Sunday, May 21, 2023

Create The Life You Want

 


In the pursuit of happiness and fulfillment, one must take an active role in shaping their own destiny. Life presents us with possibilities and opportunities, and it is up to us to seize them and mold our lives according to our aspirations and desires.


Creating the life you want begins with a clear vision of what you truly desire. Define your goals, dreams, and values, and let them serve as a compass to guide your decisions and actions. Set specific, realistic targets that align with your vision, breaking them down into manageable steps. Remember, small consistent efforts can lead to significant long-term achievements.


Embrace personal growth and self-improvement as vital components of your journey. Invest in developing new skills, expanding your knowledge, and nurturing positive habits. Learn from failures and setbacks, using them as stepping stones towards success. Cultivate a growth mindset that sees challenges as opportunities for growth and resilience.


Surround yourself with a supportive network of like-minded individuals who share your aspirations and can provide guidance and encouragement along the way. Collaborate with others who can complement your strengths and offer different perspectives, fostering a rich and diverse environment for personal development.


Creating the life you want is not an effortless task, but it is an empowering one. It requires determination, perseverance, and the willingness to take risks. By taking charge of your life, setting meaningful goals, and embracing personal growth, you can shape a life of purpose, fulfillment, and true happiness. Remember, you have the power to create the life you want; go forth and make it a reality.


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Now let me share with you 7 simple steps in creating the life that you want.


Step 1:
Do a life audit first.

Find out where you stand in each of the eight areas of life to start.
- Health
- Self-care
- Personal development
- Career
- Finances
- Home life
- Relationships
- Free time

What alterations would have the most influence on your life?


Step 2:
Make a mental adjustment

Everything in your life is influenced by your mindset. We act on the basis of our beliefs and thoughts.


Whenever something bad occurs from now on, adjust your perspective. Consider what you can change or control rather than feeling like a victim.


Step 3:
Construct a vision

We have a distinct sense of purpose when we have a vision.

That implies that we are looking at far more than just sitting down, achieving short-term goals, and solving issues as they arise.

Passion and dreams fuel visions, which are then expressed via sincere efforts to produce noticeable results.

Step 4:
Daily self-improvement is important.

The fog begins to lift after you have your vision, and your road map starts to become more clear. But, no one will be driving the automobile for you.

To transform your life, you must put in the necessary effort. You achieve that by practicing consistently every day.

Over time, if you give the plants a tiny bit of water each day, your garden would always expand.

Step 5:
Create an environment where success will occur.

If you want to alter your life, you must change more than just yourself. Also, your surroundings must alter.

For instance, if you frequently associate with pessimistic friends, you can begin to accept the boundaries they're placing on you.

It is much more likely that you will succeed if you associate with other doers and others who share your ambition.

Step 6:
Improve your existing abilities while learning new ones

Nothing will transform your life more quickly than learning new skills.

Set aside time each day to develop your skills by watching videos, listening to podcasts, and reading books, but don't forget to put them into practice as well.

Step 7:
And finally, have fun with it.

The entire purpose of this activity is to change. That implies that your attitudes and actions will change throughout the course of the year.

The thing you were looking for may turn out to no longer be what you want.

Have fun and, most importantly, don't let the process consume your attention to the point where you lose sight of your goals.

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Good luck!

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Wednesday, May 10, 2023

Timeboxing vs To-Do Lists

 


It took me 42 years to realize that I needed to get rid of everyone who was toxic and unfavourable and who prevented me from being the finest version of myself. Life is too short to spend time with ignorant individuals. 


And you have no idea how significantly my life has improved.


Anyhow, a great buddy of mine sent me a link on to-do lists.


The article's heading read, "Former monk Jay Shetty says'most successful, productive people don't use to-do lists' — what he does instead."


I thought it was incredibly relatable, so I'd want to share my opinions and practical knowledge on timeboxing and to-do lists.


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Apparently Jay Shetty and I have a lot more in common than I'd like to think, but it's also possible that I've learnt a lot from listening to his podcasts. 


