I'd like to take this opportunity to wish my hubs a very Happy
14th Wedding Anniversary. Hard to imagine we've been married for so long yet
our love remains strong. We've been through ups and downs and with each situation,
we come out stronger than ever.
You really wouldn't believe it if I told you we met online. Yes
it's true and yes I'm one of the lucky ones.
Nevertheless, the 14th wedding anniversary is usually called the
ivory anniversary. The name come from the fact that ivory was traditionally
presented to the wife or husband as a gift on their 14th anniversary of their
wedding. In modern times, gold has replaced the use of Ivory as a gift. Good
thing gold has replaced ivory because I wouldn't know where to get an elephant
tusk! Ha.
I've learned a lot about marriage in the past 14 years and
here's just some of what I've learned....
1. That we must forgive each other of we are going to have peace
and joy in our marriage. Someone once told need that “A good marriage is
made up of two good forgivers.”
2. Fighting is normal although I must admit it sure doesn’t feel
normal when it’s happening. It’s miserable to fight with the one you love
most.
3. There is no other relationship on this planet that has
challenged me more to the core, as marriage. It has shown me many of my
weaknesses and short comings and has taught me to overcome them.
4. It has taught me to do the harder things as it’s easier to
criticize and nag than it is encourage and build up.
5. We reap what we sow in marriage. I can see clearly – the
grass IS NOT greener. When my grass looks brown – and someone else’s
looks greener – I simply need to water my grass everyday till it’s green
again!
6. I’m not really that great to be married to. I’d like
to think I’m the bomb diggity and my hubby lucked out in scoring a wife like me
to be married to (*wink*) - but to be honest I have blind spots…things I don’t
see that he very clearly does see and those things are annoying.
7. My husband doesn’t always show his love by his words or
affection but often it’s through his faithfulness and his provision for the
family.
8. Marriage is hard work and can be a bumpy road at times.
But if I hang on tight to the hand of my husband – I’ll have the best
ride of my life!
So before I go on, I would like to say this to my
hubby....
Dear Hubs,
Happy Anniversary! Thank you for your faithfulness and
unconditional love through all the highs and lows. Thank you for giving me your
heart, your leadership, two beautiful children and a home to care for. I love
you more everyday and can’t wait to spend the rest of my life with you!!!
One by one each year flew by, since we said 'I do'. Fourteen
years of memories, shared by the two of us. From big events and holidays, to
simple daily pleasures. Some tearful times along life’s way, some joys that
can't be measured. One by one each year now gone, but still it's ours, forever
each and every memory, of sixteen years in total together!
Fourteen years ago, we joined as one, and worked together to
make living fun. We are partners in life in both work and play. With everything
we had done, between through and accomplished in these fourteen years, we could
be role models for anyone and everyone who believes in eternal love, for those
who trust that there really is a 'one and only.' We could be role models for
the benefits of a happy marriage through unconditional love, showing that two
are better than one, that it is better to be a team in facing life's
challenges, for commitment, for caring, for unselfish devotion.
I don't pretend to know what love is for everyone, but I can
tell you what it is for me; love is knowing all about someone, and still
wanting to be with them more than any other person, love is trusting them
enough to tell them everything about yourself, including the things you might
be ashamed of, love is feeling comfortable and safe with someone, but still
getting weak knees when they walk into a room and smile at you. And there is no
feeling more comforting and consoling than knowing I am right next to the one I
love.
Knowing you will be with me in all my tomorrows, makes
my today so wonderful. It doesn't matter where I go in life, what I
do ..... it's who I have beside me... YOU side by side - year by year. True love
stories never end.
Our wedding was fourteen years ago. The celebration continues to
this day. The celebration of love, trust, partnership and tolerance.
It's so great to find that one special person you want to annoy
for the rest of your life. *GRIN*
I love you Edward Palmer.
Thank you for all those wonderful years and the wonderful
memories you have given me.
Happy Wedding anniversary!
Your wife,
Debra Palmer
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And "our song" fits our story so perfectly. - Savage Garden's "I Knew I Loved You Before I Met You"
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Nevertheless, what did we do today or what did we get for each
other?
The question really is what do we really want to do and what do
we want? We've been together 16 years...We've done everything together
and we've got every thing our hearts desire. What more could we ask for?
Since my mum is still not on talking terms with me, we decided
to sneak away from the office early this afternoon and met up at Orchard. First
we headed to Dunkin Donuts to get Eddie two bags of coffee. Yes that was what
he wanted for our anniversary.
After that we made our way to Paya Lebar and walked over to City
Plaza. Instead of a fancy dinner, we decided we’d eat something we really like
and have been dying to try. We headed to Arnold’s Chicken!
When that was done, my dear hubby walked me over to Haig Road
and by then, we had halfway digested the chicken we just had and so I had some
room for my favourite Putu Piring.
It was back to Bedok after that but it wasn’t the end to our
date. We walked around Bedok Mall for a while and enjoyed our time alone
together. While we were there, Ed bought me the nail polish I had been dying
for…the mirror finish!
Oh did I mention I was feeling mighty sentimental today so I
wore my diamond engagement ring?
Back home, we spent time with the kids and my lovely daughter
Lani made us a Nutella cake.
I feel like the luckiest person in the whole wide world!
