Damage done by a Narcissist

 

TO HEAL from the damage the Narcissist caused, we must admit that we were fooled and that the thing taken from us was our INNOCENCE. 

We were naive about the fact that such vile people exist. It’s nothing to be ashamed of, don’t take on the shame that the narcissist should be feeling. Don’t let them project that on you because that’s their way to shut you up about their dirty deeds.

You were KIND to them under extreme circumstances and that is not a thing to be ashamed of.

Seeing them in their true light, under the mask, is the only way to deal with them.

Don’t let them mesmerize you. Forever look behind the mask. 

Straighten Your Crown, Queen

 

At the end of the day, when you care deeply, when you’re empathetic, when you believe in love and the beauty of another human being so deeply – sometimes, you can convince yourself to fight wars for someone who isn’t fighting for you, sometimes you can convince yourself to keep trying, or to not give up, but that isn’t something to be ashamed of. You tried for something, you risked, and even through it did not work out, you in return learned how to set boundaries, how to go forward with your heart and protect it – not in a way that is guarded and hardened to the world, but rather in a way that is informed, that helps for it to be preserved and nurtured, that doesn’t let it settle for things that aren’t for it. Now you know what you do not want. Now you know what you do not want to feel. Now you know the kinds of things you crave, the respect you deserve, and you won’t settle for the opposite any longer. Forgive yourself for how you got to that understanding. 

Becoming a Morning Person

 

Becoming a morning person has its benefits. It allows you to get a jump start on the day and you never have to rush throughout the day. That is a good thing because 'rush" is also linked to an increase in stress, which we all know is not healthy.

So how do we become a morning person?

1. Go to bed early
2. Avoid naps
3. Stop pressing snooze
4. Wake up to natural light
5. Get up at the same time everyday
6. Get moving as quickly as possible
7. Stretch right when you wake up
8. Meditate for 5 minutes
9. Drink a glass of water
10. Do something productive

The benefits of becoming a morning person:

1. You will be more productive
2. May experience improved mental health
3. Developing self-discipline
4. Feel energized
5. You will have more time
6. You might start feeling happier
7. You might sleep better
8. You will have a proactive nature
9. Lower your level of stress
10. AND you rarely regret your outfit choice because you’re never rushing out the door

Always do your best

 

I always do my best and my best is always good enough.

When you set impossible goals that you have no real chance of achieving, you are setting yourself up for failure; when you promise to always do your best you are able to have much more realistic expectations of yourself. Your sense of self-worth will no longer be dependent on outcomes and you will feel good about who you are regardless of what you have or haven’t been able to achieve.

When you truly believe your best is good enough, you can accept that you are having a bad day, or feeling a bit ordinary, without this affecting the way you feel about yourself.

Accept your imperfections

 

Accept your imperfections.
I am perfectly imperfect.

 

There is no such thing as perfection and yet so many people exhaust themselves and erode their confidence in the pursuit of it. When you accept your imperfections, you acknowledge that, like everyone else, you have many positive qualities but that you also have other, less positive ones … and that’s okay.

Once you have released yourself from the burden of perfectionism, you are free to use your positive qualities to their fullest. You can also decide which of your less-than-ideal qualities you would like to invest your energy in improving and which qualities everyone else will need to accept as ‘part of the parcel’.

Feeling Good

 

Feeling good about who you are and the life you live should not depend on a specific outcome, yet all too often I hear people put themselves down or beat themselves up because they haven’t done this or got that. I am sometimes guilty of that. Your confidence should not be dependent on the goals you have achieved, nor should it be dependent on the feedback you get from others, your dress size or the amount in your bank account. But if your self-confidence isn’t based on what you’ve got or what you’ve done, how do you build and maintain it?

The answer is simple. Make the commitment to treat yourself with the same kindness you show the most important people in your life.

Build and maintain your confidence and self-belief. When you commit to that, your life will no longer be burdened with anxiety, doubt or insecurity and instead you will feel good about who you are and the life you live.

10 Ways to Improve Your Budget and Save More

 

Improving your budget and saving more may sound frightening and almost impossible but believe it or not, it can be done. You can start with something as simple as a spreadsheet or writing on a piece of paper - how much total income you take home each month as well as how much money goes out on bills and other expenses. By doing this, it may help you make cuts on unnecessary spending, etc.

1. Cancel memberships such like gym memberships if you don’t use it frequently.

2. Make a shopping list for groceries.

3. Track your spending.

4. Put saving up for your emergency funds a high priority.

5. Bring your own lunch to work.

6. Write down your financial goals and stick to the plan.

7. Never waste food.

8. Purchase store brand products.

9. Unplug electronics when not in use.

10. Stay away from credit card debts.