Anyway, let's get to the topic I wanted to cover. To start, let me say that I don't frequently use a to-do list. I might always claim to be going through my to-do lists, but I only do so because it is simpler to use that phrase than to define timeboxing.


Timeboxing, as defined by Jay Shetty, is the process of converting your to-do list into a calendar and assigning each activity a specific amount of time. You then decide what to accomplish and when to do it, ignoring all other distractions within the allotted amount of time for that work. 


By assigning you a set amount of activities to finish each day, timeboxing gives you a finite number of tasks to complete per day unlike a to-do list. 


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This is how timeboxing functions in my opinion and why I believe it increases my productivity.

The five issues I discovered with my to-do list were a turning point in my life. First, they presented me with an excessive number of options. Second, I gravitate towards jobs that are easier to complete and are simpler by nature. Third, I rarely feel motivated to complete critical but non-urgent chores, such as scheduling time for learning. Fourth, to-do lists by themselves lack the crucial context of how much free time I have. Fifth, they don't have an accountability system to hold me accountable.

That was plenty for me, and I have since switched from my to-do list to this timeboxing calendar approach. And during the past few years, I've learned a few more advantages of timeboxing that I'd like to share.

First, scheduling timeboxes into a calendar allows for the relative arrangement of tasks. Working diligently and doing my absolute best isn't always necessary; instead, doing the right thing at the appropriate moment will result in greater results for everyone.

Second, it provides me with a detailed account of everything I've accomplished. 

Thirdly, I feel like I have greater control. Control is the main factor that determines my level of enjoyment at work, thus this is really essential to me. My happiness and productivity suffer as a result of frequent interruptions. Timeboxing is the ideal remedy for this. I plan what to accomplish and when to do it, eliminate all outside distractions for the specified period of time, and complete the task. Repeat. Consistent control and obvious success are incredibly pleasant and even addictive. This is about my intention and how I feel, not just about production.

Fourth, my productivity has increased significantly. The majority of us accept that there is some truth to the idea that work grows to fill the time allocated for its completion. In reality, we frequently spend longer than necessary on a task, affected more by the time that is actually available than by how long the task should actually take. Therefore, by setting a reasonable, limited time for a task and sticking to it, disciplined timeboxing for me frees me from the above. 

The advantages of timeboxing are numerous, diverse, and profound. This routine has enhanced my mood and my personal accomplishments. Given how much time it gives me to do other tasks, this may have been the most crucial ability or practice I have acquired as a modern professional. Additionally, it is easily applied and cost-free. 

Generally stated, timeboxing is a time management strategy in which you assign a specific amount of time to a specified activity. After the stipulated duration has passed, you stop working on the activity and evaluate whether your intended objectives have been met.

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How do you timebox, then?

Four steps make up the timeboxing time management method:

- Locate appropriate tasks
- Establish your goals
- Set a timer
- Work, and evaluate your progress

STEP 1
Locate appropriate tasks

In general, you can choose any task and assign it to a timebox, but it would be better if you did so for the following tasks:

Tasks that you don't want to spend a lot of time on and for which you lack motivation.

Typically, tasks that you know will need a lot of time and effort are the ones that you lack motivation to do. You delay endlessly since you are aware that you cannot complete these things quickly.

You can effectively reduce the difficulty of the assignment by breaking it up into smaller, more manageable pieces, each with their own deadlines and milestones. This leaves you with the simple chore of inspiring yourself to meet the next deadline or milestone, which is much more doable.

Most of the time, unpleasant but important jobs, like cleaning up your room or organizing your emails, are the ones you don't want to spend too much time on. Either you'll put off starting these tasks or you'll take an excessive amount of time.

You essentially limit the time you'll spend on such task from the outset by giving yourself a fixed deadline.

STEP 2
Establish your goals

Once you've chosen your projects, consider what you intend to accomplish with them and when.

When it comes to tasks you don't want to perform, you might make working on them during a timebox, a goal itself. For instance, make cleaning your room for 15 minutes your goal. By working on organizing your room for 15 minutes each day for a week, you'll probably discover that you've made significant progress without even breaking a sweat. You can even make this timebox an ongoing one.

