter and is considered to be the day that Jesus and His disciples shared their last Passover together. Most notably, during the Passover supper, Jesus displayed tremendous humility by washing His followers' feet. Then he told them to reciprocate for one another.


It is customary for Christians, particularly Roman Catholics, to visit seven churches on the evening of Maundy Thursday during the Lenten season. The Blessed Sacrament is placed on the church's Altar of Repose for Adoration after the Lord's Supper Mass. During the Seven Churches Visitation, the faithful stop by numerous churches—typically seven, incredibly infrequently 14, and occasionally no fixed number—to pray before the Blessed Sacrament. Aglipayan, Catholic, Methodist, Episcopal, and Salvationist Christians, among others, participated in the Seven Churches Visitation in an ecumenical setting.


The faithful remember Jesus's agony in the garden after the mass of the Lord's Supper, which commemorates his final dinner with his Apostles the night before his arrest. The Blessed Sacrament is placed in a tabernacle on the Altar of Repose, the main altar and the majority of the side altars are stripped after Mass, and all crosses are either removed or covered. Churches remain open late for silent adoration. This is in answer to Jesus' plea to his apostles in the Garden of Gethsemane, which is described in Gospel of Matthew 26:40, "Could you not, then, watch one hour with me?"


In order to pray in front of the Blessed Sacrament, those who engage in this visitation depart from the church where they attended the Mass of the Lord's Supper. This occurs more frequently in cities where churches are situated close to one another, making travel simpler. The Lord's Prayer, Hail Mary, and Gloria Patri are the prayers for this devotion in the Catholic Church, along with a prayer for the wishes of the current Pope. The Stations of the Cross are another option for prayer.

In Singapore, following the evening Mass of the Last Supper, church visits take place. At each church, the Lord's Prayer, Ave Maria, and the Gloria Patri are recited seven times each. With the selling of drinks, hot cross buns, and other regional snacks, there is a festive atmosphere. Observant Catholics eat a "Last Supper" meal in preparation for the fast the following day.

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Maundy Thursday, and even though the tradition is to visit 7 churches after attending the Mass of the Lord's Supper...I started a little earlier because I wanted to do my own little penance. 

Today was a little heartbreaking to be honest because I am made aware how much my granny and mum have aged and unable to make this journey with me. Not even if we took a bus or a taxi to each Church. 

I remember as a little girl, I would accompany granny and her friend to these 7 churches and when I got older, I would do this with my mum. This year is the first year I did it alone but at every Church, I sad an extra little prayer for them and remembered fondly of the times I did this with them in the past. 

So and my journey began. I first took a train from my office to Church #1.

Church #1 - Cathedral of the Good Shepherd
Walked from the train station and it was 650m which took me about 9 mins. 

Church #2 - Church of Saints Peter & Paul
Walked from Cathedral of the Good Shepherd and it was 180m which took me 2 mins.

Church #3 - St Joseph's Church
Walked from Church of Saints Peter & Paul and it was 180m which took me 2 mins.

Church #4 - Our Lady of Lourdes Church
Walked from St Joseph's Church and it was 650m which took me 9 mins. 

Church #5 - Church of Our Lady Queen of Peace
Walked from Our Lady of Lourdes Church and it was 5.1km which took me 1hr 5mins.

Church #6 - Church of the Holy Family
Walked from Church of Our Lady Queen of Peace and it was 2.0km which took me 26 mins.

Church #7 - Church of Our Lady of Perpetual Succour
Walked from Church of the Holy Family and it was 2.8km which took me 36 mins. 

...and walked another 2.8km to home from Church of Our Lady of Perpetual Succour. A total of 15.29km in 3hrs 49mins. 

Along the way, a few moments really stood out. Some funny and some heart warming. Let me share it with you...

The first funny moment was when I was walking to Church #5. About 3km into the journey, I tripped on the sidewalk and I kind of giggled to myself because the first thing that came to mind was "Debra falls the first time". Well, I suppose only the Catholics or Christians would get this. 

Anyway, as I was walking to the last church, I had to walk up a hill. I was exhausted by then but Daniel O'Donnell came on (my playlist) and started singing "Footsteps"... how truly appropriate. 

Then as I was walking home from the last church. I was absolutely exhausted and as I crossed the road, I met this elderly Malay lady who was probably in her 70's. It was 6.30pm and she was walking home with a basket of food, possibly rushing to get home to break her fast with her family. She hit something on the sidewalk and her basket toppled. Apples rolled away and her tray of eggs all crushed. A few walked by without stopping to help. As tired as I was, I stopped. I helped pick up the apples and something in me wanted to do more. So I took out whatever cash I had in my wallet as I don't carry much cash on me ever, and I had about $6 which was enough for a new tray of eggs. Her smile and her blessings towards me was all I needed to end the evening. 

And the rest of the walk home, my feet started to feel like lead and I was exhausted and dragging myself to get home. It was during that moment that I started reflecting on Jesus' walk to Calvary while carrying the heavy cross. Oh I forgot to mention that all this while, I had my haversack on me with my laptop in it as I started on this journey right after the office. But it was some good reflection and by the time I got home, I did lighten the mood and joked, "Jesus at least had Simon to help carry the cross at some point... I had no Simon to carry my haversack!" Haha.

So there I was, exhausted, but feeling so spiritually awakened. It was a beautiful Maundy Thursday. Next year, I plan to do it all over again. 



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