STEP 3
Set a timer

This step is very similar to the second stage in the time blocking time management strategy. Once you've decided on the activity you'll tackle and the goals you want to achieve by doing it, it's time to devote a time period to this work.

Therefore, you choose when to begin working on the task and when to finish it. If the time limit allows, you may even note this time in your calendar to ensure that you don't get behind on your errands.

As was indicated in the first step, you'll likely timebox your most challenging tasks that you lack motivation to do; as a result, you'll need an ideal, condensed timebox to assist in making these tasks bearable.

The "Eat that Frog" time management method's creator, Brian Tracy, advises working on your most challenging tasks first thing in the morning. Therefore, you may simply set up a timebox in the morning for your most crucial, urgent, or simply unappealing work that you lack the motivation to complete.

STEP 4
Work, and evaluate your progress

The final step may be the simplest; you immediately begin working on your first scheduled task and move down your list of scheduled timeboxes.

Keep track of how much time you spend on each task to make sure you don't go over the allocated time:

Stop working as soon as the period of time specified has passed, and then evaluate your performance.

You are successfully timeboxing each time you complete your assignment inside the given time frame. All that is left to do is evaluate your progress each time.

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I'm not entirely against making a to-do list. 

What is the secret to completing tasks? It involves creating to-do lists and completing them. The most critical tasks are listed first, while the least significant tasks are listed last.

The oldest method of productivity is to make a list of the things you need to do, prioritize the list, and then complete the list. But what would be more effective? Timeboxing. 

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The debate between timeboxing and to-do lists is an important one when deciding how to get things done. You must comprehend your working style and optimal workflow if you want to know what suits you best. You can ultimately choose which is more significant to you. There are circumstances in which you could even combine the usage of timeboxing and to-do lists. 

To be frank? I timebox and keep a to-do list. That's how I operate.

Finding the best approach to employ or the one that is more effective is difficult. However, I think using both is a wonderful idea because they complement one another. You can make a list of your tasks, order them by importance, and determine how long it will take you to finish each one. Then, create up timeboxes with projected completion times for each of those jobs.

Therefore, you need to be aware of the tasks if you want to know the implementation time for both. Both are suitable options, depending on your work standards.

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Whatever you choose to do, never forget one crucial point...

Take regular breaks.

Humans can operate most effectively for only 35 to 45 minutes on average. Therefore, it's essential to continuously take breaks if you want to maintain your energy and productivity. Regular breaks allows you to advance more quickly than those who take few or no breaks.

Surprised? I'm sure you are!

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With my always busy schedule, which requires excellent organisational abilities, and after all these years as a modern professional, I have come to understand the few benefits and drawbacks of timeboxing and using to-do lists.

Let's start by discussing the benefits and drawbacks of timeboxing.

The advantages of timeboxing includes:
- Ease of performance
- Ease of time management
- More possibilities for evaluation
- Less anxiety

The disadvantages? Well, I only discovered one drawback:
- Finding consistent time in the calendar to complete tasks

What are a to-do list's benefits and drawbacks now?

The advantages of a to-do list includes:
- Ease of implementation
- Prioritization of important tasks
- A simple sense of satisfaction

What is the disadvantage of a to-do list?
- If the list becomes too lengthy, it may cause stress

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In conclusion, the next step for you is to decide whether timeboxing, to-do lists, or both are good for you. However, feel free to experiment to discover what works for you. I would advise utilizing both because they complement one another quite nicely.

"So box some time to implement a version of this, that works for you."

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Saturday, May 6, 2023

It’s been 2 weeks and…

It’s been two weeks since I got pickpocketed at East Coast Beach and I still have not been able to bring myself to head back there even if it’s always been my Happy Place. Not sure if I can still call it my Happy Place as I somehow cringe at the thought of going back there. Still filled with questions like when and how did it all take place and why was I that careless? Of course, I shouldn’t let that one bad experience take away my joy of being at my happy place but it’s tough.

 

I know in time to come, I will get over it and be able to head back again and if not, I always have Changi Beach.

 

But I should take a few other things into consideration before allowing this one bad experience to ruin it for it. I should be thankful that it could have been worse and I could have gotten hurt in the process but I did not. Also I should keep in mind that it happened during a public holiday when the beach was packed with locals as well as foreigners so if I were to head back to East Coast Beach, I could just avoid the crowded times.

 

Karma isn’t blind. It will go after those who did this not only to me but I am sure many others at the beach that day.

 

I still cannot figure if I was that careless which I know I am not and I am always paranoid and careful, or are these thieves really that good?

 

How could they open the zips to my haversack bag without me even noticing? And to take my wallet which I carefully placed at the back of the bag so when I had it on, and if anything should fall out, it would be everything else but my wallet. How quick were they to get this done as I walked, and I walk rather quickly.

 

So after two weeks of really breaking my head to think the whole scenario through, I may have come up with a few conclusions of my own.

 

These people work in groups. They probably followed me from the Lagoon where I was buying dinner for my granny, and they watched me carefully back the food and my wallet into my haversack bag. They knew exactly where I had placed it. Then followed me for a good while and even though I brisk walked, there were a few times I had to slow down because of crossed areas and people being in my path. Those could have been the times they got to reach into my bag. Who knows? Those groups of people in my path that slowed me down could even have been from their group?

 

It must have happened not too long before I realized something was aloof and that my haversack felt weird. I stopped to check and there it was, wide opened, food I bought for granny was still inside but my wallet gone. I knew for a fact that someone had robbed me because there was no way that even if the zip on my bag unzipped itself that my wallet would fall out and not the food. I knew that for a fact because of the way I had placed the items.

 

I stood still for a few minutes, totally in shock. I finally called my mum to let her know what had just happened and to have Ed call me. We got all our cards cancelled and blocked. I continued on to Granny’s to give her the dinner I bought for her. Told her what happened which I should not have because she felt bad and felt like it was her fault that it happened. She felt if I did not bring her dinner, this would not have happened.

 

Assured her it was alright and it is not her fault. I wanted to do this for her.

 

The plan was to walk back home after I see granny but after what happened, I just wasn’t feeling it. So I took a bus home. After which, Ed accompanied me over to the police station to file a report.

 

Of course I did not have to because it wasn’t a lot of money that I lost and credit cards were cancelled. Thankfully I had my ID in my phone so I didn’t have to report that. But I made the police report because I was hoping this would get the police to look into the matter and prevent it from happening to someone else.

 

However, the police did not seem to be concerned and instead made me regret my decision for having made the report because he made me feel more stupid. He tried to tell me I may not have zipped my bag or it unzipped itself. He made it clear he could not see how my wallet could have been taken and it may have fallen out instead. I know me. I know how I packed my bag. I know my paranoia. And I know that even if anything were to have fallen out, it would not have been my wallet because of the way I packed it.

 

So that was that.

 

What I am more upset about is the fact I am so disappointed with my fellow Singaporeans.

 

I am pretty sure in the middle of that crowded beach, lots would have seen me walking with a haversack on my back that was wide opened and no one seem to think anything out of the ordinary about it, enough to approach me and say, “Excuse me but did you know your bag is open?” I know I would have said something like that to someone if I saw their bag was wide opened like that which would be strange. In fact, that was exactly what I did a couple days ago at the train station to a guy who had his bag half opened.

 

Learned two lessons from this.

 

Firstly, ‘low crime doesn’t mean no crime’.

 

Singapore has a reputation for being a safe, peaceful, and orderly city. While violent crime, and crimes against persons are rare occurrences, fraud and scams, and theft are on the rise. We should not be complacent and take to heat the campaign slogan.

 

And the second lesson learned is… never depend on anyone else but yourself. In time of trouble, you better be able to defend yourself and help yourself because apparently Singaporeans WILL NOT help you. While there are still some good people in this country, majority are simply all for themselves or in time of trouble, they would much rather take out their phones and film, rather than help.

 

I still am feeling ‘shitty’ about this whole thing because honestly, as much as many have told me, “well at least they did not hurt you…” … I on the other hand would have much preferred to have at least put up a fight with this coward!

 

I feel violated.

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